What would you like for Christmas?

[chemgirl]

A present!

DH is very anti-gift giving and views Christmas as a huge marketing ploy. I made him a list for our first Christmas together and he bought me the least expensive thing on it.

This year I did all of the Christmas shopping for both of us. He found his present in the back of the closet and is already using it. I've been nagging him to wrap mine and put it under the tree, but so far no luck.

Funny thing is that he likes putting up a tree and will bake Christmas cookies.

I've been hinting for some bezel stud earrings (went as far as sending links to specific diamond pairs) so we'll see.

Not getting my hopes up since his response was "well just buy them if you want them."

 

[MichelleCarmen]

I've been hinting for some bezel stud earrings (went as far as sending links to specific diamond pairs) so we'll see.

Not getting my hopes up since his response was "well just buy them if you want them."

Why don't you just get the earrings and wrap them and put them under the tree?

I'm buying my own earrings (my dh isn't totally anti-christmas but he doesn't care about diamonds and wouldn't have the patience to hunt for a matching pair...I'd actually be afraid of what would appear under the tree if he was put in charge of picking out earrings for me!)

 

[chemgirl]

I've been hinting for some bezel stud earrings (went as far as sending links to specific diamond pairs) so we'll see.

Not getting my hopes up since his response was "well just buy them if you want them."

Why don't you just get the earrings and wrap them and put them under the tree?

I'm buying my own earrings (my dh isn't totally anti-christmas but he doesn't care about diamonds and wouldn't have the patience to hunt for a matching pair...I'd actually be afraid of what would appear under the tree if he was put in charge of picking out earrings for me!)

I might do just that next year. I bought myself a Kate Spade bag "from DH" already.

Our anniversary was last week and he got me gas. Like I came home to find a contractor in my kitchen installing a gas line behind the stove. I did say I wanted a gas line in the kitchen, but I didn't really expect it as an anniversary gift. No new gas stove to go with it though. DH wants to wait for the electric one to die first

If it's not practical he doesn't get it.

My coworkers love hearing about his "gift giving"

 

[MichelleCarmen]

I've been hinting for some bezel stud earrings (went as far as sending links to specific diamond pairs) so we'll see.

Not getting my hopes up since his response was "well just buy them if you want them."

Why don't you just get the earrings and wrap them and put them under the tree?

I'm buying my own earrings (my dh isn't totally anti-christmas but he doesn't care about diamonds and wouldn't have the patience to hunt for a matching pair...I'd actually be afraid of what would appear under the tree if he was put in charge of picking out earrings for me!)

I might do just that next year. I bought myself a Kate Spade bag "from DH" already.

Our anniversary was last week and he got me gas. Like I came home to find a contractor in my kitchen installing a gas line behind the stove. I did say I wanted a gas line in the kitchen, but I didn't really expect it as an anniversary gift. No new gas stove to go with it though. DH wants to wait for the electric one to die first

If it's not practical he doesn't get it.

My coworkers love hearing about his "gift giving"

Sounds like my husband! Either has to be practical or for the whole family...but this year, he's getting a new TV and setting up a gaming room which means I will be stuck hearing the boys playing video games from all downstairs rooms and won't be able to escape from them. The most thoughtful gift was from a relative who gave me a Kindle Fire last year so I could hide upstairs from all the guys in the house and watch girly stuff.

At any rate though...how about giving your husband a gas stove for Christmas? Seems like a nice practical gift

Which Kate Spade bag did you buy?

 

[Dandi]

I would really like an iPad from DH. So I bought one for myself yesterday, wrapped it and put it with the other presents

 

[chemgirl]

I've been hinting for some bezel stud earrings (went as far as sending links to specific diamond pairs) so we'll see.

Not getting my hopes up since his response was "well just buy them if you want them."

Why don't you just get the earrings and wrap them and put them under the tree?

I'm buying my own earrings (my dh isn't totally anti-christmas but he doesn't care about diamonds and wouldn't have the patience to hunt for a matching pair...I'd actually be afraid of what would appear under the tree if he was put in charge of picking out earrings for me!)

I might do just that next year. I bought myself a Kate Spade bag "from DH" already.

Our anniversary was last week and he got me gas. Like I came home to find a contractor in my kitchen installing a gas line behind the stove. I did say I wanted a gas line in the kitchen, but I didn't really expect it as an anniversary gift. No new gas stove to go with it though. DH wants to wait for the electric one to die first

If it's not practical he doesn't get it.

My coworkers love hearing about his "gift giving"

Sounds like my husband! Either has to be practical or for the whole family...but this year, he's getting a new TV and setting up a gaming room which means I will be stuck hearing the boys playing video games from all downstairs rooms and won't be able to escape from them. The most thoughtful gift was from a relative who gave me a Kindle Fire last year so I could hide upstairs from all the guys in the house and watch girly stuff.

At any rate though...how about giving your husband a gas stove for Christmas? Seems like a nice practical gift

Which Kate Spade bag did you buy?

Haha, nice and practical. I like how you think!

I bought the Cedar Street Maise in black http://www.katespade.com/cedar-street-maise/PXRU4471,en_US,pd.html?dwvar_PXRU4471_color=001&dwvar_PXRU4471_size=UNS&cgid=ks-handbags-view-all#start=5&cgid=ks-handbags-view-all

Its big enough to fit my 11 inch laptop so perfect to bring on casual meetings.

 

[MichelleCarmen]

Haha, nice and practical. I like how you think!

I bought the Cedar Street Maise in black http://www.katespade.com/cedar-street-maise/PXRU4471,en_US,pd.html?dwvar_PXRU4471_color=001&dwvar_PXRU4471_size=UNS&cgid=ks-handbags-view-all#start=5&cgid=ks-handbags-view-all

Its big enough to fit my 11 inch laptop so perfect to bring on casual meetings.

That is cute! Looks perfect for both dressing up or casual.

 

[LaraOnline]

Perhaps I need to adjust my technique and buy my own present and wrap it...
I'm not sure exactly how that will go down.
But if I don't do that, I may not get anything?? eeek

 

[rosetta]

Perhaps I need to adjust my technique and buy my own present and wrap it...
I'm not sure exactly how that will go down.
But if I don't do that, I may not get anything?? eeek

Lara, you need to take up this philosophy....

http://www.harveynichols.com/sorry?hpcont=yes&hptag=sorry

 

[LaraOnline]

OMGoodness ROFL

You are wicked, Rosetta!!!
That was hilarious!

 

[rosetta]

It's my favourite Christmas ad this year!

 

[packrat]

hahahahaha that reminds me of the things on youtube (is it a Jimmy Kimmel challenge maybe?) where parents wrap up strange things and give them to their kids for Christmas and tape their reaction. Hysterical. One kid got an underground dog fence and one got a can of baked beans. hahahahahahahaha

 

[canuk-gal]

Perhaps I need to adjust my technique and buy my own present and wrap it...
I'm not sure exactly how that will go down.
But if I don't do that, I may not get anything?? eeek

Lara, you need to take up this philosophy....

http://www.harveynichols.com/sorry?hpcont=yes&hptag=sorry

I loved the paper clips!


cheers--Sharon

 

[diamondseeker2006]

Haha! That was great!

 

[GliderPoss]

A present!

DH is very anti-gift giving and views Christmas as a huge marketing ploy. I made him a list for our first Christmas together and he bought me the least expensive thing on it.

This year I did all of the Christmas shopping for both of us. He found his present in the back of the closet and is already using it. I've been nagging him to wrap mine and put it under the tree, but so far no luck.

Funny thing is that he likes putting up a tree and will bake Christmas cookies.

I've been hinting for some bezel stud earrings (went as far as sending links to specific diamond pairs) so we'll see.

Not getting my hopes up since his response was "well just buy them if you want them."

OMG are we somehow married to the SAME MAN?????

Hubby is such a grinch and his family only do the bare minimum ("too much fuss & expense!" ) although he has definitely improved after all these years with MY family who really like to go all out for xmas. He loves baking xmas cake and decorating tree, all the eating... just hates anything to do with presents, cards or wrapping! So I do it all...

We are posting out to a new location this Christmas so i have a lots to look foward to:
- New house to decorate (some matching furniture would be nice...)
- An exciting new town to explore, its apparently a very beautiful area with great bushwalks.
- My sister just had her second child - so get to meet him soon
- Seeing my other sister & her family who currently live overseas but are moving back to Oz
- A whole glorious month off before starting a new job (literally have not had that much time off since uni 10 years ago!!!)

As to the original question - what do I want for Christmas? I would like our lives to have less interference from technological gadgets - ie. being glued to the ipad, iphone, laptop, tv all the time! Sometime I think i'm talking to a brick wall and I'm sure he is sick of me working from home when I'm not meant to be checking emails. I'd like a little more simplicity in our lives. More heartfelt communication and face-to-face discussion/contact. Does that make sense? Oh and a ruby ring if we are going all in....

 

[Ashleigh]

Wow, I didn't know this thread exist and started something similar. I'm getting a camera in red and he's getting a titanium ring. But we bought our own presents and will bill each other when the statement comes. Since his gift to me is more expensive, he will just pay me the difference. Finally a red camera!

 

[LaraOnline]

Perhaps I need to adjust my technique and buy my own present and wrap it...
I'm not sure exactly how that will go down.
But if I don't do that, I may not get anything?? eeek

Well we finally got together to discuss christmas just now.
We decided on the kids presents, and he has gone off to buy them.
He repeated that he really didn't want a present, as 'Christmas is just for kids really'...
It is???

I feel deeply crestfallen.
He used to buy me quite thoughtful presents before we had kids - ironically when I didn't actually deserve a present lol!

I have joined the silent army of taken-for-granted married women, it seems.

 

[Dee*Jay]

Perhaps I need to adjust my technique and buy my own present and wrap it...
I'm not sure exactly how that will go down.
But if I don't do that, I may not get anything?? eeek

Well we finally got together to discuss christmas just now.
We decided on the kids presents, and he has gone off to buy them.
He repeated that he really didn't want a present, as 'Christmas is just for kids really'...
It is???

I feel deeply crestfallen.
He used to buy me quite thoughtful presents before we had kids - ironically when I didn't actually deserve a present lol!

I have joined the silent army of taken-for-granted married women, it seems.

No! NO NO NO! Honey, I'm going to give you some unsoliciated advice that you are perfectly free to ignore, but I hope you won't (this also comes from the "evening routine" thread in FH&H).

This who scenario has nowhere to go but BAD. Try taking a little control. *Gentle* control if necessary, but control nonetheless. What about: "DH, I thought about what you said in terms of Christmas being just for kids and I don't think you know how much I means to me when you go out of your way to show me a little special attention too. I am going to get you something for Christmas becuase it means a lot to me to do nice things for you. Is there something in particular you would like or can I use my imagination? *I WOULD LIKE* [insert something here -- or not, and just say "I look forward to whatever you get me"]."

Honestly, this is FAR FAR more delicate a conversation I would ever have had with the XH or any boyfriend, but I am being respectful of your situation and the way *I PERCEIVE IT.* If there is a better way for you to say this, of course go for it, but I really really urge you TO say it.

Biggest hugs to you my friend.

(Dee climbs down off of soapbox and hopes that this is taken in the spirit in which it is intended.)


ETA: I do recognize that not everyone walks around with the "I am woman, hear me roar!" mentality, but at least meow a little louder.

 

[MonkeysInk]

I would like that lovely 1.69 L antique cushion in JbEG's latest email. I am so enamored of it that I went so far as to contact them, thinking perhaps of putting it on layaway and buying it for myself, but it's already sold.

More realistically, I asked my husband for a car wash pass and the subscription to watch the new season of Good Wife online (we don't have cable) and a pass to the rec center for the year.

 

[LaraOnline]

Perhaps I need to adjust my technique and buy my own present and wrap it...
I'm not sure exactly how that will go down.
But if I don't do that, I may not get anything?? eeek

Well we finally got together to discuss christmas just now.
We decided on the kids presents, and he has gone off to buy them.
He repeated that he really didn't want a present, as 'Christmas is just for kids really'...
It is???

I feel deeply crestfallen.
He used to buy me quite thoughtful presents before we had kids - ironically when I didn't actually deserve a present lol!

I have joined the silent army of taken-for-granted married women, it seems.

No! NO NO NO! Honey, I'm going to give you some unsoliciated advice that you are perfectly free to ignore, but I hope you won't (this also comes from the "evening routine" thread in FH&H).

This who scenario has nowhere to go but BAD. Try taking a little control. *Gentle* control if necessary, but control nonetheless. What about: "DH, I thought about what you said in terms of Christmas being just for kids and I don't think you know how much I means to me when you go out of your way to show me a little special attention too. I am going to get you something for Christmas becuase it means a lot to me to do nice things for you. Is there something in particular you would like or can I use my imagination? *I WOULD LIKE* [insert something here -- or not, and just say "I look forward to whatever you get me"]."

Honestly, this is FAR FAR more delicate a conversation I would ever have had with the XH or any boyfriend, but I am being respectful of your situation and the way *I PERCEIVE IT.* If there is a better way for you to say this, of course go for it, but I really really urge you TO say it.

Biggest hugs to you my friend.

(Dee climbs down off of soapbox and hopes that this is taken in the spirit in which it is intended.)


ETA: I do recognize that not everyone walks around with the "I am woman, hear me roar!" mentality, but at least meow a little louder.

LOL LOL thank you Dee. I appreciate your energy and friendly connection!
It may seem that I come across as a mouse heheh. Which I am not.
But even though I am not a mouse, I must say that my husband is definitely a lion, and even a tiny niggle can have pretty massive ramifications, very quickly...which makes me nervous!
When he's in a good mood, all things are good...but, MAN! it is very hard to get anything approaching 'an upper hand'!!
He's a workaholic, which seems to give him a holier-than-thou upper hand as well, alas.

I have actually bought him a present... whisky liquor with gold flakes in it

 

[iLander]

I've been hinting for some bezel stud earrings (went as far as sending links to specific diamond pairs) so we'll see.

Not getting my hopes up since his response was "well just buy them if you want them."

Why don't you just get the earrings and wrap them and put them under the tree?

I'm buying my own earrings (my dh isn't totally anti-christmas but he doesn't care about diamonds and wouldn't have the patience to hunt for a matching pair...I'd actually be afraid of what would appear under the tree if he was put in charge of picking out earrings for me!)

I might do just that next year. I bought myself a Kate Spade bag "from DH" already.

Our anniversary was last week and he got me gas. Like I came home to find a contractor in my kitchen installing a gas line behind the stove. I did say I wanted a gas line in the kitchen, but I didn't really expect it as an anniversary gift. No new gas stove to go with it though. DH wants to wait for the electric one to die first

If it's not practical he doesn't get it.

My coworkers love hearing about his "gift giving"

That's the 5th anniversary, right? Doesn't it go paper, china, wood, porcelain, gas?

 

[missy]

Perhaps I need to adjust my technique and buy my own present and wrap it...
I'm not sure exactly how that will go down.
But if I don't do that, I may not get anything?? eeek

Well we finally got together to discuss christmas just now.
We decided on the kids presents, and he has gone off to buy them.
He repeated that he really didn't want a present, as 'Christmas is just for kids really'...
It is???

I feel deeply crestfallen.
He used to buy me quite thoughtful presents before we had kids - ironically when I didn't actually deserve a present lol!

I have joined the silent army of taken-for-granted married women, it seems.

No! NO NO NO! Honey, I'm going to give you some unsoliciated advice that you are perfectly free to ignore, but I hope you won't (this also comes from the "evening routine" thread in FH&H).

This who scenario has nowhere to go but BAD. Try taking a little control. *Gentle* control if necessary, but control nonetheless. What about: "DH, I thought about what you said in terms of Christmas being just for kids and I don't think you know how much I means to me when you go out of your way to show me a little special attention too. I am going to get you something for Christmas becuase it means a lot to me to do nice things for you. Is there something in particular you would like or can I use my imagination? *I WOULD LIKE* [insert something here -- or not, and just say "I look forward to whatever you get me"]."

Honestly, this is FAR FAR more delicate a conversation I would ever have had with the XH or any boyfriend, but I am being respectful of your situation and the way *I PERCEIVE IT.* If there is a better way for you to say this, of course go for it, but I really really urge you TO say it.

Biggest hugs to you my friend.

(Dee climbs down off of soapbox and hopes that this is taken in the spirit in which it is intended.)


ETA: I do recognize that not everyone walks around with the "I am woman, hear me roar!" mentality, but at least meow a little louder.

LOL LOL thank you Dee. I appreciate your energy and friendly connection!
It may seem that I come across as a mouse heheh. Which I am not.
But even though I am not a mouse, I must say that my husband is definitely a lion, and even a tiny niggle can have pretty massive ramifications, very quickly...which makes me nervous!
When he's in a good mood, all things are good...but, MAN! it is very hard to get anything approaching 'an upper hand'!!
He's a workaholic, which seems to give him a holier-than-thou upper hand as well, alas.

I have actually bought him a present... whisky liquor with gold flakes in it

Lara, I totally agree with DeeJay and would add that if he doesn't get you something for the holidays just buy it for yourself girl. You deserve it.

 

[LaraOnline]

Thanks Ladies, sorry for the threadjack, Rosetta!

There certainly has been some interesting and personal stuff canvassed in this thread!
Best of the season to all who have posted!!

 

[LaraOnline]

[quote="iLander|1386337723|3568731"
That's the 5th anniversary, right? Doesn't it go paper, china, wood, porcelain, gas?

[/quote]

 

[Dee*Jay]

Lara - I just had to come back and thank you for taking my "advice" (and I use the phrase very very loosely!) with exceptional good grace. I will now back up and get my nose firmly OUT of your business (where it never belonged in the first place!) and head to the grocery store because I have about a hundred people come to my house in less than 9 hours. Oy. Happy holidays to you and your family! OK, now where's that spiral cut ham... ???

 

[MichelleCarmen]

Lara - Yes, just get yourself something!

I've been running around buying gifts for the kids all week, and like your DH, mine pulled the, "Christmas is for kids," line on me a couple days back and I *almost* came home with a second kitty for myself last night to cuddle with (b/c DH isn't getting any cuddling w/that attitude) but then the little kitty sneezed when I put him back in the kennel and I am not sure b/c I don't want to bring home a cat w/an upper respiratory cough and have my healthy cat catch that and end up with two kitties on anti-biotics...so I'm going to look for a kitten on Craig's List.

 

[JewelFreak]

I want this. For Christmas or for anything!



Faberge nephrite box, c. 1900. Clasp diamonds & cabochon sapphire, hinge in rear diamonds. Wartski's description says, "Fabergé used six different types of nephrite of different shades and appearance. All were taken from boulders found beside the river Onot in the Irtusk region of Siberia. Birbaum when discussing the firm’s use of nephrite
recalls the finest dark green nephrite, as used in this box, ‘when cut into thin sheets becomes translucent and
acquires a wonderful dense green colour’."

No price listed, which means mucho dinero. I don't care!

--- Laurie

 

[LaraOnline]

Jewelfreak! thank you for finding my present!

Actually, I think PS has worked its magic on my man... still no action, but there are signs he is feeling guilty

He walked past our Hearts on Fire store in town - the only really high end jewellery store here - and said he nearly went in yesterday but then he remembered at the last minute that I had once said they could be critiqued as a bit over-priced!! Aaaarrrrrrgggghhhhhhh
But you know at least with HonF it's excellent quality, great designs that will always wear well and you can always upgrade your stuff!!! Not to mention.... it's in town and I'm friendly with the staff!!

Oh well. Maybe it's back to recipe books lol. I'm too shy now to ask outright for what I want. If not for HonF I have to order online, and it's getting a little late for that, due to our holidays. tra-la!!

MC can you pick one up a kitten that's already had its first vaccines and has been vaccinated against cat flu?

 

[packrat]

The dog I wanted is pending adoption right now-but not for me. I'm glad for her tho.

I pointed out another dog that I love and JD said not yet.

 

[JewelFreak]

Lara, you mean you're going to send it to me?? Awww, thanks! I'll let you look at it sometime.

--- Laurie