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Ideal_Rock
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So I'm not sure to make of this from DS and DIL. It's kind of a long story.
When DS moved out, he took a couple of paintings from our home. We're fine with that, but he didn't mention it, and we were a little surprised to see them on his wall of his apartment. We pointed them out, and we all briefly chatted about them with DS.
Fast forward a couple of years, DS moves in with DIL (then girlfriend). There are no paintings on the wall when we visit. A couple of days later, DH and I ask DS about them, DS claims he never had any paintings. Nope, he has no idea what we're talking about. How strange that we would think that, he has no idea where they are. We are mystified by this response, we all (including DD) saw them on the wall.
Fast forward again, to this past Thanksgiving. As DS and DIL are leaving, they ask me to come to the car with them. There are the paintings! I take them out of the trunk, carry them into the garage. They drive off without saying a word. We are all floored by this.
A few days later, we meet up with them. I ask them what the deal is, that they previously said they didn't have them. Pleasant tone, just curious, not accusatory. Both DS and DIL deny that they ever said that. Of course they had them, why would they say they didn't have them? Maybe I remembered incorrectly? DH told me later that my mouth was just hanging open in disbelief. I just changed the subject and let it go.
The only thing I can conclude is that they are both just plain lying to us, and don't seem to have any problem with that. This wouldn't be the first time, they seem to do it a lot. One weekend we invited them over, but they said they had 3 weddings to attend. Three? Really? On the same weekend? But we didn't say anything, just let it go. They are both loners, and I'm not sure they actually know 3 people. When we met DIL she said she had a Master's degree, which turned out to not be true. There's a TON of little things like this, and they never seem to flinch when they are lying.
It hurts me that he is this way now, he didn't lie before he met DIL. I guess I shouldn't care, he's a grown up. I guess this is just how he is now? Should I just ignore it, or call him on the lies as they come up?
When DS moved out, he took a couple of paintings from our home. We're fine with that, but he didn't mention it, and we were a little surprised to see them on his wall of his apartment. We pointed them out, and we all briefly chatted about them with DS.
Fast forward a couple of years, DS moves in with DIL (then girlfriend). There are no paintings on the wall when we visit. A couple of days later, DH and I ask DS about them, DS claims he never had any paintings. Nope, he has no idea what we're talking about. How strange that we would think that, he has no idea where they are. We are mystified by this response, we all (including DD) saw them on the wall.
Fast forward again, to this past Thanksgiving. As DS and DIL are leaving, they ask me to come to the car with them. There are the paintings! I take them out of the trunk, carry them into the garage. They drive off without saying a word. We are all floored by this.
A few days later, we meet up with them. I ask them what the deal is, that they previously said they didn't have them. Pleasant tone, just curious, not accusatory. Both DS and DIL deny that they ever said that. Of course they had them, why would they say they didn't have them? Maybe I remembered incorrectly? DH told me later that my mouth was just hanging open in disbelief. I just changed the subject and let it go.
The only thing I can conclude is that they are both just plain lying to us, and don't seem to have any problem with that. This wouldn't be the first time, they seem to do it a lot. One weekend we invited them over, but they said they had 3 weddings to attend. Three? Really? On the same weekend? But we didn't say anything, just let it go. They are both loners, and I'm not sure they actually know 3 people. When we met DIL she said she had a Master's degree, which turned out to not be true. There's a TON of little things like this, and they never seem to flinch when they are lying.
It hurts me that he is this way now, he didn't lie before he met DIL. I guess I shouldn't care, he's a grown up. I guess this is just how he is now? Should I just ignore it, or call him on the lies as they come up?