- Jul 8, 2011
I think they are perfect!!
Thank you! I feel a bit too old to be asking advice & not knowing where I'm at, but my small studs are SO precious. Mr T was absolutely made up seeing me wear the 'new set' today for absolutely no reason. I have tucked their individual boxes away & have put them in my daily wear box, so I can decide in the morning if I want to keep in my pretties, or change out for the bigger set.They really are perfect for you Alex. Your other set is just precious and I understand the sentiment behind them. I think as we get older we can pull off a larger look than we ever thought we could. The new set - earrings and pendant - are perfect for your age and beauty! They are not over the top, are truly sized appropriately for you and I would not hesitate to wear them. Your husband will be thrilled to see you wear them and you will get used to them. New things feel a bit heavy and out of place sometimes but you will get used to it quickly. Wear them, enjoy them, and sparkle on!!
I did this at age 30, lol. I can't wear bigger studs but I can wear two smaller. A small stud plus the right dangle earring is nice too. I will say that the second hole barely fits without hitting the cartilage and I wouldn't have done it at all if there wasn't enough room to space them properly.Or get second piercings
I love this sentiment. And the older we get, the more sentimental options we’re likely to have.I used to wear my granddad's precious gold St. Christopher all the time but gold looks not so great on me so now I reserve it for special occasions. That works well because the other things in my life that are also sentimentally important have room too.
I am glad that you guys had the conversation. It breathes a better path forward.Thanks everyone for your thoughtful opinions & replies. I did have a chat with Mr T last night & unpicked my thoughts - he was really understanding. It hadn't even crossed his mind that buying a new set & expecting me to just 'give up' my treasured others was possibly thoughtless on his part, especially given that he is fully aware of how much sentimentality I attach to things. But he did spend a lot of time working with the jeweller to get stones of the right quality & size (he sees me on PS!) & obviously he spent a lot of money, so I appreciate & respect that.
The new set are now in my daily wears box rather than tucked away in a draw & will go into rotation. I won't wear them ALL the time, but I WILL wear them more regularly & make a conscious effort to switch things up like I do with RH rings. There is no rule that says I have to wear the same daily staples, so I need to let go of that notion.
Thanks again for your reassurance & to everyone who helped me realise it goes beyond a size issue.
You guys rock!
@gregchang35 Thank you so, so very much for your input on this.
I have only removed my others for cleaning a couple of times each week for 21 years, and my piercings are fine. They have nice short posts on them & I just can't feel them at all. I wore my 'big set' today & was so busy I forgot I had them on! I may do what @mrs-b suggested & get the posts on my new ones shortened when the jewellers open up again.It sounded like you wore your smaller ones all the time, sleeping in them even? It could just be a matter of adaptation - we notice new sensations a lot at the beginning, but if you wore the new ones for a couple of weeks non-stop you would likely stop "feeling" them as much as you do now. I think they look great!
I have very small 10 pointers in each ear, repurposed from a previous ring's side-stones. I've never been a stud wearer because I found them too pokey to sleep in, but it turns out all I needed was a couple of weeks to get used to them. (Btw, I wear all my earrings for months at a time - except for taking them out to clean - because I hate switching jewelry out, and I've never had any stretching of my piercings, so I think it is an individual thing whether that will happen or not.)