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Rough_Rock
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This is my first time posting, so I apologize if this is the wrong thread or place to ask and for the terrible formatting!
Ladies with multiple engagement style rings, were they all gifts from your husband? If they were or weren't, what are your thoughts on getting a ring commissioned for yourself?
My husband is pretty traditional and doesn't fully understand my love of rings and having a couple of different styles. We've spoken in the past about at some point upgrading, but we're also both sentimental about what I already have and he's never shown much interest in heading down that path. I started working with a designer on a reset and have instead switched to a new centre stone to preserve my original ring as it felt like too much of a leap for both of us to overhaul the design so much.
So my question is, is it strange to commission an expensive ring purely for yourself? I'd most likely be often wearing it in place of my engagement ring. I've changed so much as a person since we got married and want something that feels like who I am now vs reminds me of who I was at a more challenging point in my life. Obviously I'd love for my husband to be more involved in this, but he's in the boat of I should do what makes me happy but has no interest of his own in discussing ring designs endlessly and feels that he's done his part by getting me a ring and nothing else will have the same sentiment to him. He's said that he won't know how he feels about this new ring until he sees it on.
Would it be terrible to do this on my own for me or is that selfish? I still obviously want it to have sentiment and meaning for me, which it would, but it slightly saddens me that he won't be involved. At this point, I haven't worn my platinum engagement ring in about 2 years and just wear a plain gold band and a diamond eternity on my ring finger instead.The plan would be to get my original engagement ring reset into gold in an identical setting so that I can still wear it far more often (mixing metals isn't my thing) and honor what he chose for me, but to have a chunky gypsy set ring that I've designed for myself as my everyday substitute and also wear as a right hand ring.
I feel so torn and couldn't think of a better group of people to ask!
Ladies with multiple engagement style rings, were they all gifts from your husband? If they were or weren't, what are your thoughts on getting a ring commissioned for yourself?
My husband is pretty traditional and doesn't fully understand my love of rings and having a couple of different styles. We've spoken in the past about at some point upgrading, but we're also both sentimental about what I already have and he's never shown much interest in heading down that path. I started working with a designer on a reset and have instead switched to a new centre stone to preserve my original ring as it felt like too much of a leap for both of us to overhaul the design so much.
So my question is, is it strange to commission an expensive ring purely for yourself? I'd most likely be often wearing it in place of my engagement ring. I've changed so much as a person since we got married and want something that feels like who I am now vs reminds me of who I was at a more challenging point in my life. Obviously I'd love for my husband to be more involved in this, but he's in the boat of I should do what makes me happy but has no interest of his own in discussing ring designs endlessly and feels that he's done his part by getting me a ring and nothing else will have the same sentiment to him. He's said that he won't know how he feels about this new ring until he sees it on.
Would it be terrible to do this on my own for me or is that selfish? I still obviously want it to have sentiment and meaning for me, which it would, but it slightly saddens me that he won't be involved. At this point, I haven't worn my platinum engagement ring in about 2 years and just wear a plain gold band and a diamond eternity on my ring finger instead.The plan would be to get my original engagement ring reset into gold in an identical setting so that I can still wear it far more often (mixing metals isn't my thing) and honor what he chose for me, but to have a chunky gypsy set ring that I've designed for myself as my everyday substitute and also wear as a right hand ring.
I feel so torn and couldn't think of a better group of people to ask!
On one hand it is lovely to be treated to a piece of jewellery from my DH like my engagement ring. But romantic as he is he admits he is pretty clueless as to what to get. (Think very confused looking man shopping for lingerie 
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