One of my best friends is in this situation with her husband of two years, and now it''s constant fighting. She told him that she was undecided about kids, and he definitely wanted them, but he proposed anyway assuming she would change her mind. Now they have been married for 2 years, and she is thinking she does not want kids, and they are fighting all the time and haven''t shared a bed in over a year. I honestly thought it was stupid of him to propose to her, and crappy of her to not be clear on the issue before they got married. Not because there''s anything wrong with not having kids, but because having children is a big marital dealbreaker that should be COMPLETELY decided before marriage.
I think that ultimately, people who want kids are going to feel very unhappy, especially later in life, if they don''t get to have them because their spouse didn''t want them. I would definitely look at your relationship long & hard before tying the knot. I have actually seen several marriages fall apart because someone changed their mind & decided not to have kids - and most tragically, I know one woman who wanted kids, whose husband refused (vasectomy) who is really mourning not having children. Her husband was 15 years older than her and died a few years ago. Now she is in her 60s, alone, and really wishes that she had left him for someone else when she was in her 30s so that she could have had the children that she always wanted.
Like I said, I think that if BOTH people don''t want children, that''s a fine choice for them, and they can have a happy marriage because of their same goals in life. But if one wants kids & the other doesn''t, resentment will eventually occur, and it''s a bad idea to marry someone that doesn''t agree on that dealbreaker issue.