IAmMrsWhite|1421980532|3820706 said:LLJsmom|1421976499|3820691 said:Walkersareit, while I can understand and appreciate your sentiments, I would venture to say that each person's husband is unique and different. The OP's husband may not assign the same sentiments your husband did, or the same sentiments that any of the men that posted did. And maybe he did. I'm saying only the OP would know. So they should do what works for them. Although we each share our personal experiences, IMHO it would be a mistake to assume that her husband/their relationship would be adversely affected. They would be the best ones to determine that, and make their decision accordingly.walkersareit|1421970237|3820641 said:I can't speak on diamonds. In fact, if you want some humor, read up my new ring.
However, I think I have a little experience in the marriage department. We will be celebrating 25 years of marriage on the 27th. When you speak of your fiancee, your terms of endearment are how I feel about my sweet hubby. He can walk into a room and my heart still goes pitter patter. Sure, we have had our moments just like any two married persons, but his overwhelming desire to please me has made me look internally at myself. It's probably what draws me even more to him even though we both are aging and not looking the same as we did 25 years ago.
Even though most men may not openly admit it, a man's feelings are very tender and need to be nurtured. They may say it doesn't bother them, but it really does down deep.
Unfortunately, early on in our marriage I received a gift that I didn't think was worthy of the moment. It didn't meet my expectations. I learned later he had spent a great deal of time picking out the gift. I saw it had crushed his spirit when he realized I wasn't content with the gift I had received. I was young and insensitive, but through the course of the years, his giving heart has turned this young, insensitive person to look at the intentions of the heart and not the physical gift.
This gift he gave you was from the heart and you will never be able to put a price on the emotions that went into buying it just for you. I think the gentlemen on this thread are admirable for giving their thoughts on this. I truly believe they hit the nail on the head.
Congratulations on your engagement and cherish the wonderful man who will one day be your husband. What a wonderful treasure!
I appreciate everyone's comment. BUT Well said! LLJsmom
My FI and I communicate great. It took me 5 years to FINALLY realize that this man says what he means and that's it! No its, buts, or ands. I would always "assume" how he feels or would feel about something rather then just asking him. I was wrong every time. He is true to his word. Simple Man. And I love him to pieces. I met him when I was 19. I am about to turn 26 in a week. Our 6 yr anniversary is tomorrow, Jan 23rd. He is truly the most amazing man I know. Treats me like a Queen! I know my wants and needs are different from everyone else. I am truly blessed to have someone who loves me unconditionally and who loves seeing me happy. A ring is a ring. Everyone has different tastes.
I actually let my FI read some of the comments and he was surprised at how some of you could assume how he felt when you don't even know him. You couldn't be more wrong about my hubs to be.
I made this post to get some insight about how some of you deal with this diamond frenzy of DSS....not to get bashed about it.
Thank you to those who get what this topic was about. I appreciate it!
Here are some proposal pics
IAmMrsWhite|1422028148|3820872 said:Like I said in previous posts,I appreciate everyone's insight. Maybe "bashed" wasn't the correct word to use and I'm sorry if I offended anyone by using it. I actually have read some bashing on PS and it is nowhere near what you all have said, so I apologize. Thank you all for being supportive. I am actually taking all of your suggestions. I already said in an earlier post that I am open. I received a lot of good advice and I will definitely keep them in mind. I actually went home last night and took my e ring off and left it off all night long. I woke up for work this morning at 6AM and gave it a good clean and let me tell you....she was GORGEOUS ....then I caught a glimpse of it in the mirror and I stared in awe. Diamonds have a way of making a girl feel amazing and crazy all at the same time!
Again, I appreciate each and every one of you for taking the time to post something so I can see a different perspective. I'm glad I wrote this post to get it out. I have made no big changes or decisions. I spoke to my FI last night and brought up about maybe designing my own wedding bands instead??? And he was down for that as well. I kind of like that idea.
Since money/time is a non factor I want to give this some more time. I truly do love my ring.
What do you ladies/men think would look good with my e ring? (Keep in mind that I would like to have 2 bands) I've seen so many different bands and sometimes the bands take away from the e ring and I don't want that.
I look forward to your suggestions!
ame|1422040975|3820966 said:I don't know if bashed is the right word, but there were some VERY harsh words lobbed your way. You're allowed to change your mind about something once you've lived with it for a while. And if your fiance is willing and you're collectively able to change it, do it. If you choose not to, that's fine too. But don't let anyone's words here make you feel lesser about any plans you make to change or not change it or influence your opinions or feelings about it!
You seem to have a great relationship, and a very supportive fiance. You have lots of time to make the decisions. Try things on and see what you think.
As for what would look good--I like a matching band and a plain band the same width. But I am matchy.
Zizzy|1422011146|3820810 said:Wow! Gorgeous photographs. You are incredibly beautiful and you and your fiancé make a lovely couple.
elle_chris|1422045257|3821014 said:Just curious as to why you want it bigger? I can understand if it's like half a carat and the person wants to see the facets clearly, but yours is 2cts and looks HUGE on you.
I bet if you stayed away from PS for about a month or so, you wouldn't care anymore. That's what happens to most of us..lol..
msop04 said:elle_chris|1422045257|3821014 said:Just curious as to why you want it bigger? I can understand if it's like half a carat and the person wants to see the facets clearly, but yours is 2cts and looks HUGE on you.
I bet if you stayed away from PS for about a month or so, you wouldn't care anymore. That's what happens to most of us..lol..
This is your opinion -- one person's 0.5 ct is another's 2.5 ct... It's a nice size, but it's not just HUGE looking. Besides, she's already said she wants something larger, and it is her ring, so...
...why does anyone want bigger?? LOL ...does this really need justification??
elle_chris|1422046528|3821027 said:msop04 said:elle_chris|1422045257|3821014 said:Just curious as to why you want it bigger? I can understand if it's like half a carat and the person wants to see the facets clearly, but yours is 2cts and looks HUGE on you.
I bet if you stayed away from PS for about a month or so, you wouldn't care anymore. That's what happens to most of us..lol..
This is your opinion -- one person's 0.5 ct is another's 2.5 ct... It's a nice size, but it's not just HUGE looking. Besides, she's already said she wants something larger, and it is her ring, so...
...why does anyone want bigger?? LOL ...does this really need justification??
I never said anything was wrong with a half carat. In fact, I have half carats..lol.. I just meant that it's easier to see the facets in a larger stone. There was nothing insulting in my original comment. Don't look too into it.
and yeah, why does anyone want bigger? nothing wrong with the question.. I mean I know I don't want bigger. In fact, I'd go smaller for a higher color
mrs-blop|1422047258|3821033 said:Hallo IAmMrsWhite.
You know, it occurs to me - if you'd come on here and said you'd always wanted a .4ct diamond - and that when you got it, you realized you actually wanted (and could afford) a .6ct diamond, everybody would have said 'go for it!'
But a 2ct to a 3ct is exactly the same if you take out the money factor. And if you are in the lucky position that the money is not a factor for you - then I say go for it! A lot of people don't get it right the first time. And not everyone can visualize without trying it out for a bit (and I mean longer than just in the store). A bunch of women here have 3ct stones, and for a lot of them it's their 2nd, 3rd, or sometimes even more attempt. You worked it out sooner - so I say good for you! 3ct is a bit of a holy grail for a lot of people, and it's your decision as to whether you feel it suits you or not. I would love to be in your position re money not being an issue; frankly I'd try for a 3 ct stone in a heartbeat!
Good luck, and enjoy the place where you finally land.
ETA I have a 2.15 ct stone (as per my avatar) on a size 6 finger, and I feel it's proportionally smaller on my finger than I would like.
msop04 said:elle_chris|1422046528|3821027 said:msop04 said:elle_chris|1422045257|3821014 said:Just curious as to why you want it bigger? I can understand if it's like half a carat and the person wants to see the facets clearly, but yours is 2cts and looks HUGE on you.
I bet if you stayed away from PS for about a month or so, you wouldn't care anymore. That's what happens to most of us..lol..
This is your opinion -- one person's 0.5 ct is another's 2.5 ct... It's a nice size, but it's not just HUGE looking. Besides, she's already said she wants something larger, and it is her ring, so...
...why does anyone want bigger?? LOL ...does this really need justification??
I never said anything was wrong with a half carat. In fact, I have half carats..lol.. I just meant that it's easier to see the facets in a larger stone. There was nothing insulting in my original comment. Don't look too into it.
and yeah, why does anyone want bigger? nothing wrong with the question.. I mean I know I don't want bigger. In fact, I'd go smaller for a higher color
No one has said anything is wrong with a 0.5 ct -- and I didn't have to "look too into it" to see that some are judging and/or trying to talk her out of an upgrade for whatever reason. I mean, what if you wanted something bc you'd been influenced by PS (which you happen to like reading, BTW), and the advice given to you was along the lines of "just don't read PS" -- Mmmkay. Seriously?
All I'm saying is if OP wants a larger stone, then more power to her. ...and no one made any mention of color, so that's sort of irrelevant. If she wanted to go larger, she could get a higher color too if she wanted -- it doesn't have to be one or the other, KWIM? Anywhooooo... color is irrelevant to this thread.
KobiD said:I've been enjoying watching how some ladies minds work.. So different to most men (at least my mates anyway)!
While it appears some people are trying to talk you out of it, others are trying to talk you into it, others are merely offering suggestions. In the end the decision is between you and your partner and nothing anyone says should change that.
A bit more from the other side of the pond though.. things I can't comprehend (mostly due to my personality rather than sex), are the reasoning. What void has the current stone left? What is the appeal of a larger diamond? What does it achieve?
I'd be inclined to love the ring you have, your engagement ring. Its not small or ugly, and from what I have read you truly do love it.. you just lust for more! If finances are a non issue, I'd build another ring for another finger (why not? because you can!), or as your last post has aimed towards, build a nice stack. End of the day, I guess I see it as a first world problem.
KobiD|1422049248|3821048 said:I've been enjoying watching how some ladies minds work.. So different to most men (at least my mates anyway)!
While it appears some people are trying to talk you out of it, others are trying to talk you into it, others are merely offering suggestions. In the end the decision is between you and your partner and nothing anyone says should change that.
A bit more from the other side of the pond though.. things I can't comprehend (mostly due to my personality rather than sex), are the reasoning. What void has the current stone left? What is the appeal of a larger diamond? What does it achieve?
I'd be inclined to love the ring you have, your engagement ring. Its not small or ugly, and from what I have read you truly do love it.. you just lust for more! If finances are a non issue, I'd build another ring for another finger (why not? because you can!), or as your last post has aimed towards, build a nice stack. End of the day, I guess I see it as a first world problem.
canuk-gal|1422050092|3821059 said:HI:
Capital letters + numerous emoties + exclamation marks + posts are written for, well, = entertainment.
Where are the like and dislike buttons? It's Friday night After all.
cheers--Sharon
canuk-gal|1422050092|3821059 said:HI:
Capital letters + numerous emoties + exclamation marks + posts are written for, well, = entertainment.
Where are the like and dislike buttons? It's Friday night After all.
cheers--Sharon
elle_chris|1422050361|3821061 said:canuk-gal|1422050092|3821059 said:HI:
Capital letters + numerous emoties + exclamation marks + posts are written for, well, = entertainment.
Where are the like and dislike buttons? It's Friday night After all.
cheers--Sharon
hey, she started it!!
LLJsmom|1422050733|3821062 said:canuk-gal|1422050092|3821059 said:HI:
Capital letters + numerous emoties + exclamation marks + posts are written for, well, = entertainment.
Where are the like and dislike buttons? It's Friday night After all.
cheers--Sharon
LIKE!!
msop04|1422050296|3821060 said:This is a diamond forum... we love diamonds! First world problems are the name of the game --
elle_chris|1422049933|3821056 said:Are you kidding? .. wow.. out of all the posts that have discouraged her from upgrading, you pick mine? I asked a legitimate question with absolutely no hidden agenda.
Obviously I'm reading PS (you want a cookie for that keen observation?) I've also been a member her for over 10 years and have seen many ladies upgrade because of PS. Women who wouldn't think twice about it do it because this place becomes an obsession. So yeah, the comment about stay away for a month, well, it's true.
Now, I'm not saying this is the OP, that's why I asked why she wanted to upgrade.
I say EXACTLY what I think, there's no need for me to be coy about it. So once again, don't look too into my post, there aren't any lines to read between.