tammy77
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Hi Ladies,
I'm hoping that I don't ramble too much, but I am afraid that's probably unavoidable. I'm also afraid of being flamed for talking about an issue with a vendor, but I just need some honest feedback. Please be kind...
So a while ago I purchased a set of pre-loved earring jackets from another PSer and I've been trying to find stock earrings to go in them. Unfortunately, that's not happening so I went the route of having them cut for me. I decided to go with XXXXX, so I sent a msg to him via the bistro. He called me himself that very day to talk about it and I was just wowed by his responsiveness. We talked for a while and (at least in my mind and interpretation of the conversation) settled on a pair of lilac amethyst. We talked originally about aquas but I said I'd rather look at having the amethyst. At that time I was under the assumption that 5mm stones would work, so I told him at least 5mm, not more than 5.5mm. That was Monday or Tuesday of last week.
Fast forward to Thursday night, I came home and there was a package at the door. Apparently my DH had bought earrings for me from Blue Nile - 5mm pink tourmalines for my birthday. The problem is, they were way too small. The stones measured 4.5, have 4 prong basket measuring at just shy of 5mm total. So I panicked and emailed XXX that night letting him know that 5mm is too small, that I wanted 6mm stones. I also said that since 6mm would work, I wanted to know if he could possibly provide a matching rubellite for one stone I'd already purchased from him long ago.
On Friday he emailed me back and said basically "I need you to tell me what you want because I had started cutting the aquas, then you say you want amethyst and now you mention rubellite in 6mm. It takes me a long time to cut these and I want to get it done so tell me what you want". So I emailed him back the same day saying that I was confused because we had settled on amethyst for now, aqua at a later time and that the rubellite was in addition. I reiterated that I needed the 6mm size instead and apologized for the confusion.
On Monday I got an email from him saying that he'd completed two 5mm aquas and a 5mm amethyst but it was his understanding that I want 6mm. He again reminded me of how long it takes him to cut and again told me to tell him what I wanted and in what size before he cut more.
At this point honestly I was pretty upset. I wanted this to go well and I know that it was partly my fault for giving him the wrong size earlier in the week, but I corrected it as soon as I could and it just seems like he wasn't reading my messages. Regardless, I apologized again and said that I would purchase the 5mm aquas but needed the amethyst in 6mm. I figured it was a way for me to pay for my mistake of quoting the wrong size for 3 out of the 8 days we'd been talking about the project. The next day, which was yesterday, he emailed me and said "I will start cutting the 6mm aquamarine today." That was the entire message.
I realize that I originally wrote this out with the intention of just asking what setting would work but I'm so annoyed right now after reading back through the emails and thinking about it. I feel like he went from responsive and friendly, interested in working with me to treating me like I'm inconveniencing him. I realize this is my first custom cutting request, which I'd told him up front about as well, but am I wrong to feel like something just isn't okay about all of this, or are his actions justified? I'm a big girl and can handle it if so.
And on the note of settings for the earrings, I was going to try to figure out what to do with them but I just feel so incompetent at all of this that I think I'm just going to send the stones and the jackets to DanielM and ask them to do what they can with the two different sizes. Maybe a bezel will work, I don't know. I'm just really disappointed with the whole thing right now.
ETA: I didn't feel comfortable listing the person's name because if I am in the wrong I don't want to cause them any issues.
I'm hoping that I don't ramble too much, but I am afraid that's probably unavoidable. I'm also afraid of being flamed for talking about an issue with a vendor, but I just need some honest feedback. Please be kind...
So a while ago I purchased a set of pre-loved earring jackets from another PSer and I've been trying to find stock earrings to go in them. Unfortunately, that's not happening so I went the route of having them cut for me. I decided to go with XXXXX, so I sent a msg to him via the bistro. He called me himself that very day to talk about it and I was just wowed by his responsiveness. We talked for a while and (at least in my mind and interpretation of the conversation) settled on a pair of lilac amethyst. We talked originally about aquas but I said I'd rather look at having the amethyst. At that time I was under the assumption that 5mm stones would work, so I told him at least 5mm, not more than 5.5mm. That was Monday or Tuesday of last week.
Fast forward to Thursday night, I came home and there was a package at the door. Apparently my DH had bought earrings for me from Blue Nile - 5mm pink tourmalines for my birthday. The problem is, they were way too small. The stones measured 4.5, have 4 prong basket measuring at just shy of 5mm total. So I panicked and emailed XXX that night letting him know that 5mm is too small, that I wanted 6mm stones. I also said that since 6mm would work, I wanted to know if he could possibly provide a matching rubellite for one stone I'd already purchased from him long ago.
On Friday he emailed me back and said basically "I need you to tell me what you want because I had started cutting the aquas, then you say you want amethyst and now you mention rubellite in 6mm. It takes me a long time to cut these and I want to get it done so tell me what you want". So I emailed him back the same day saying that I was confused because we had settled on amethyst for now, aqua at a later time and that the rubellite was in addition. I reiterated that I needed the 6mm size instead and apologized for the confusion.
On Monday I got an email from him saying that he'd completed two 5mm aquas and a 5mm amethyst but it was his understanding that I want 6mm. He again reminded me of how long it takes him to cut and again told me to tell him what I wanted and in what size before he cut more.
At this point honestly I was pretty upset. I wanted this to go well and I know that it was partly my fault for giving him the wrong size earlier in the week, but I corrected it as soon as I could and it just seems like he wasn't reading my messages. Regardless, I apologized again and said that I would purchase the 5mm aquas but needed the amethyst in 6mm. I figured it was a way for me to pay for my mistake of quoting the wrong size for 3 out of the 8 days we'd been talking about the project. The next day, which was yesterday, he emailed me and said "I will start cutting the 6mm aquamarine today." That was the entire message.
I realize that I originally wrote this out with the intention of just asking what setting would work but I'm so annoyed right now after reading back through the emails and thinking about it. I feel like he went from responsive and friendly, interested in working with me to treating me like I'm inconveniencing him. I realize this is my first custom cutting request, which I'd told him up front about as well, but am I wrong to feel like something just isn't okay about all of this, or are his actions justified? I'm a big girl and can handle it if so.
And on the note of settings for the earrings, I was going to try to figure out what to do with them but I just feel so incompetent at all of this that I think I'm just going to send the stones and the jackets to DanielM and ask them to do what they can with the two different sizes. Maybe a bezel will work, I don't know. I'm just really disappointed with the whole thing right now.
ETA: I didn't feel comfortable listing the person's name because if I am in the wrong I don't want to cause them any issues.