What should I do about my halo???

[Tacori E-ring]

Oh kitty what a disappointment! I am so sorry. I know how excited you were for your own halo. I am glad you realized it was not for you while you still have time to return the setting. How nice of your jeweler indeed!

 

[diamondlil]

Thanks for posting the picture again. It sure looks lovely to me, but if it is just not your style, then it''s not the ring for you. I''m sure you will find something to replace it. I think Princess V has an excellent idea -- spend some browsing SMTR and see what designs you like best. Maybe that will help you narrow the choices down a little when you are talking to your jeweler. Keep us posted.

 

[kittycatsmac]

DiamondLil trust me you guys will have to help me get through this. Because when I first set out to upgrade from my 1ct three stone ring I was like I want something that I can ware from now and forever and always be able to look at my hand and be like sigh..... The more I looked and still look at the halo I''m more like Oh God!!! trust me I wish some men out there that are fixing to start the road to diamondville would read this and make sure that their FI has as much to do with their ering or wedding set as he does . I''m not saying that it was my DH''s fault because I did set every night on the computer and looked at different halos from James Allen. So that''s where my hubby got the idea to go and have the family jeweler fix me up. So if you fall in love with something you''ve never tried before please go do so before your DH or FI thinks to surprise you.

 

[MissGotRocks]

Date: 2/23/2006 4:54:47 PM
Author: kittycatsmac
DiamondLil trust me you guys will have to help me get through this. Because when I first set out to upgrade from my 1ct three stone ring I was like I want something that I can ware from now and forever and always be able to look at my hand and be like sigh..... The more I looked and still look at the halo I''m more like Oh God!!! trust me I wish some men out there that are fixing to start the road to diamondville would read this and make sure that their FI has as much to do with their ering or wedding set as he does . I''m not saying that it was my DH''s fault because I did set every night on the computer and looked at different halos from James Allen. So that''s where my hubby got the idea to go and have the family jeweler fix me up. So if you fall in love with something you''ve never tried before please go do so before your DH or FI thinks to surprise you.

Well, let me first say that I am sorry that you have had this experience. The ring is beautiful but if it''s not for you then it''s not for you! When I first started reading these posts, I have to say that I had the same thought. While it is wonderful for someone to try and surprise you, it can be a total bomb if you''re not pleased with it. I am so picky that I am 100% sure that my DH would not try to pick something in the jewelry line out for me. He is great to suggest something new or to come up with the $$, but the shopping is left up to me. I always try to take him with me when I have found something I like - just to see if he likes it. It is important to me to choose something that we both like but ultimately the choice is mine.

I am sure that given time you will come up with the ring of your dreams. I am just so glad that the jeweler will work with you to make sure this happens. At least you are dealing with a reputable person. Best of luck and let us know what you find! Happy hunting!

 

[Mara]

This whole experience hopefully underscores for everyone shopping for such a large purchase to try things on in the stores first before taking the leap...don''t just buy from online images without seeing and ensuring you will like the look on your hand. There are so many times when I love something on someone else''s hand and try it on and it looks horrible on me (Daniel K!).

It''s very kind of your jeweler to want to make you happy and offer to do whatever you want, but I''m sure he has to eat some costs doing it, so I would just say make this next chance really count.

I also agree with Deco that buyers remorse is huge in these types of purchases, when we got my e-ring I was like oh it sits too high, the band is too thick, etc etc...my hand looked really weird with it on, I felt a little like it wasn''t really ME at the time either. Funny thing how I got used to it...when I added my w-ring onto it I had the same issue...I went for a week thinking oh I don''t like the set, I miss just having one ring, etc. But a few weeks later I was used to it.

Now when I try on OTHER settings in stores and stuff, 99% of them feel like those aren''t ME at all because I am so used to seeing my rings on my hand. Stuff I used to like way back when looks like it''s set too low or this or that.

So really alot of it does have to do with getting used to something different on your hand in the first place. But if you are TOTALLY sure this is not you (by the way the set is just absolutely love on your hand), then make the change and hopefully it''s the last! Good luck.

 

[kittycatsmac]

Oh thank you so much MissGotRocks . I will be sure to let all of you know everything every step of the way.

 

[kittycatsmac]

Well I said that I would keep everyone posted. I went to the jewelry store today and seen our family jeweler. We think that we pinpointed the problem with my halo. Yes the rings are very nice but I think that for some reason that the 1.75 rb was just to much for my hand. Oh yeah it lookes nice, but just to much for me. I like big stones but this was just a little to much bling bling for me. I did see a few sets that I liked but what I'm going to have to do is let my jeweler resale my set. Oh and yeah he is understanding about me getting the set that I want, only that I have to pay so much for them to keep my ring in there what they call
"resale case" . I just wish that he would have told me that yesterday. But that's no biggie there was two people that looked at it before he got it recleaned and put into the case. Well back to my hunt. I tried on a 1.70ct rb to see if maybe I wanted to reset the center stone before what I decided, and even it was large. So then we just started over from scratch. I tried a .83 rb and it was nice I could have went for it but I told him that I wanted to make sure it's a good sized diamond that I could ware forever and never have to worry about upgrading. He laughed and said that he didn't want me to do that !!! ha ha .. but I then tried a 1ct rb and I was like it's still missing something the stone itself. So then came out a marquise, nope not that shape either. So I guess you could say third shape the charm, he brouhgt out princess cuts.. He had a .54ct and a .33 in the case already set, but he made me wait a few minutes and he went into what I always call the " meat locker " because of the type of metal doors, well anyway, then he came out with my stone the perfect 1.23ct princess that he had just got in. I thought that I was going to crap all over myself.. it's like .50 smaller then the rb and the perfect size for my hand. I tried to take some pics of some of the settings that I liked but he said he would let me but his dad doesn't like that. " Family owned and operated" so I haven't made my mind up yet on the setting because he will have some new two tone setts in this coming Monday that I might want to look at, white gold with touches of yellow. So I'll keep you posted.

 

[MissGotRocks]

Yes, this is a little different than letting you exchange the rings for something else. Is he going to sell them for what you paid for them and credit you that exact amount? I guess you will not be able to get new rings until these sell?

I am glad to hear that you found a size and shape stone that you liked. Good luck with the mounting search - and let us know how you make out. I hope this process doesn''t take too long!

 

[kittycatsmac]

Thanks, MissGotRock, but he has all ready gave me instore credit. He said that I was still under the "trail period" . So in otherwords he can sale my piece like it was new and make full "wholesale" amount back , plus I''ll have to pay to have the new rings set and sized when made. I don''t know really how it works I just go in and look at all the " sparkley stuff". I can''t say anything bad about them they do try and give everyone what they want. I think that''s how there little shop has been around so long... So I''m going back this afternoon and look some more, he has some books with sets he lets people pick from also and I didn''t even get to start to look through them yesterday. And then I''ll go back Monday evening and see what has came in. I don''t know the more and more I think about it I think I want something in twotone. Well I''ll keep you posted!

 

[diamondlil]

Oh, I love the 2-tone idea. Most of my jewelry is 2-tone. It''s one of those things that attracts me when I''m looking at jewelry. It''s not for everyone, but since many of my pieces are yellow gold (purchased in the 80s and early 90s), when I mix in some 2-tone, I somehow feel like everything goes together.

 

[kittycatsmac]

Well MissGotRocks and DiamondLil, I have no choice when me and my husband went back to the jewelry store last night my rings had been purchased and the halo was going to be reset with a ruby and the 1.75rb was going to be put in a Tiffany style 6 prong setting by no other else then Kevin himself. He said after I got gone Friday that his wife came by and seen the set. He said that she had him take them out and let her try them on and said that she would love that set with a big old hunking ruby set in it. So he was going to set the halo setting for her and put it back for her birthday and he knew someone that was looking for a nice sized rb for an ering that they wanted in the 6 prong setting. So hopefully they''ll like it. So I have no more halo wedding set if I wanted it or not. Thank God I didn''t care much for it. So I think I might have found my set "I''m so hoping" but before I say that I have I want to try it on firts. It''s two princess stones on each side of the center stone with a matching band. Set in white gold with small X designs in yellow gold on each side where the sets come down the ring. The band matches with 5 princess stone across the center and X designs in yg at each end of them. ( DiamondLil, I also have a mix of yellow and white gold) So Kevin will order the set tomarrow and see if he can get it in before the week is out or if I will have to wait for his next shippment. ( I hope not ) well like I''ve said before I will keep everyone posted ...

 

[MissGotRocks]

Well, good for you! At least the rings have been purchased so that you can move ahead with your credit. I hope you like the new setting when it comes in - if so you could have your new rings very soon. Let us know what you think. Good luck!

 

[SeaOats]

Kitty, I''m glad things are progressing! And I sure hope you find the set of your dreams

 

[mrssalvo]

That is wonderful that your old setting is sold and i''m sure someone will snatch up the diamond very quickly. I can''t wait to see pics of your new set..

 

[headlight]

After MANY ring changes in the years since my DH proposed in 1989, I have to wholeheartedly agree with what Mara has written. I learned the hard way. This is so well said:

Date: 2/23/2006 6:47:08 PM
Author: Mara
This whole experience hopefully underscores for everyone shopping for such a large purchase to try things on in the stores first before taking the leap...don''t just buy from online images without seeing and ensuring you will like the look on your hand. There are so many times when I love something on someone else''s hand and try it on and it looks horrible on me (Daniel K!).

It''s very kind of your jeweler to want to make you happy and offer to do whatever you want, but I''m sure he has to eat some costs doing it, so I would just say make this next chance really count.

I also agree with Deco that buyers remorse is huge in these types of purchases, when we got my e-ring I was like oh it sits too high, the band is too thick, etc etc...my hand looked really weird with it on, I felt a little like it wasn''t really ME at the time either. Funny thing how I got used to it...when I added my w-ring onto it I had the same issue...I went for a week thinking oh I don''t like the set, I miss just having one ring, etc. But a few weeks later I was used to it.

Now when I try on OTHER settings in stores and stuff, 99% of them feel like those aren''t ME at all because I am so used to seeing my rings on my hand. Stuff I used to like way back when looks like it''s set too low or this or that.

So really alot of it does have to do with getting used to something different on your hand in the first place. But if you are TOTALLY sure this is not you (by the way the set is just absolutely love on your hand), then make the change and hopefully it''s the last! Good luck.

 

[kittycatsmac]

MissGotRocks, Rascal, Mrssalvo, Thank you so much for your kind words. I hope that it doesn't take me long to find me a setting either. I'm going back this evening and look at what has came in today and see if he can get me the setting that I found in one of his catalogs sooner then having to wait for it to come in with his next shippment. Who knows maybe I'll find something today that might catch my eye more then the other set I've found. Well cross your fingers for me guys, I sure know that I've got mine crossed.

 

[kittycatsmac]

Well, I''ve been back to my jewelers and looked at what had come in. There was one that I did like, it would be my new and beatiful princess cut set between two trill''s but I just don''t know about them they just don''t catch light like the princess does. He said that if I was to want to go with that he could get me just a plain matching band that would sway in around the three stones. While I was there he called and ordered the twotone set, At cost to me he could get it sooner but I told him that I didn''t want to hurry that I wanted everything to set in my mind on what the set might look like. But I do want it to get there so I can put it on my hand. So I''ll post again when I here more news about the twotone setting. All of you guys are going to get sick of me talking about it... I hope you hang in there with me, I need other diamond lovers support!!!!

 

[MissGotRocks]

Well at least this time around you are able to try these rings on. That is absolutely the best way to insure that you will love what you get.

Trillions have a different look than princess stones - you might want to consider three princess stones or just the center stone.

We''ll be waiting to hear what you think of the two tone set - I love the look of two tone!

 

[headlight]

Date: 2/27/2006 3:31:00 PM
Author: kittycatsmac
Well, I''ve been back to my jewelers and looked at what had come in. There was one that I did like, it would be my new and beatiful princess cut set between two trill''s but I just don''t know about them they just don''t catch light like the princess does. He said that if I was to want to go with that he could get me just a plain matching band that would sway in around the three stones. While I was there he called and ordered the twotone set, At cost to me he could get it sooner but I told him that I didn''t want to hurry that I wanted everything to set in my mind on what the set might look like. But I do want it to get there so I can put it on my hand. So I''ll post again when I here more news about the twotone setting. All of you guys are going to get sick of me talking about it... I hope you hang in there with me, I need other diamond lovers support!!!!

There is another thread going on right now that I''ve posted on, which basically "debates" the virtues, or lack thereof (LOL!), of trillions. I have them on my three-stone ring (center stone is round) and obviously I love them, but it is a VERY personal thing and some people on this forum really like them and some people really do not. Actually, some people have even HAD them, only to re-make their rings because they were very disappointed with the whole trillion thing. A great part of belonging to PS is gleaning the experience of others so we can learn from what they''ve been through and not have to go through the "angst" ourselves, and so take heed with the experience others have had with the trills as side stones. Again, I have them and I love them, but that is me and I am not wearing your ring, nor are you wearing mine, so I feel like I have to be totally upfront with you and give "full disclosure" and let you know about the other thread that really pertains to you at this point now that you are considering the three-stone w/ the trill sides.

To me, based just on what you just commented in regards to your not knowing how you feel about them because the trills don''t catch the light the way the princess does is a HUGE red flag to me. You don''t want to get this new ring made up and then hate it, too. This is not the time for experiments! Go with the "sure thing", and I don''t think trills are the sure thing for you based on your first impressions. Sometimes it is true what they say about first impressions, so go with your gut instinct here.

It is exactly the observation that you made in regards to the trills that divides those who like them and those who don''t: Some of the ladies are turned off by the trills because of the fact that they don''t rival the center stone in terms of "performance", while the other half of us (myself included) actually find the trills appealing because of the fact that they don''t dazzle as much as the center, thus they allow the center to still be the "star" and not "compete" with it, yet they still add some "extra something" to the overall bling factor, as well as to the overall design of the ring, and they provide a nice spread across the finger, and they provide for something "different" in terms of options for side stone in three-stone ring compositions.

I''m sure I''ve confused you more, but for those of us who have been following and participating in the thread on the trills, I really think you need to give this SERIOUS consideration, and what I''m "hearing" from your initial impression of the trills is that you''re not sure. On that other thread, there are actually some photos of some princess stones flanked by trills.

Honestly, I don''t think you should walk out of that jeweler''s shop if you don''t absolutely LOVE each and every aspect about the stones, the composition, the shank, etc., etc., of whatever ring you select.

 

[kittycatsmac]

I looked for the thread that was about the trillions, but I couldn''t find it. I think headlight that, thats one of the reasons that I do like the trillions is because it showcases my center stone by not giving off as much sparkle as my princess. But the more and more I keep thinking about the two tone set the more excited I get. I don''t know what it is about it, it''s just.... wow.... that''s all I can say when I think about it. All evening I''ve been thinking about the two tone set. All of the perfect lines of all the princess cut stones set right next to one another in the sides of the ering and in the band, good clean lines aaawwwhhh.... I think the two tone might be it!!! eekkk! I just can''t wait to see it in person. Thats another thing about it, it almost makes me afraid that when it comes in that I want like it. There is something about the clean lines of the whole thing that draws me to it. So I''m going to keep my fingers crossed... wish me luck...

 

[headlight]

The two-tone set sounds like it just might have all the elements you are looking for. So, just give it thought until it comes in and then see what you think when you can actually try it on and view it in person.

 

[kittycatsmac]

Well thought I would drop a line. Talked to my jeweler again and he said that for some reason it could be March 15th before the two tone set comes in. He asked me if there was another two tone that I liked. I told him that I had a feeling about that set and I could wait if it took a month. I''ve been waring a yellow gold and white gold band together to see if I like the two tone together as much as I thought I would and I LOVE IT!!!! But it''s going to take everything in me to wait it out. I''m having diamond withdrawl! I think I might start looking for a really cool gemstone right hand ring or see what I can come up with to take my mind off my wedding set... yeah that sounds good! Off to look at some gemstone threads...

 

[MissGotRocks]

The waiting is the hardest part. . . here''s hoping the time passes quickly!

 

[kittycatsmac]

You said it MissGotRocks, it feels like it already has been forever, I just wish time would go by faster but it seems like the more I want it to go by the longer the days are.

I just want my wedding set!!!!!