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LoganSapphire,Date: 4/23/2009 12:05:05 PM
Author: Logan Sapphire
Date: 4/23/2009 11:02:46 AM
Author: elledizzy5
Both parents are eligible for leave for a child for up to 12 weeks, whether it is a biological, adopted, or fostered child.
I don''t know why it would matter if someone physically gave birth or not, it''s still a new baby in the home, and they''re entitled to their time with their new baby. Men don''t give birth, and they''re entitled, so the same rules would apply to those who adopt.
Exactly!!!! Bonding and attachment are such important aspects of becoming a new family, and adoption experts have written a ton on how to bond and the dangers of not bonding. In fact, our agency mandates that one parent take off at least 6 weeks from work to care for their child.
In our case, our daughter went from spending almost 11 months with her foster mom (to whom she became very attached) to a new life with us, literally overnight. In the two visits and one overnight we had with her prior to our flight home, she screamed the entire time. Bloodcurdling screams too. She hated us and literally attempted to leap into her foster mom''s arms. She screamed non-stop the entire 14 hour flight back too. So I think it would''ve been a terrible and probably very damaging thing to immediately go back to work and put her in daycare, don''t you think??
And to answer Simply Splendid''s question, both my husband and I are each taking off 3 months to stay with her.
In the federal govt, we found that adoption and bio children aren''t treated quite the same. I could not use my sick leave for ''bonding'' or ''caring'' for my healthy adopted child, according to the Office of Personnel Management. http://www.opm.gov/oca/leave/HTML/adoptionfs.asp. I totally think that''s wrong, and fortunately, neither my employer nor my husband''s employer enforces that.
Congratulations on completing the adoption of your daughter!
Just curious, you mentioned she had a foster mom...did you adopt from Guatemala? That''s where our daughter is from...
~Kat