Another passing of family. . .

[Lilac]

I''m so so sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my thoughts...

 

[MichelleCarmen]

Everyone, thanks so much for your kind words and thoughts. I find it comforting having the support right now. My husband won''t be home tonight due to all this and I''m here with my kids. Last night my husband and I tried to explain to them that their aunt died and they asked how and we said she was sick. Not really a lie in that mental illness is within that definition. The weird thing is yesterday morning, before I heard the up the news, while still in bed, my kids came into the room to do the usual petting of the cat and trying to get me out of bed, my son asked me what suicide meant! Isn''t that just the bizarrest coincidence?

Anway, yes the anger part, I know, will occur. Right now I just feel like someone has shaken up my head and it''s a blur. I''m still confused. This is the first person I''ve known to have died in this way.

Also, as I''ve mentioned in previous posts, I''m not religious (do not have an organized belief system), but I do believe we have souls and I''m so worried about that aspect of suicide and what will happen to hers. . .you know? Yeah, sorry if that goes to deep. . . just one thing I can''t get out of my head.

 

[bee*]

I''m so sorry to hear that MC. Sending my thoughts and prayers.

 

[MichelleCarmen]

Date: 12/29/2009 2:09:02 PM
Author: Gailey
Take care of you and your children and don''t expect too much of your self for a while.

Thanks. I tried talking to my kids today because they do not understand AT ALL. They simply wanted to go play after we told them. They explained to me that they do not want to remember her dead because it makes them sad. I have some great photos of them with her and will go through what I have after a bit of time and frame one for each of them. It''s easier to disassociate right now than to look.

 

[Dancing Fire]

MC
sorry to hear this news.

thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

 

[AprilBaby]

So sorry. I does help to talk it all out, so consider us listening...

 

[Gayletmom]

MC, I''m so sorry to hear about your losses. What a difficult time for you and the family.

Suicide is a very difficult thing. Several years ago, just a few months after we were married, my BIL (DH''s brother) killed himself. It was a horrible time and really tested our young marriage. One thing that really helped was a suicide survivors group. It was something we couldn''t do until a couple of months afterward but was eventually really beneficial. Just a thought for you in case you are interested.

Hugs and prayers coming your way.

 

[JerseyGrl81]

I am so sorry for your loss.

 

[loriken214]

My heart hurts for you and your family. Prayers for comfort and healing to you all.

Lori

 

[yssie]

Oh, how absolutely awful, MC

::HUGS::



I'm so sorry for your loss. You and your family - and her child - are in my thoughts. What a painful start to the new year

Please take the time to do what you need to for yourself, there's no right way to heal from tragedy.

 

[jas]

My sympathy, MC. You are dealing with a lot of pain...we''re here!

 

[tyty333]

I am so sorry MC. When things like this happen it leaves everyone wondering what they could have done
but in reality there probably wasnt anything. Again, accept my condolences.

 

[dragonfly411]

MC - having lost several family members this year, I somewhat understand your pain. I am so so sorry (((Hugs)))

 

[rhbgirl24]

Hugs! and my thoughts are with you and your family!

 

[Tacori E-ring]

MC, I am SO very sorry for your loss. The holidays are really tough on people and your SIL was obviously very sick. I wish things had turned out differently for her but hope with all my heart you all find peace and acceptance soon. My thoughts are with her child and your entire family during this painful time. My best advice is let yourself FEEL everything you are feeling. Don''t keep it bottled up.

 

[HopeDream]

My condolences for your loss.
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Hugs!

 

[packrat]

I''m sorry MC! Thoughts and prayers to you and your family!

 

[joflier]

I''m very sorry for your loss MC. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers. Hugs!

 

[LilyKat]

MC, I am so very sorry. How awful for your whole family.

It sounds like you''re doing the best you can with explaining it to your kids. Just answer any questions they have as they come up, honestly but in a way that they can understand.

 

[asscherisme]

Date: 12/29/2009 3:13:55 PM
Author: MC
Everyone, thanks so much for your kind words and thoughts. I find it comforting having the support right now. My husband won''t be home tonight due to all this and I''m here with my kids. Last night my husband and I tried to explain to them that their aunt died and they asked how and we said she was sick. Not really a lie in that mental illness is within that definition. The weird thing is yesterday morning, before I heard the up the news, while still in bed, my kids came into the room to do the usual petting of the cat and trying to get me out of bed, my son asked me what suicide meant! Isn''t that just the bizarrest coincidence?

Anway, yes the anger part, I know, will occur. Right now I just feel like someone has shaken up my head and it''s a blur. I''m still confused. This is the first person I''ve known to have died in this way.

Also, as I''ve mentioned in previous posts, I''m not religious (do not have an organized belief system), but I do believe we have souls and I''m so worried about that aspect of suicide and what will happen to hers. . .you know? Yeah, sorry if that goes to deep. . . just one thing I can''t get out of my head.

I think you did a perfect job explaining it to your kids. I am not religious at all either and I felt the same after about worrying about what would happen to him. I still sometimes feel like I can feel his prescence even though I never believed in that sort of stuff before he died.

What I told my kids (My youngest 2 were babies, but my older ones were 7 and 5 at the time) was that he had a sickness in his brain and thats what killed him. Since we were so closely related they were then scared I would die of the same thing and I reassured them that NO, I would not die of the same thing and I could promise them that.

I was thinking about you today because my kids and I went fish shopping and came home with a new beautiful fancy goldfish and I was thinking of your SIL and even though we never met when we were shopping for fish I thought "MC would enjoy looking at these fish". Weird thing when an internet friend pops into your real offline thoughts.

I''m glad your husband is with his family now, they need him. I''m hope 2010 brings only good things to you and your family.

 

[iheartscience]

MC, I''m so sorry for your loss. I can''t even begin to imagine what a terrible shock that must me. And I''m sorry for the loss of your grandfather, too. What a terrible time for your family. You''ll be in my thoughts.

I know several people who have lost a loved one to suicide, and they were all helped immensely by support groups specifically for the loss of a loved one to suicide. Maybe in the future that''s something that could help you and your husband.

 

[zhuzhu]

I am very sorry for your loss...

 

[Skippy123]

MC, I am so sorry.

i will keep your family and you in my thoughts; sending you a giant hug. Take care of you and your family.

 

[poshpepper]

I am so sorry for your loss

I hope that you and your family are able to get through this, and I second the suggestion of joining a support group when you feel up to it.

 

[icekid]

So sorry to hear, MC. Losing family members is always difficult, but to lose them so suddenly is always tragic. Thoughts and prayers to you and your family.

 

[kittybean]

MC, I am so very sorry for your loss. How heartbreaking--especially for that poor child.

I lost a close friend to suicide a number of years ago, and I am still working on sorting out the flood of emotions connected with that. It is so hard to understand.

I am thinking of and praying for you and your family at this incredibly difficult time.

 

[katamari]

I am so sorry to hear this, MC. What a terrible time for your family. I am keeping you in my thoughts.

 

[Luckyeshe]

MC, I''m so sorry for your lost. Prays outgoing to you and your whole family.

 

[Deelight]

MC I am sorry for your families loss you will all be in my thoughts and prayers - HUGS to you all

 

[reader]

I am sorry that you don''t have the support of your husband right now, with all you have been through it is tough to be the caregiver of three children too.

I honestly wish I could take you and the kids out for a fun day of pizza and a movie.