by headlight » Sep 12, 2019 at 2:10 PM Hello, fellow-P.S.ers... So, as many of you know, I have been conflicted over my diamond I purchased (trade-in) in February due to some of the proportions not being what they should be, specifically the 4% girdle/63% total depth. I have been very upset about it and my husband knows I am upset, and said he would go back to the jeweler with me about it (which that, in and of itself, is very anxiety-provoking for me... I know I will be very "bold" with my input here, but it is easy to be bold when you are hiding behind a computer screen and no one knows your real name!!!). When I got the diamond, I was hesitant... I thought I was just nervous as it was a big decision and so much weighed on it. This jeweler makes an annual Fall trip to Antwerp and had told me at the time if I wasn't happy, he would see what he could find on that trip. So, fast forward, he is getting ready to go next month. I told him I would be interested in him seeing what he could find, unless he thought I wouldn't really see a difference that would make it worth whatever would be involved (don't know what this will cost me, but I know there would be something as at the time he said we would find something "equitable" - whatever). Well, clearly I was hoping it would work itself out. Anyhow, he told me that he felt that for the "nano metrics" it wouldn't be a marked difference. So I was thinking that perhaps it is not too far off as here I am giving him, essentially, the opportunity to take more money from me and yet he told me a swap would not be worth it, which would make one think he truly feels that as why otherwise would he not want to make more money off of me??? I believe many of you will feel that maybe he doesn't know what he is doing, but he is veteran in this industry (not that it equates with knowledge, of course), but he is an AGS store and carries AGS stones, so clearly he does know the finer stones exist! But, as well all know, everyone has a budget and I am no exception. I can't expect my husband to be in favor of shelling out an exorbitant amount of cash just to get to the nirvana, nor do I want him to, and I already feel so ashamed of all I have put him through all these years with the diamond trades and the mistakes along the way and putting my trust in jewelers I should have not had trust in... you all know the color is extremely important to me and I don't want to go below E. Also, I don't want to go below 2 ct. SO, with all that said, is it worth it to go down this rabbit hole? If he comes up with something - as I am sure he will! - what if it is cost-prohibitive? Then I will be bummed I couldn't get it. Right now, I don't have a stone that is better staring at me in the face, if you get what I mean. So here's the other caveat: Many of you have heard the story of the beautiful marquise my husband proposed with (1.01, D color, SI1, 2:1 ratio, minimal bow tie)... that I FOOLISHLY traded away in lieu of BIGGER (and, hence, less quality). That trade then was traded for even larger (and even lesser quality)... until I was able to make the move this past Feb. (With that said, there are MANY elements that are quantum improvement from the previous which I can get into but suffice it to say that when I presented my husband with the concept of getting something smaller but of higher quality in a mounting that was comfortable for my finger issues that would essentially be an equal trade with no out of pocket which is basically what it was, short of a couple hundred dollars which included the special mounting for my finger situation from CLIQ, that I would be happy even if I could get SOME improvement... and in honesty that has certainly come to fruition.) However, I have still been mourning the loss of that original diamond, it has grated and tormented me more and more as the years have gone on to the point that now I am absolutely heartbroken and devastated over it. I was hoping that my new diamond in question would have served as a "replacement" for that but clearly not, given it's now recognized shortfalls with regard to the proportions and optical deficiencies. So I have had this delusion of possibly getting that original back. Stranger things have happened! It was traded at a jeweler in Hong Kong. The son has now taken over the business. My very sweet husband was able to get their contact info and told me to see if they still had it! Can you believe what a great husband I have! So I know it was a needle in a haystack, but I figured some jewelers have stones sitting in their inventory for years. And given marquises had sort of gone "out of fashion" to the point of ridicule for many years maybe even more of shot that it just sat there. Well, I made contact and, sadly, it is not there I was thinking earlier this week, after I had been in contact with my jeweler over a swap of the round, that perhaps I let that go and put the money into getting my original back and let it be. I would be reunited and made "whole", and the round is still a nice diamond... it's not super ideal but it did make 3X (although we know what that means lol) and it is an E color with a GIA grading (previous diamond had EGL Israel cert so you know huge improvement there alone!) which you all know I'm elated about the E color as I've gone on ad nauseam with you all about it, and certainly the stone even with some proportion shortfalls is nothing to sneeze at, knowing you have something that is of 1% of all diamonds with its E color, which I personally think is pretty cool! It has the small table and high crown which is aesthetically appealing to me, and in MOST lighting conditions I love it. BUT... there's always a but lol... there are a couple lighting situations in which it is definitely not pleasing to me... and I'm sure that's where those shortfalls in the specs come into focus. But let's be honest, we've seen way, way, way worse presented here as well as out in the world. So I don't want to be unappreciative nor a complainer. So I was thinking that if my husband was willing to buy that original one back, he may be willing to "replace" with another marquise of similar specs to the original. He knows I'm devastated. So maybe I discuss with him rather than go down the rabbit hole with the jeweler on this one, and just be happy that I now have a much nicer diamond and mounting than I had previously, even though not PS perfect, use the funds instead to get something to fill the void of that marquise by getting a marquise of similar specs to the original???????? PLEASE SHARE ALL THOUGHTS... I TOTALLY RESPECT AND APPRECIATE WHAT YOU ALL BRING TO PS AND WHAT YOU HAVE BROUGHT TO ME THUS FAR!!! Thank you in advance.