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KingKuda said:
Didn't I just consider exactly that?
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Not quite and because there is a height at the base of the head to factor in where it V’s together.

Let me do more math to see if I can explain this better... my stone is 5.79 deep, the total setting with the head is 8.73, my wedding band is 2. Does that help? There is not gap at my bottom. The reason why it looks like the head cannot be lowered is the cathedral angles too far up, the angle is too steep. The designer should have made a less steep cathedral and then the diamond would fit perfectly snug. This is no different than any other head setting only that the frame outside is a cathedral.

Some people like air gaps,but to me, that is not a custom look. Just my honest opinion.
 
But I do agree with others to leave it alone. Your question was is it too high and I answered that.

Your fiancé may love it. Don’t mess with it for sure but you should talk to her about it within this return/re-make window.
 
Hi Kuda,
I think it is elegant as is. It is closer to a medium height which will stack well. I would definitely leave it as is unless she has to wear gloves at work.....!
I bet she will love it!
 
Did the jeweler say it was a stock setting and or custom? That may help too as you consider dropping it. Custom would frame it perfect but if you did not pay for custom, then it will cost you more. Trade offs of course. See how she likes it.

Oops... sorry, forgot you said it was custom. That is good because if she doesn’t like it, you can have it remade as you paid for a fully custom ring, not a stock setting and he just popped in a head that best fit the stone
 
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One more vote to not change a thing. I like low settings also but the ring is beautifully proportioned and you can't get much lower. There isn't enough potential benefit imho to warrant remaking the ring.

If after wearing it for some time she finds it isn't practical for some reason, you could reassess.
 
bludiva said:
There isn't enough potential benefit imho to warrant remaking the ring.
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I am starting to thing the same, the maximum I'd be able to get it with the wedding band sitting flush is 1mm more.

I think it looks worse because the lower part of the ring, under the cutlet is only very thin. If it was 2mm at that point as well like the rest of the ring it would obviously make the gap look lower which is why I think it looks better with a wedding band on.
 
KingKuda said:
I am starting to thing the same, the maximum I'd be able to get it with the wedding band sitting flush is 1mm more.

I think it looks worse because the lower part of the ring, under the cutlet is only very thin. If it was 2mm at that point as well like the rest of the ring it would obviously make the gap look lower which is why I think it looks better with a wedding band on.
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Yep. I think you just have to let her wear it and see...people have different reasons for wanting low-set rings and if hers is mainly that she doesn't like the look of a high set stone, this ring doesn't have that look imho. It is simple and elegant and not too tall but still has good presence. I think it's a job well done on your part and waiting to hear back in 3 months on how it went! :mrgreen2:
 
icy_jade said:
Also read this thread... depending on the wedding band design, going lower may cause problems down the road...

https://www.pricescope.com/communit...ty-band-is-eating-my-solitaire-prongs.241176/
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While reading this thread, this exact scenario was all that kept repeating in my head.
Honesty:
Leave it alone. Propose. Go have her try on wedding bands with the ring on to determine if it’s WISE to drop the stone. You DO NOT want diamonds rubbing metal. If the center diamond is set TOO low, with little to no clearance space for the wedding band, her rings will get destroyed.
The ring you made is beautiful, and looks perfect, just the way it is. “Air Space” is also convenient, when cleaning it. She may be thankful for the little extra you gave her so she can keep that ring well maintained, and that center pear sparkling like new!
Wait until AFTER you propose. Take her to try on wedding rings to confirm whether or not the stone should be dropped, and have that comversation with her. It’s her ring. She has to wear it. Let HER decide.
 
bludiva said:
people have different reasons for wanting low-set rings and if hers is mainly that she doesn't like the look of a high set stone, this ring doesn't have that look imho
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That is honestly such good advice, thank you. She doesn't need a low set ring for any particular reason other than that she likes it better and isn't a flashy girl. She likes the cathedral setting and flush bands so I could only set it as low as Iow as that setting will allow.
 
Matthews1127 said:
While reading this thread, this exact scenario was all that kept repeating in my head.
Honesty:
Leave it alone. Propose. Go have her try on wedding bands with the ring on to determine if it’s WISE to drop the stone. You DO NOT want diamonds rubbing metal. If the center diamond is set TOO low, with little to no clearance space for the wedding band, her rings will get destroyed.
The ring you made is beautiful, and looks perfect, just the way it is. “Air Space” is also convenient, when cleaning it. She may be thankful for the little extra you gave her so she can keep that ring well maintained, and that center pear sparkling like new!
Wait until AFTER you propose. Take her to try on wedding rings to confirm whether or not the stone should be dropped, and have that comversation with her. It’s her ring. She has to wear it. Let HER decide.
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Exactly! :clap:
 
Hi @KingKuda, just wanted to add some photos that might help. My Brenna ring is 7mm high off the hand. I personally like the height with this particular cathedral styling. Attached are photos of it with a couple of bands. IMO the height and proportion are perfect. I feel the same about your ring!
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As you can see here, there is the same space between the bottom of the diamond and the shank, but personally I think it looks cool to see the pavilion of the stone!
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Yeah, I think low settings are fine if they wont be worn stacked with other rings but if they will then it starts getting slightly dangerous. The ring looks good. Even if she wants to change the setting later it’s fine and not a biggie. Don’t be so hard on yourself...
 
Starfacet said:
Hi @KingKuda, just wanted to add some photos that might help. My Brenna ring is 7mm high off the hand. I personally like the height with this particular cathedral styling. Attached are photos of it with a couple of bands. IMO the height and proportion are perfect. I feel the same about your ring!
Brennan SideStack1.jpg
As you can see here, there is the same space between the bottom of the diamond and the shank, but personally I think it looks cool to see the pavilion of the stone!
Your ring is absolutely stunning and actually looks relatively low with the wedding band next to it. Seeing that has honestly made me feel 1,000 times better..
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That's great! Glad I could help! I think you did an amazing job on the ring!
 
That's a beautiful ring! Well done. I am also team "leave it alone". Lowering it could be borrowing trouble. My first ring was a cathedral and it was too low. Diamond rubbed metal and I found myself stressing over frequent adjustments & repairs. It broke my sentimental heart that I couldn't confidently wear "the" ring that my husband had given me, and it's taken me 7 years to come around to commissioning an entirely new setting. It's easy to look at custom jewelry and wonder if there is something that could be changed, when in reality it's pretty much perfect as-is. Enjoy it, admire it, be proud of it, and I bet she will, too!
 
I think this is the perfect height, and not high. Some rings - especially from previous decades - were set much higher than this, and I suspect that is what your girlfriend wants to avoid.

A setting needs to be at least as high as the depth of the stone, and the culet (point) of the diamond needs to sit above the band. Yours is doing that and not much more. it also seems to be a good sized diamond, and height has to be proportionate to size.

I'd leave it alone. It's a VERY elegant setting and a beautiful melding with the diamond. I'll bet she loves it.
 
It's absolutely beautiful. And it sounds as if you put a lot of thought in to designing the ring to be what your fiancé wants. It may be that when she said 'low profile', she was indicating an aversion to something set waaaay up high. Your ring is not---it is proportionally perfect. You may be beating yourself up over semantics!
I would propose with this ring, and then try on bands and see if your fiancé thinks she would like it lower. This is a critical part of the every day wear of her ring--how it works with the wedding band she envisions.
All the points raised here are valid.
I think it is very sweet that you are so concerned with pleasing her. But I would advise against spending time and $$ on a re-set before letting her give her opinion. She is a lucky girl--you obviously want her to be thrilled with the ring.
 
Elizabeth35 said:
I think it is very sweet that you are so concerned with pleasing her. But I would advise against spending time and $$ on a re-set before letting her give her opinion. She is a lucky girl--you obviously want her to be thrilled with the ring.
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This is basically it, I get scared everytime I start to think that this is the one thing I'll give her that could last forever. I spent 6 months designing and had countless consultations to get to this position, then saw it and went ehhh maybe its a tad too high.
 
It turned out beauty! I say leave it.

Didn't your jeweler also tell you he wouldn't set it lower? So what would you do? Get a new jeweler?

Propose first and if she wants it set lower or new ring, worry about it then.

Right now you should be planning that proposal ;)
 
ringo865 said:
It turned out beauty! I say leave it.

Didn't your jeweler also tell you he wouldn't set it lower? So what would you do? Get a new jeweler?

Propose first and if she wants it set lower or new ring, worry about it then.

Right now you should be planning that proposal ;-)
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Thanks for that =)2

In all honesty, over the past 24 hours I've began to grow used to it. I think the initial shock was what got me, but the actual height is 6.8mm which for a 4mm deep diamond really isn't that excessive.

As I said above, I think half the issue with picking the ring is that the detail behind the design is something that no one really notices until they own one. My GF loves pear and ovals, but she has never even looked into settings, etc. It's the same with me, I always just look straight at the diamond, so never paid attention to the finer details.
 
Its a beautiful ring, and not high at all. (Im buases though, i just saw a three teired ring this weekend with the center set atleast 1.5 cm high....)
 
I wouldnt change it, I think its beautiful and I'm sure she will love what you picked for her :) I'm not an expert though. If you kept it as is she could decide if she wanted it lowered or not after she wears it maybe?

Good luck :)
 
I vote for leaving it as is. It’s a beautiful ring and the height looks perfect. Too low starts looking “squatty” in my opinion.
 
I just wanted to jump in to show you a similar but different setting I've designed for my e-ring. I also have a pear stone with cathedral sides but with a halo.
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The main difference I wanted to point out is the lower height of my ring is only achieved because mine doesnt have the bridge under the stone, its open. And even then mine is only 1.5mm shorter than yours. However, mine won't allow a straight wedding band to sit flush. It will have to be a curved band. So I don't think yours is too high. Your setting is beautiful and I think once you add the band it won't seem so high up.
Just my two cents from a newbie. Congrats on your engagement; you've designed a beautiful ring.
 
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