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Shiny_Rock
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- Dec 1, 2010
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Hi there, it's my first post in this section of the forum and I don't know if it's the right place to post because technically I'm engaged (since last August) but I still don't have my e-ring...so I still feel very much like a LIW!
To make it short, we got engaged last August and I took him to a trip to celebrate. That trip was my engagement gift to him and it was pretty expensive but definitely worth it as it gave us the opportunity to celebrate our engagement proprely!
The problem is we came back from our "engagement trip" 5 months ago and I still don't have the e-ring he promised me. Sot it started frustrating me as he first told me I would get it by the end of the year, then December, and now it's become "when I can afford it...soon"...
Like many girls I do want an engagement ring but I didn't expect to have to wait for several months once we would get engaged. So instead of being happy at the prospect of having a diamond ring I'm growing frustrated to the point where I even considered asking him not to buy me ring...what's the meaning of this ring now that we've been officially engaged for almost half a year ?!
But I know he won't change his mind and would be very upset if I suggested that he doesn't buy me a ring so I didn't even try.
At the same time I feel bad because I know that he must feel under pressure to get me that ring since he got his own engagement present months ago...so I don't speak too much about it anymore. I already suggested he got me a smaller diamond, or a non-diamond e-ring but he doesn't want to hear about it.
He doesn't seem to understand that what matters is the ring as a symbol and that I'd rather have a smaller one or one with a saphhire instead of having to wait for months....
I guess it's normal to be frustrated by this situation but I think I'm overthinking the whole thing and I come to the point where I don't care anymore for a ring...it's just too late...
You must be thinking I am being too harsh on my Fiance but I spend so much time preparing his present (and it also proved very expensive) that I feel truly disappointed that I didn't get anything more than a "Yes" in return...Once again, I was ready to settle on a small ring or one without a diamond and told him so...but he doesn't want to hear! Just like he doesn't realize next month is Valentine's day and it would have been the perfect opportunity (I already asked him if he wanted to make something special that day but he didn't answer).
Have some of you been in the same situation? Did it not "spoil" the pleasure of being given an e-ring once you finally got it? Please share your experience with me if you're currently in the same situation...I don't dare talking about this to my friends as I fear they wouldn't understand what I'm going through.
To make it short, we got engaged last August and I took him to a trip to celebrate. That trip was my engagement gift to him and it was pretty expensive but definitely worth it as it gave us the opportunity to celebrate our engagement proprely!
The problem is we came back from our "engagement trip" 5 months ago and I still don't have the e-ring he promised me. Sot it started frustrating me as he first told me I would get it by the end of the year, then December, and now it's become "when I can afford it...soon"...
Like many girls I do want an engagement ring but I didn't expect to have to wait for several months once we would get engaged. So instead of being happy at the prospect of having a diamond ring I'm growing frustrated to the point where I even considered asking him not to buy me ring...what's the meaning of this ring now that we've been officially engaged for almost half a year ?!
But I know he won't change his mind and would be very upset if I suggested that he doesn't buy me a ring so I didn't even try.
At the same time I feel bad because I know that he must feel under pressure to get me that ring since he got his own engagement present months ago...so I don't speak too much about it anymore. I already suggested he got me a smaller diamond, or a non-diamond e-ring but he doesn't want to hear about it.
He doesn't seem to understand that what matters is the ring as a symbol and that I'd rather have a smaller one or one with a saphhire instead of having to wait for months....
I guess it's normal to be frustrated by this situation but I think I'm overthinking the whole thing and I come to the point where I don't care anymore for a ring...it's just too late...
You must be thinking I am being too harsh on my Fiance but I spend so much time preparing his present (and it also proved very expensive) that I feel truly disappointed that I didn't get anything more than a "Yes" in return...Once again, I was ready to settle on a small ring or one without a diamond and told him so...but he doesn't want to hear! Just like he doesn't realize next month is Valentine's day and it would have been the perfect opportunity (I already asked him if he wanted to make something special that day but he didn't answer).
Have some of you been in the same situation? Did it not "spoil" the pleasure of being given an e-ring once you finally got it? Please share your experience with me if you're currently in the same situation...I don't dare talking about this to my friends as I fear they wouldn't understand what I'm going through.