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I was wondering if an oval would work. My first solitaire was a 1/2ct oval and people always commented on how big it looked since it was an elongated stone.
Just a thought.
Thanks, I’m getting so confused lol.Everyone, please listen to op before posting. He doesn't want a simple solitaire, and is likely sticking to preloved. He gave his top choices. Let's comment on those rather than overwhelming him with more options that don't fit what he wants.
Its not so much that it has to be name brand but if it was a pre owned ring name recognition might alleviate some craziness honestly I don't care what they think but unfortunately my gf does despite them constantly putting her down.
I am thinking of possibly having a sit down and being up front with my gf.
OK, so solitaire is out. Would you give thought to purchasing a stone from BN, a setting off ebay and have a local jeweler set it? If so, i have some setting suggestions, all that will fit around a .4ct stone and will proivide some bling and finger coverage, ranging from $145-$225.
OP needs it be Aug 15th as per his previous post. Would it be ready in time?
I know you have way too many options at the moment, but I'm throwing this one out there. Pictures are blurry and not a lot of info but the price is great.
https://www.ebay.com/itm/18ct-white-gold-halo-dimond-ring-50-points-last-Redution/273379725789?ssPageName=STRK:MEBIDX:IT&_trksid=p2060353.m1438.l2649
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Happy, I totally agree. But we have to consider his issue with the family. And that not everyone is a pser who wants a great stone. Most people who are not psers look at the overall ring and setting. We are a special breed. I think he came here to look for good deal on a new ring that shows his intended that he went all out. A preloved ring will not do that for her if she doesn’t know about it. It will never do it for his family. My Mexican family neices are so happy with their cluster rings from the mall and have no appreciation for my ring. I used to be like her in my younger years. My first marriage was all about the setting And place where he got it. I even ignored his sister’s good advice Bc she told us to do the preloved! She was not Mexican. Lol. God bless her. Wish I would have listened. But I didn’t know any better and I was letting my family’s values influence me. But at the time, I was ecstatic with my ring. Only felt regret after ps. When the marriage was over. LolA LOT of diamonds have a history and have been on someone else's finger at some point, then traded in/up. I don't see anything wrong with getting a great deal on a preloved ring with a center stone, and moving it into a brand new, affordable setting. (and I'm not saying this because of the ring I told you my GF is selling)
He needs it by Aug 15 right? It would be tight but if the seller ships right away it should be able to make it. Might be too stressful to risk though.This will not arrive in the OPs preferred time frame.
Ditto @nala. Unless his intended is fully on board with pre-loved, I would not pursue that route.
I have many friends who would never entertain the idea of preloved engagement ring for various reasons. My own initial ring was a preloved heirloom and my own parents were very sceptical, so it can really be a cultural thing as well.
OP, why don’t you consider proposing without a ring and selecting one with your SO and maybe announcing it to the family afterwards? That way you can still have the mountain top experience without the need to get something on a super tight deadline and rush such an important decision.
I’m starting to agree with this.at this point I'd just suggest Robbins Bros, lol! It seems to tick all the boxes:
(never thought I'd say that)
- layaway/financing
- name brand
- lots of options (The one in Torrance is HUGE)
- quick turnaround
I know that this is a diamond forum, but when my fiancé and I first started looking at diamonds, we had a much smaller budget and even had to work with @Wink with HPD to finally get the diamond we both loved and could eventually afford. We even had to pay for the custom setting in installments (pretty much a layaway) so that it wouldn’t eat up all of our credit. Not everyone can afford that gorgeous 3.5ct, D, FL and that is why this forum is considerate of peoples’ budgets.
I’ve read through some wonderful options, and considering your immediate financial situation and desire to propose in a few weeks, I just want to provide another alternative, which I’m sure won’t be to everyone’s liking, but something I seriously considered so that we wouldn’t go into debt and because my fiancé is Mexican, too (not meant to stereotype or offend).
We went back and forth for some time on whether to prioritize the setting or the diamond, meaning, where would most of our limited funds go. At some point, I was seriously considering getting a setting I’d love and matching it with a diamond simulant roughly the same size as the diamond I would eventually replace it with. And I knew that his family wouldn’t ask if it’s a diamond as long as it wasn’t overly humongous. Nor would they inquire on any of the other 4Cs, besides ct, which I wouldn’t need to lie about since all cut stones have a weight. And when we’d be able to save enough, I’d replace the simulant with the real deal and put the simulant into a plain solitaire as an everyday ring and to also commemorate the actual proposal without feeling bad about eventually upgrading the diamond (20 years later). In all honesty, I’m still considering a simulant as an everyday ring so that I don’t nick my ering with my various activities.