Imdanny
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smokey99|1316991520|3025398 said:decodelighted|1316969247|3025110 said:That's the best sounding LEMON I've ever heard of. Over-dramatic much?
Sorry, but my thoughts exactly as well.
Engagement rings are a very dramatic subject. I personally wish we could drop this tradition of the man choosing the ring and surprising the potential finance with the choice. Yes, it's a tradition. It's "traditional". But it's hit or miss. I don't know anyone, man or woman, who truly doesn't want to pick out their own jewelry. It's an extremely personal choice, and even the slightest details about... an endless amount of aspects of it- choice of metal, design, style, quality, this choice, that choice, this "compromise", that "compromise", this or that area of it being a matter of no "compromise", of your personal taste, style, and vision, for something *you* are going to wear, and for the rest of your life (or until you get an upgrade, and some people don't believe in upgrades, I mean the list of things a man and woman might disagree about is endless) and it doesn't matter to me personally whether it is a tradition for the man to choose it (and I guess the woman is supposed to be satisfied, according to certain posts I've read in other threads, or she is somehow selfish, entitled, or some such, I think that's a totally unfair assessment) because I think it works when the person wearing the piece of jewelry is in love with it. Some men know how to choose jewels women will love. That's great. However, to think or act as if every man can do this for every woman, and that women should just "deal" with it if they don't like it. I think a man should get a woman an engagement ring they both "agree" on- that's fine- but if a woman doesn't love her engagement ring, I just don't think a woman having a piece of jewelry, an engagement ring or wedding band, especially, she doesn't like is a good thing.