bling_dream19
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Cash all day long!
ive been invited to a wedding where apparently nothing on the gift registry was under $200 and the remaining choices when I looked started at $500! We were able to regretfully decline that invite due to other commitments. I know for a fact that another couple, waitlisted I guess, got an invite after we declined and yet the Bride commented to me afterwards “I might have thought you’d still send us a gift even though you couldn’t come”.
Holy crap - that's a ballsy bride
Yep. She should send her a note apologizing for the oversight and a gift of an etiquette guide lol.
In France it’s cash. I’ve been to several weddings, and there is always a little table with envelopes and a cute receptacle. At my DD’s wedding she had a custom painted globe with the date and names of bride and groom on it, surrounded by beautiful flowers. I thought it was kind of the guests to give them a travel fund/ furniture fund for their start in life together. In this day and age, kids need all the help they can get.
I have completely different experiences in France. I think it varies by region and social circle.
For every wedding we went to , there was a registry and any mention of it would have been seen as faux pas. You need to ask the parents or best man/ maid of honour.
Very much along the lines of what @seaurchin described.
Registries are supposed to have lots of small ticket items (35-50€) , so people don't feel like you are greedy.
With the big registry services the couples aren't obliged to actually purchase the item if the person chose to pay on-line- you'll get a balance in house. So oftentimes a, registry gift it's basically a thinly veiled gift voucher at Galeries Lafayette or Le Printemps.
We still got some useless ( bed linen that was not the, size of our bedding) and outright bizarre gifts (unflattering photographs of the person at our wedding - relative of DH s father..)
The French seem to like their complicated social rituals.
@seaurchin , if you don't mind sharing, what's your cultural background?
My own culture ( northern Germany) is even more uptight on seeming demanding or cash grabby... So a registry is pushing it and auntie xyz will want to see every single towel at your home. If people ask for cash, most people are slightly offended and will try to make physical gift anyways.
Gifts are nowhere near as, outrageous as, in the US, parties way more modest, usually.