by ckrickett » May 29, 2014 When we first started dating I was FIT thin (flat stomach, great legs) then I got on contraceptives to help stop some bad cycles, and it literally destroyed me. I gained 80 in like 3 1/2 months, and put on even more due to my metabolism being fried. UGH! Been actively trying to get it off for 2 years now, it's gone up although I eat healthy and exercise! I know that my SO isn't "happy" about it. We swim, we run, we eat clean, but I'm not who I was. I guess even though he isn't happy it was AFTER I gained all the weight that is when he proposed, and we are together and strong , and in love. He may not make me feel like a pretty princess, but he is supportive in me getting healthy, and he isn't degrading. And I admire him for that. That is what i NEED.