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Brilliant_Rock
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well, pearl...maybe she just doesn''t like you. i don''t mean that in a bitchy way--i''m just thinking sometimes people have very different personalities and rub each other the wrong way, and that''s ten times more difficult when you feel that way about someone who means so much to someone you care about. i guess if that''s the case, i''d try to politely let her know, "you don''t have to love me, or even like me, but you do have to deal with me, so how about we make an effort to play nice for the sake of (insert your FI''s name here)?" someone mentioned earlier that your FI could eventually tire of playing mediator between the two of you, and that''s a REALLY good point. it''s lovely that he''s supportive of you, but it''s a position that he won''t want to be in for the rest of his life no matter how much he loves either of you, and obviously you don''t want him to be hurt by the animosity between you and your FMIL. whether it''ll do any good between you and her, it might be a good idea to talk to her just to let your FI know that you won''t always expect him to fight your battles for you--on that one, though, that''s more between you and him than you and her. he may be happier with the whole thing if you spend the rest of your life pretending the sun shines out of her @$$ just to avoid the drama! best of luck to ya!