I had hoped and prayed we''d be able to get an upgraded diamond to commerate our 25th anniversary, but my hopes have been dashed and I am extremely depressed. This may be a lengthier post than most want to read, so be forewarned.
My husband and I visited 2 jewelers and got their views on my current center stone--a .71 carat princess cut--and 6 side stones, 4 tapered baguettes and 2 rounds. The first jeweler had nothing at all positive to say about my stones and that devastated me. Granted, I knew nothing about diamonds in 1992 when I got this ring, so it has no cert to boot. He commented that he would take my YG setting with the stones in it and "try" to sell it but that it would take time and no guarantees of much of anything. I was so depressed I cannot even find the words to explain how much. Nonetheless, I wanted to view the stones they had set aside for us to see. I specifically asked for cushion cuts and radiants in 1.50+ with color going no more than an I for now. Keep in mind my husband went with me to accompany me to be informed, to be "nice" and to be made aware of what I like. We had not talked budget much because he wanted to hear what the jewelers would first say about my ring and the stones in it. He had this unfounded notion that since princess cuts are hot in jewelry stores, that my center stone must price the same. I felt it was important for him to hear the truth from the source, not me per se.
After we left the first jeweler, we went to the second one and had a much smoother and more cordial situation. Still, the subject of how much my stones and ring had to come up since we are trading in due to budget restrictions and when it did, he nearly had a heart attack when he heard how much my stone is perhaps actually worth. I ideally want a cushion cut that is no smaller than 1.55 carats, F-G in color SI in clarity is ok if the cut is VG or EX. I will not skimp in the area of cut. I can go a bit smaller, but not in cut. My intention for these visits was not to leave with an order for a custom ring, but rather for him to see what we needed to have $ wise to make this happen. Hubby said there was no frickin way any time soon that was going to happen...and I nearly passed out.
I have been married to him for 25 years this coming Feb. and bore him 9 kids. Yes, we have bills, but who doesn''t. Yes, we probably have more bills than other families due to the size of our family, but by golly, I haven''t asked for a whole hell of a lot either. I told him all of this as well. He is self employed as an accounting business consultant whose specialty is computer software installations. We also own 2 local businesses in our community. I am not trying to sound selfish here and I do not feel I am. I say "no" alot more now to church, community or school requests of me than I used to...and it feels damn good to do so.
I was silent awhile when hubby told me what he the way he did. I know he didn''t mean it so coarsely, but it did hurt. We talked more and we came to a compromise. He said that since I cannot have the stone that I ideally want at this time, he was willing for me to get the setting I wanted and to just put the princess cut in there for now until we can purchase the center stone that I ideally plan(and you know I WILL get it!
) to get. He thinks in 3 years. I told him what all of you have said around here that the diamonds are INCREASING in cost so that timeline may have to be greatly altered(err...like in maybe next Christmas, if I can have it my way...).
So what do you think? Am I horrendous for trying every thing known to human women to get my incredibly stubborn husband to see that this ring is more than a piece of jewelry to me, that it symbolizes US for 25 years? Any suggestions are appreciated cuz I am sinking fast and am losing my mind...
My husband and I visited 2 jewelers and got their views on my current center stone--a .71 carat princess cut--and 6 side stones, 4 tapered baguettes and 2 rounds. The first jeweler had nothing at all positive to say about my stones and that devastated me. Granted, I knew nothing about diamonds in 1992 when I got this ring, so it has no cert to boot. He commented that he would take my YG setting with the stones in it and "try" to sell it but that it would take time and no guarantees of much of anything. I was so depressed I cannot even find the words to explain how much. Nonetheless, I wanted to view the stones they had set aside for us to see. I specifically asked for cushion cuts and radiants in 1.50+ with color going no more than an I for now. Keep in mind my husband went with me to accompany me to be informed, to be "nice" and to be made aware of what I like. We had not talked budget much because he wanted to hear what the jewelers would first say about my ring and the stones in it. He had this unfounded notion that since princess cuts are hot in jewelry stores, that my center stone must price the same. I felt it was important for him to hear the truth from the source, not me per se.
After we left the first jeweler, we went to the second one and had a much smoother and more cordial situation. Still, the subject of how much my stones and ring had to come up since we are trading in due to budget restrictions and when it did, he nearly had a heart attack when he heard how much my stone is perhaps actually worth. I ideally want a cushion cut that is no smaller than 1.55 carats, F-G in color SI in clarity is ok if the cut is VG or EX. I will not skimp in the area of cut. I can go a bit smaller, but not in cut. My intention for these visits was not to leave with an order for a custom ring, but rather for him to see what we needed to have $ wise to make this happen. Hubby said there was no frickin way any time soon that was going to happen...and I nearly passed out.
I have been married to him for 25 years this coming Feb. and bore him 9 kids. Yes, we have bills, but who doesn''t. Yes, we probably have more bills than other families due to the size of our family, but by golly, I haven''t asked for a whole hell of a lot either. I told him all of this as well. He is self employed as an accounting business consultant whose specialty is computer software installations. We also own 2 local businesses in our community. I am not trying to sound selfish here and I do not feel I am. I say "no" alot more now to church, community or school requests of me than I used to...and it feels damn good to do so.
I was silent awhile when hubby told me what he the way he did. I know he didn''t mean it so coarsely, but it did hurt. We talked more and we came to a compromise. He said that since I cannot have the stone that I ideally want at this time, he was willing for me to get the setting I wanted and to just put the princess cut in there for now until we can purchase the center stone that I ideally plan(and you know I WILL get it!
So what do you think? Am I horrendous for trying every thing known to human women to get my incredibly stubborn husband to see that this ring is more than a piece of jewelry to me, that it symbolizes US for 25 years? Any suggestions are appreciated cuz I am sinking fast and am losing my mind...
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