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This is a great thread, Mr. Eric--and even though your phrasing did come off as a bit confrontational, don't sweat it, the best ideas come from really heated interactions.
Other people have said it, but I wanted to add that I just don't attach that much meaning to things no matter how much effort was put into finding the "right" thing, or how "special" other people may perceive this thing. I DO attach a lot of meaning to actions and memories, and I would never trade in my memories for a different ring, but I would consider trading in one ring for another.
As a relative relationship newbie (we've only been together for three years) it looks like I seem to be in the group minority opinion regarding rings and sentiment, which I find pretty interesting.
My BF and I just shopped for an ering together, and it is being made as we speak (!!!--obligatory exclamation marks!) Now, my BF and I are in a bit of a different position than most first-time engaged couples: we've been misering away money for several years, we live far below our means, and we were able to purchase my "dream ring" the first time around. I can't tell you if this ring will remain my dream ring forever, but that did not concern either one of us since we have no control over that. I love the ring now, I plan on wearing it as a symbol of our engagement to be married, and I'm hoping that even though I will have A RING, our focus will remain on the way we behave toward each other and outside of each other's company, the memories we create, and our efforts toward creating our best life together.
Rings just seem so beside the point when I think about the things that really make a relationship. Remember--a diamond ring is not an inherent, natural expression of love! It is simply a trend that we have taken to following, and then we PROJECT meaning onto the thing. (As a diamond lover, let me say THANK GOODNESS for this trend!
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And yes, Pricescope is certainly a skewed representation of upgraders--women who do not care about upgrading or about jewelry in general are probably NOT spending their time on a jewelry forum! And I love the upgrades--where would I get my inspiration if it weren't for all these beautiful upgrades!
Other people have said it, but I wanted to add that I just don't attach that much meaning to things no matter how much effort was put into finding the "right" thing, or how "special" other people may perceive this thing. I DO attach a lot of meaning to actions and memories, and I would never trade in my memories for a different ring, but I would consider trading in one ring for another.
As a relative relationship newbie (we've only been together for three years) it looks like I seem to be in the group minority opinion regarding rings and sentiment, which I find pretty interesting.
My BF and I just shopped for an ering together, and it is being made as we speak (!!!--obligatory exclamation marks!) Now, my BF and I are in a bit of a different position than most first-time engaged couples: we've been misering away money for several years, we live far below our means, and we were able to purchase my "dream ring" the first time around. I can't tell you if this ring will remain my dream ring forever, but that did not concern either one of us since we have no control over that. I love the ring now, I plan on wearing it as a symbol of our engagement to be married, and I'm hoping that even though I will have A RING, our focus will remain on the way we behave toward each other and outside of each other's company, the memories we create, and our efforts toward creating our best life together.
Rings just seem so beside the point when I think about the things that really make a relationship. Remember--a diamond ring is not an inherent, natural expression of love! It is simply a trend that we have taken to following, and then we PROJECT meaning onto the thing. (As a diamond lover, let me say THANK GOODNESS for this trend!

And yes, Pricescope is certainly a skewed representation of upgraders--women who do not care about upgrading or about jewelry in general are probably NOT spending their time on a jewelry forum! And I love the upgrades--where would I get my inspiration if it weren't for all these beautiful upgrades!