What is your biggest incompatibility with your spouse/SO?

[mercoledi]

Date: 4/20/2009 8:43:52 PM
Author: LamborghiniGirl
I think we have 3 main incompatibilities, all of which I wish I had his qualities!


1) He works out 4-5 days per week and is in AMAZING shape, whereas I only ''exercise'' when I am walking to Starbucks

2) I tend to just throw my stuff down and kick off my shoes at the end of a long day and leave them there whereas he is tidy and always puts things away! I feel bad when it bothers him so much he actually starts cleaning up after me at my place...


3) He is very very conscious about accounting and saves all his receipts, which I have heard is a sign of a very responsible man handling his finances.. whereas I only keep receipts if I am planning on returning something!


Like I said... in all 3 of these areas, I wish I was more like him

Did you steal my DH? Same thing, only he doesn''t work out, he''s just naturally in super-amazing shape. Loser. I keep getting worse looking and he keeps improving!

 

[gemgirl]

Our biggest difference is that I''m a rules and boundaries person and he''s an anything goes guy. Life is often quite messy because of that.

 

[pinkstars]

Cravings.
He does not understand my cravings for sugar and food that is bad for you. I was raised eating lots of sugar and processed food, and sometimes I just crave it! He was raised not eating sugary cereals, salad with dinner every night. Yesterday I woke up craving corn dogs and he would not let me buy any, oh it sucked so much.
Also presents, I don''t think he understands how much it means to me to get someone a present that I think they''ll really enjoy. I love love love it when somebody does enjoy the present that I thought would be perfect for them.

 

[Asscherhalo_lover]

my husband is an avid final fantasy player....avid, if i could do anything about it...either he wouldn''t love it or i would.

as it stands we have a pretty decent compromise on it. when i tell him to give it up for the night, he does, lol.

 

[PilsnPinkysMom]

Hahaha.... I love all of these.... They make me feel "normal". Too many funny ones to even comment on!

I''m controlling. That about sums it up. And when I can''t control things in the "real world" or at school, I come home and take it all out on FI. It''s a daily effort to stop word vomit and to take a chill pill and just remember that stressing over "little things" just isn''t worth it.

FI is laid-back beyond belief. He''s not indifferent, per say, but just... RELAXED.

My parents have a little plaque thing that has been on their bedroom wall since I can remember: "The 5 rules of marriage"

I don''t remember them all, but there are two that I love.
1) Your partner is always right
2) Always be the first to apologize

Of course, with major incompatabilities or problems in one''s life/relationship, those rules won''t solve anything. True problems need to be talked out.... But for the day-to-day bickering and occasional nasty comment or "Why can''t you put dirty dishes directly into the dishwasher instead of leaving them on the counter!?", the rules work miracles

 

[musey]

Date: 4/22/2009 6:21:13 PM
Author: Asscherhalo_lover
my husband is an avid final fantasy player....avid, if i could do anything about it...either he wouldn''t love it or i would.

as it stands we have a pretty decent compromise on it. when i tell him to give it up for the night, he does, lol.

I grew up with two heavy gamers for brothers, and I have to say that that is a great accomplishment!

 

[musey]

Date: 4/22/2009 4:06:18 PM
Author: pinkstars
Cravings.

He does not understand my cravings for sugar and food that is bad for you. I was raised eating lots of sugar and processed food, and sometimes I just crave it! He was raised not eating sugary cereals, salad with dinner every night. Yesterday I woke up craving corn dogs and he would not let me buy any, oh it sucked so much.

Also presents, I don''t think he understands how much it means to me to get someone a present that I think they''ll really enjoy. I love love love it when somebody does enjoy the present that I thought would be perfect for them.

Oh no!! That''s rough. My cravings are non-negotiable, luckily my husband thinks it''s "cute." Let''s see how long that lasts if/when I''m preggo

 

[musey]

Date: 4/22/2009 9:21:21 AM
Author: nytemist
I like things neat and clean, he does not. This is the biggest issue.

At least you have one neat person. We''re both clean, but messy (if that makes sense - cluttered but not DIRTY). I feel like every couple needs one neat and tidy person to make sure the house/apartment isn''t a MESS like ours tends to be. I have to fight with myself to keep it acceptable for visitors

 

[AmberGretchen]

Date: 4/22/2009 10:14:43 PM
Author: musey

Date: 4/22/2009 9:21:21 AM

Author: nytemist

I like things neat and clean, he does not. This is the biggest issue.

At least you have one neat person. We''re both clean, but messy (if that makes sense - cluttered but not DIRTY). I feel like every couple needs one neat and tidy person to make sure the house/apartment isn''t a MESS like ours tends to be. I have to fight with myself to keep it acceptable for visitors

Hehe musey - I''m totally the same way, I''m borderline compulsive about CLEAN, but not as big on neat. Fortunately my DH is compulsively neat. We''ve both had to relax a little bit to meet in the middle, but it mostly works out well

 

[Dannielle]

FI is into bodybuilding- He goes to the gym four 2 hours a day, spends hundreds of dollars on proteins and supplements, and eats the most boring, bland food constantly.

I''m a little on the curvey side- I LOVE food, I rarely exercise and I''d rather spend that money on going out or clothes.

Oh well.. atleast he has an awseome bod

 

[SparklyLibra]

He likes chex 3 times a day and I would like chex 4 times a day

Is that even possible?

Maybe that''s just the clock ticking??? Idunno?

 

[plethora23]

Date: 4/20/2009 8:44:25 PM
Author: Kaleigh
The Thermostat. I want it hot, he wants it cold. He wants it warmer I want it colder.

The windows in the car. He wants them down, I want them up. Fine, have your''s down,. but stop controlling my window...

Food. He''s always trying to steal food from my plate when we are out. He''s gotten forked a time or two!!!

Can you tell I am a tad bit peeved at Mr. Kaleigh???

LOL!!!! I can totally relate. I feel like I''m married to the same person...and that''s why I need BIG diamonds!!!

 

[pinkstars]

Date: 4/22/2009 10:11:50 PM
Author: musey

Date: 4/22/2009 4:06:18 PM

Author: pinkstars

Cravings.


He does not understand my cravings for sugar and food that is bad for you. I was raised eating lots of sugar and processed food, and sometimes I just crave it! He was raised not eating sugary cereals, salad with dinner every night. Yesterday I woke up craving corn dogs and he would not let me buy any, oh it sucked so much.


Also presents, I don''t think he understands how much it means to me to get someone a present that I think they''ll really enjoy. I love love love it when somebody does enjoy the present that I thought would be perfect for them.

Oh no!! That''s rough. My cravings are non-negotiable, luckily my husband thinks it''s ''cute.'' Let''s see how long that lasts if/when I''m preggo

You are so lucky! I wish I got my BF to think cravings were cute!

 

[musey]

Date: 4/22/2009 11:26:18 PM
Author: SparklyLibra
He likes chex 3 times a day and I would like chex 4 times a day

Is that even possible?

Maybe that''s just the clock ticking??? Idunno?

It took me awhile to realize that that you were NOT talking about cereal.

 

[E B]

Date: 4/23/2009 4:10:54 PM
Author: musey

Date: 4/22/2009 11:26:18 PM

Author: SparklyLibra

He likes chex 3 times a day and I would like chex 4 times a day

Is that even possible?


Maybe that''s just the clock ticking??? Idunno?

It took me awhile to realize that that you were NOT talking about cereal.

LOL! I saw that and thought "I love Rice Chex, but three or four bowls a day?"

 

[CNOS128]

He thinks I should share my chocolate.
And I don''t.

But, I''m learning.

 

[Lauren8211]

Date: 4/23/2009 5:10:39 PM
Author: TheBigT
He thinks I should share my chocolate.

And I don''t.


But, I''m learning.

Bwahahah.

FF has already learned to keep his hands off my chocolate!

 

[SparklyLibra]

Date: 4/23/2009 4:10:54 PM
Author: musey

Date: 4/22/2009 11:26:18 PM

Author: SparklyLibra

He likes chex 3 times a day and I would like chex 4 times a day

Is that even possible?


Maybe that''s just the clock ticking??? Idunno?

It took me awhile to realize that that you were NOT talking about cereal.

 

[jjc]

Date: 4/22/2009 10:14:43 PM
Author: musey

Date: 4/22/2009 9:21:21 AM

Author: nytemist

I like things neat and clean, he does not. This is the biggest issue.

At least you have one neat person. We''re both clean, but messy (if that makes sense - cluttered but not DIRTY). I feel like every couple needs one neat and tidy person to make sure the house/apartment isn''t a MESS like ours tends to be. I have to fight with myself to keep it acceptable for visitors

omg Musey, that is my BF and I exactly!!

As far as incompatibility goes, I''d say our biggest is sleep/snoring. He goes from fully awake and talking to REM sleep/dead of winter hibernation/snoring like there''s no tomorrow so quick it makes my head spin. I tend to take a while to fall asleep, and am the world''s lightest sleeper. Some nights he''ll notice that I''m having an especially hard time falling asleep and tries to commiserate, saying "Oh, I know, I can''t seem to fall asleep either." I nod and smile while screaming in my head "Oh really?? Because you were already SNORING!!"

I try not to tell him though, because he feels so terrible. I just think hey, he''s blessed, I want him to enjoy his super-human sleeping powers LOL

 

[nytemist]

I inherited the clean obsession from my dad. He used to use a pressure steam cleaner to clean his TOOLS. I''m not as bad as he was, but I living with dh has made a little crazy since he has cats. I have to wipe the counters and pots before cooking to removed cat hair, I wash my hands about 10 times while at home and inspect the dishes before putting them away. I limit the cats being on the bed since they track litter into the sheets.

I like having things neat since we both have so much stuff. I''m a firm believer in the saying ''if everything has it''s place, you know where to find it''. My desk and paperwork is in near military order. Meanwhile, husband will search frantically through a pile of paperwork for a bill he needs to pay. My CD''s are in alphabetical order (about 1000), but he will have to pull out piles of his off the shelves (about 2000) to find the album he wants to listen to. I don''t get it.