laine
Brilliant_Rock
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I have been dating my BF for 4 years now (I'm 29, he's 27). We have discussed marriage often and agree that it is in the near future. I will be moving out of state this summer for a new job. BF plans to move with me, but so far, has not found a job. He will stay in his current job until a job opens up in the new state, hopefully within 6 months or so (and he says he will move down in a year, job or no job). The lack of job in the new state is also why he is waiting to propose; he feels he needs to be settled in a job first. I think he's crazy, but have accepted it as part of his traditional ways.
So, we went house shopping together and found a house we both love. I can afford it on my own, am paying the whole down payment, and had planned to put it in my name until we're married. However, with the $8000 tax credit, we've discussed putting the house in his name as well (he's a first-time home-buyer and eligible, I am not).
On the one hand, $8000 of free money would be really nice. It could pay off the rest of his student loans and buy me an engagement ring. On the other hand, I feel a little funny about buying a house with someone other than a spouse--it's something I always thought I would never do. While I have complete confidence we will get married, I'm still unsure about buying a house together now.
Any thoughts? What would you do?
ETA: We currently live together in a townhouse I owned before we met. We split expenses but have completely separate finances.
So, we went house shopping together and found a house we both love. I can afford it on my own, am paying the whole down payment, and had planned to put it in my name until we're married. However, with the $8000 tax credit, we've discussed putting the house in his name as well (he's a first-time home-buyer and eligible, I am not).
On the one hand, $8000 of free money would be really nice. It could pay off the rest of his student loans and buy me an engagement ring. On the other hand, I feel a little funny about buying a house with someone other than a spouse--it's something I always thought I would never do. While I have complete confidence we will get married, I'm still unsure about buying a house together now.
Any thoughts? What would you do?
ETA: We currently live together in a townhouse I owned before we met. We split expenses but have completely separate finances.