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Jumpin_Jacks|1422056338|3821121 said:You guys are so cute and your ring is lovely. We got engaged around the same time too, late October 2013
People have raised a lot of good point, things to ask yourself first such as will you get DSS again, taking a step back, etc. But do what makes you happy given you both are ok with the increased cost, and it's awesome you both have an open enough relationship to really talk about it.
For me personally, I chose a well cut .77 and we didn't break the bank by any means. I probably have the smallest stone out of my group of friends. Some days I get DSS and wish perhaps I would've gotten bigger and honestly if I did say something to my fiance, he'd be open to talking about it. But for me, although we have 20% down sitting in the bank, single family homes in Orange County, CA are $600k+ for fixer uppers or $700k+ with Mello-Roos and HOA, so I've made peace with my ring. We now have a wedding to pay for and can save the money vs a 1+ ct stone for a honeymoon. We won't be in debt by any means with the wedding and down payment, but it's a personal choice only YOU and your fiance can answer.
Best of luck! By chance do you have anymore hand shots of your ring?
ame|1422049539|3821054 said:Valid points, Kobi. Will you be satisfied with the upgrade this one time...will you be wanting another later? You have to ask yourself that. It's not a matter of will your fiance/husband be onboard, it's will YOU be satisfied with it when you upgrade this time. There's nothing wrong with a later upgrade, but don't start a chain of dissatisfaction that you can't maintain in life.
msop04|1422050296|3821060 said:Oooohhhh, KobiD... bless your heart.![]()
People upgrade all the time -- this is Pricescope, after all. Please don't take offense when I say that responses such as yours reminds me of that other forum where all the women "buzz" around talking about how you must be ungrateful and materialistic if you want something different...
This is a diamond forum... we love diamonds! First world problems are the name of the game -- diamonds are a luxury item, after all. You don't need diamonds... and you don't have to be "filling a void" to want them.
Besides, she's already said finances are a non-issue, her FI is on board, so actually... the decision is now hers, and hers alone.
Why should OP be "inclined to love the ring"?? She's already made it clear her FI is totally good with it. Why should she have another ring made when the change she's wanting is for her ering?? I can only speak for myself, but if I wanted a different/larger/smaller/etc ering, a RHR wouldn't do a thing to change that... at all.What would a new diamond achieve? Well, if she wanted one, it may scratch the DSS itch she's having.
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KobiD|1422058352|3821136 said:ame|1422049539|3821054 said:Valid points, Kobi. Will you be satisfied with the upgrade this one time...will you be wanting another later? You have to ask yourself that. It's not a matter of will your fiance/husband be onboard, it's will YOU be satisfied with it when you upgrade this time. There's nothing wrong with a later upgrade, but don't start a chain of dissatisfaction that you can't maintain in life.
Thansk Ame. Thats where I was going with my posts.
msop04|1422050296|3821060 said:Oooohhhh, KobiD... bless your heart.![]()
People upgrade all the time -- this is Pricescope, after all. Please don't take offense when I say that responses such as yours reminds me of that other forum where all the women "buzz" around talking about how you must be ungrateful and materialistic if you want something different...
This is a diamond forum... we love diamonds! First world problems are the name of the game -- diamonds are a luxury item, after all. You don't need diamonds... and you don't have to be "filling a void" to want them.
Besides, she's already said finances are a non-issue, her FI is on board, so actually... the decision is now hers, and hers alone.
Why should OP be "inclined to love the ring"?? She's already made it clear her FI is totally good with it. Why should she have another ring made when the change she's wanting is for her ering?? I can only speak for myself, but if I wanted a different/larger/smaller/etc ering, a RHR wouldn't do a thing to change that... at all.What would a new diamond achieve? Well, if she wanted one, it may scratch the DSS itch she's having.
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Look at it this way.. Relationships are a luxury item as well. Not everyone gets one, and many get bad deals. To me, its like saying "My partner of x years who I have loved for ever just proposed in the most romantic way! It was everything I imaged it would be, and the ring was perfect!" ..then 3 months later after speaking with a couple 'new men' questioning if the man you are with is the one you really want, or if there are better deals to be had elsewhere.
After writing that, maybe this is how some people work? I don't know. I'm not in anyway implying that this is the case with the OP.
A relationship is built around love, not material items. A material item given with love is a token. Feeling dissatisfied with the token, could easily lead to dissatisfaction with the relationship, which impacts on the love. Learning to accept and love things for what they are probably doesn't fit in well with the PS mentality, but it does form a basis for a happy life. I guess thats what the others are trying to say with their "don't get caught up in PS" comments.
arkieb1 said:Why do you even need to say this stuff in someone else's post? Are you really getting something out of it?
arkieb1|1422024891|3820857 said:I think you are a gorgeous couple and congrats on your engagement. I agree with the other posters that you might consider round brilliants next time around because they face up larger and will give you more bang for your buck so to speak..... If you are both on board with buying a new ring and can afford it, buy a new ring. Life is short - enjoy it.
akoya|1422076887|3821273 said:arkieb1|1422024891|3820857 said:I think you are a gorgeous couple and congrats on your engagement. I agree with the other posters that you might consider round brilliants next time around because they face up larger and will give you more bang for your buck so to speak..... If you are both on board with buying a new ring and can afford it, buy a new ring. Life is short - enjoy it.
Yea, but to give back to society too if possible
hope everyone help with some donations or to help needy, one way or another. so many rich people here. it will be good to give back to the society at times. for those doing it, well done!![]()
how good it will be if every purchases, trade in esp big ticket ones, comes with an encouraging voluntary clause- to pay back to society (not that $$$ flowing back to the economy lol) but to give to the needy. time or $.
someone said its not materialistic. of course it is materialistic. if its not, what is? Love? can a stone buy love?![]()
we are all materialistic. all after materialistic gains which is kind of sad in a way lol. otherwise we will not be here discussing abt diamonds. hope i will end this materialistic chase after i am done with my purchases![]()
Calliecake|1422073359|3821254 said:My husband always says he could careless if I change the ring, as long as I don't change the husband.
dk168|1422092671|3821302 said:Late to the party, and I have not read all the posts, certainly not the ones relating to a bun fight!![]()
My own experiences in life taught me to be grateful with what I have, and make the most of them within my own means.
PS is one of my favourite waste of time, and I love to ogle at everyone's pride and joy. Yes I would love to have a lot more jewellery and bigger diamonds, however, I am not going to spend beyond my means. I do not feel the need to keep up with the Jones by getting the latest must haves, or to upgrade and go large etc...
Whenever I am low and need a pick me up, I would go and play with my jewellery box, as each piece of jewellery in my collection that I have amassed so far has a story or two to tell, and they would always bring a smile to my face. I worked hard to acquire some of the pieces, while getting into debt for spending beyond my means with others.
My jewellery collection may not be a very big or valuable collection by PS standards, however, it is mine and mine alone, and it is mighty precious to me.
OP, good luck to you and your hubby for your future ahead, and I hope you'll get over this DSS issue in no time.
DK
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makemepretty said:If you want to upgrade, do it now. Seriously. Now. Why wait? You have the money, you're not married yet. I think upgrading before getting married is a great idea. I loved radiants once upon a time but they do face up smaller than a round. You might consider a round in a cushion halo setting, it seems to give you the best of both worlds and looks HUGE. I'm not sure bands would really scratch that itch.
Sometimes you don't know what you really want until you get something you "thought" you wanted. We've all been there. Congratulations, it sounds like you've got a very understanding guy and a lovely family.
CRYSTAL24K said:Calliecake|1422073359|3821254 said:My husband always says he could careless if I change the ring, as long as I don't change the husband.
I love that your husband said this!