Are you one of those PSer who would buy a stone today...

[Dancing Fire]

knowing that you'll upgrade in the future?.
Q for those PSers who said they will never upgrade did you change your mind?

 

[Double E]

It was true that I didn't think we would upgrade / replace our Ering stone when I bought the ring 2 years back, because I hoped and thought I had found the best gem I could. Unfortunately (or actually luckily:]) I kept looking into the diamond stuffs and discovered the diamond world is much bigger than we were told. Finally, it's worth all the time and effort to awaiting our BGD stone with the only step left is the ring building. It feels good.
This is the first superideal for my wife, will we be upgrading again? I have nothing against it, with the only resistance is this gem being more and more sentimental for us~

Btw DF, I may probably be having rose gold shank with platinum head for the ring. Should I have any concern on the hardness, strength, porosity issue etc. on BGD setting knowing it should be all cast? Can you share your view, as You are one of the best party to say something on this with your extensive experience with them

 

[Bron357]

When you’ve had 5 engagements, you go straight to the forever gem.
Though I did indulge in a reset.
But RHR are always a work in progress!

 

[Dancing Fire]

Btw DF, I may probably be having rose gold shank with platinum head for the ring. Should I have any concern on the hardness, strength, porosity issue etc. on BGD setting knowing it should be all cast? Can you share your view, as You are one of the best party to say something on this with your extensive experience with them

I have no idea about setting. I'm sure the setting experts will be along soon to comment.

 

[Snowdrop13]

It was true that I didn't think we would upgrade / replace our Ering stone when I bought the ring 2 years back, because I hoped and thought I had found the best gem I could. Unfortunately (or actually luckily:]) I kept looking into the diamond stuffs and discovered the diamond world is much bigger than we were told. Finally, it's worth all the time and effort to awaiting our BGD stone with the only step left is the ring building. It feels good.
This is the first superideal for my wife, will we be upgrading again? I have nothing against it, with the only resistance is this gem being more and more sentimental for us~

Btw DF, I may probably be having rose gold shank with platinum head for the ring. Should I have any concern on the hardness, strength, porosity issue etc. on BGD setting knowing it should be all cast? Can you share your view, as You are one of the best party to say something on this with your extensive experience with them

I have a 3 stone e-ring which has an 18ct yellow gold shank with a platinum head. I’ve been wearing it since 1998 and have had no issues at all, if that helps!

 

[Double E]

I have no idea about setting. I'm sure the setting experts will be along soon to comment.

It might mean there was no problem on your pieces? It's not a bad thing~
Even we are not upgrading this BGD stone, I may want to creat a yellow gold piece some point in the future, with one of the BG Cape stone, imagination is limitless!

 

[Double E]

I have a 3 stone e-ring which has an 18ct yellow gold shank with a platinum head. I’ve been wearing it since 1998 and have had no issues at all, if that helps!

It's definitely helpful. Congratulations for having a treasurable ring that stands the test of time!

 

[Matthews1127]

knowing that you'll upgrade in the future?.
Q for those PSers who said they will never upgrade did you change your mind?

I’m a sentimental sap, and I know myself well enough to know that it would be very difficult for me to trade in my EC for an upgrade. However, I’m not opposed to purchasing a new, larger stone, and moving my ER to my RH & wearing a new diamond with my wedding set, or vice-versa! I’m sentimental, not crazy or stupid...lol!!

 

[chanieish]

I purchased from a vendor with an amazing upgrade policy (you know the type). I don’t know if I will ever be able to pry away my original diamond for a different one since I’m pretty sentimental but I do like the option just in case. Maybe I can recycle the melee diamonds and the metal of the original ring and have it hold my new stone! Oh boy...already thinking this and he hasn’t even proposed yet.

 

[missy]

I have learned Never to say Never. Who says wisdom doesn't come with old age?

 

[tkyasx78]

I am currently happy with my diamonds . No plans to upgrade. When we married, we bought what we could afford, with the intention to upgrade as finances allowed. I still have the original engagement ring diamond for sentimental reasons.

 

[Austina]

I absolutely will not be upgrading Bella, it’ll be on my finger till the day I die.

 

[sledge]

Interesting question.

I will preface all this and say that every decision we make in life, diamond related or not, should always be based on the best information we have available at the time. Doing so ensures that even if the information changes later, or things fail, then we can accept responsibility for making the wrong decision but find peace in knowing that although it may not have worked in our favor, it was indeed the best solution at that specific time and point based on the information available to us then.

Life changes. Situations change. Our best calculations get proven wrong. Our desires and budgets change.

So yes, I think you pull the trigger and buy what you want now as long as you can reasonably be sure it meets your needs, desires and budget. When and if those things change, then visit the possibility of an upgrade as it comes. Or even a downgrade. We make the assumption life will always get better for us. In reality, many times people have wealth and then lose it for one reason or another and must make sacrifices to stay afloat. Add some sentimental value in with that scenario and the situation gets really sticky.

I used to think that when I gave my fiancee a ring I wanted her to wear it forever. One and done. However, if done right, can't that ring change and grow as your love for one another does the same thing? What makes the ring sentimental is the emotion involved with it. As long as that emotion remains in the upgrade, replacement ring, etc woudn't the sentimental aspect transfer to the new piece?

 

[SimoneDi]

DF I find this to be a bit of a loaded question
I think that there are plenty of people who purchase diamonds today knowing very well that said diamonds would not be their “forever stones”. Those people don’t necessarily state that they intend their purchases to be forever. I am one of those people.

At the same time, there are, of course, other folks who purchase stones thinking that those stones will be forever, but with time, something else steals their heart.

What I have found is that purchases that don’t hold much sentiment are easily replaceable/exchangeable, while those that hold special meaning prove hard to let go. For example, I was very attached to my original engagement ring. Had I still had that ring, I would have never let it go. Unfortunately, that ring was stolen. All other diamond purchases after that have been nothing more but pure luxury buys.

 

[Matthews1127]

Interesting question.

I will preface all this and say that every decision we make in life, diamond related or not, should always be based on the best information we have available at the time. Doing so ensures that even if the information changes later, or things fail, then we can accept responsibility for making the wrong decision but find peace in knowing that although it may not have worked in our favor, it was indeed the best solution at that specific time and point based on the information available to us then.

Life changes. Situations change. Our best calculations get proven wrong. Our desires and budgets change.

So yes, I think you pull the trigger and buy what you want now as long as you can reasonably be sure it meets your needs, desires and budget. When and if those things change, then visit the possibility of an upgrade as it comes. Or even a downgrade. We make the assumption life will always get better for us. In reality, many times people have wealth and then lose it for one reason or another and must make sacrifices to stay afloat. Add some sentimental value in with that scenario and the situation gets really sticky.

I used to think that when I gave my fiancee a ring I wanted her to wear it forever. One and done. However, if done right, can't that ring change and grow as your love for one another does the same thing? What makes the ring sentimental is the emotion involved with it. As long as that emotion remains in the upgrade, replacement ring, etc woudn't the sentimental aspect transfer to the new piece?

The answer is no. The same sentiment for one thing does not “transfer” to something new, even if it’s very similar. That doesn’t mean there is no new sentiment attached to the new thing. It just means it’s different.

My DH could purchase a 3+ct EC for me, and set it in a custom setting, and it won’t mean the same as my original ER. The new ring will be special, and I will love it, but it will never compete with the emotion attached to my ER. Never.

 

[ringo865]

I upgrade and keep the originals.

So ... I’m a hoarder

 

[MamaBee]

I’m a sentimental sap, and I know myself well enough to know that it would be very difficult for me to trade in my EC for an upgrade. However, I’m not opposed to purchasing a new, larger stone, and moving my ER to my RH & wearing a new diamond with my wedding set, or vice-versa! I’m sentimental, not crazy or stupid...lol!!

+1!

 

[MamaBee]

My first one the inclusion covered a quarter of the diamond..I loved it but when my husband wanted to upgrade the second time I didn’t complain. I’ve been married so long that I feel like my hubby is my diamond and he’s for keeps. I won’t be upgrading this one but am looking for another sparkly to wear in addition!

 

[AprilBaby]

If i had an upgrade policy I would do it.

 

[KristinTech]

I still wear my original 1 carat oval diamond from our engagement in 1999! It is sentimental to us. I plan to always keep in ring form. This is its second setting. I am in the process of saving for a small “starter” CBI that will be a RHR for two years. Hope to have it for anniversary/bday this fall.

In 2020 we will celebrate 20 years, and my hope is that I will trade up this first diamond after about a year, then a big bump will happen at the 20th anniversary. Thinking about 1.7ish for that milestone anniversary. The setting for the RHR will be recycled as a gemstone ring for our youngest daughter. She is a January baby, so I’m thinking of a garnet.

If everything goes according to my daydreams, I will be able to decide on my trade up during the HPD GTG in summer 2019!

 

[DAF]

I didn't think about upgrading, DF wanted to upgrade my diamond. Pre PS, he proposed with a D color MRB that was 2.21 ct with another 1.8 cts on the band. Then, I found PS and would share info when I learned something new or saw something on here that I liked. She was replaced with a 3.39 ct OEC. Just a thought, though: Is it an upgrade when you still have the original ring?

 

[missy]

If i had an upgrade policy I would do it.

You can try selling it yourself and then upgrading if you want...I am not a seller but it all fell into place like it was meant to be. You have nothing to lose if you really want to upgrade except some energy...

 

[doberman]

@DAF
Where are these men who want to upgrade their wives diamonds? And why don't I have one?

 

[missy]

What makes the ring sentimental is the emotion involved with it. As long as that emotion remains in the upgrade, replacement ring, etc woudn't the sentimental aspect transfer to the new piece?

For me yes this is the case. I am not emotionally attached to "things" but more so the thought behind it and what the person giving it wants for me if that makes sense. That's why while it was bittersweet to give up Bea I knew she was going to a good home to a person who was going to love and adore her and it made it easier. And getting a different OEC with all the meaning behind it makes it that much more special and yes the meaning remains the same but elevated in a way. I still think of my grandma and my dh with Bubbalah my new ring with all the happy memories that Bea made me feel and then some.

 

[MamaBee]

I didn't think about upgrading, DF wanted to upgrade my diamond. Pre PS, he proposed with a D color MRB that was 2.21 ct with another 1.8 cts on the band. Then, I found PS and would share info when I learned something new or saw something on here that I liked. She was replaced with a 3.39 ct OEC. Just a thought, though: Is it an upgrade when you still have the original ring?

I would think so!

 

[Dancing Fire]

@DAF
Where are these men who want to upgrade their wives diamonds? And why don't I have one?

They will upgrade the wife first before upgrading the diamond.

 

[MamaBee]

They will upgrade the wife first before upgrading the diamond.

Unlike

 

[doberman]

They will upgrade the wife first before upgrading the diamond.

Ah, but that's even more expensive!

 

[KKJohnson]

Hands down yes! Now if only I would get a diamond that comes with an upgrade policy lol

 

[Maisie]

I’m a serial upgrader. I’ve lost count of how many times. When I bought my 1ct OEC I knew I would never sell it. I love it so much. I am changing the setting though. So maybe I’m a setting upgrader now.