TravelingGal
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OK, I realize that what I am about to ask may get some strong opinions, but here goes...
I am a pretty modern lady. He''''s a modern man, but seems pretty traditional when it comes to the idea of getting engaged. That''''s just fine and dandy but it brings up a few issues...
I out-earn him...nearly double what he makes. I could honestly go without the whole engagement ring/proposal thing, but he wants to. However, if he were to get me a ring, he may spend (let''''s say) 2500-3000 bucks. This may sound shallow, but if I were to get a ring I like, it would probably cost about double that. I would rather have no ring, than one I didn''''t like...after all, I''''ve lurked on and off around here for awhile and have seen lots of pretty rings! I think this is a crowd that can generally understand that sentiment...
I don''''t think he should spend more than what he is intending...I think a guy spending $6000 on a ring is ridiculous if he doesn''''t make a ton. However, I am not opposed to paying for half of it (and keeping it quiet). Maybe I could pay for the setting, and he pay for the stone?I know a lot of guys will think I need to tread carefully, for fear of hurting his ego. But in this day and age, why does it sound so weird that I want to chip in the for the ring? We''''ll probably both be paying for the wedding and honeymoon...why not equal parts for the whole enchilada?
What do you think?
I am a pretty modern lady. He''''s a modern man, but seems pretty traditional when it comes to the idea of getting engaged. That''''s just fine and dandy but it brings up a few issues...
I out-earn him...nearly double what he makes. I could honestly go without the whole engagement ring/proposal thing, but he wants to. However, if he were to get me a ring, he may spend (let''''s say) 2500-3000 bucks. This may sound shallow, but if I were to get a ring I like, it would probably cost about double that. I would rather have no ring, than one I didn''''t like...after all, I''''ve lurked on and off around here for awhile and have seen lots of pretty rings! I think this is a crowd that can generally understand that sentiment...
I don''''t think he should spend more than what he is intending...I think a guy spending $6000 on a ring is ridiculous if he doesn''''t make a ton. However, I am not opposed to paying for half of it (and keeping it quiet). Maybe I could pay for the setting, and he pay for the stone?I know a lot of guys will think I need to tread carefully, for fear of hurting his ego. But in this day and age, why does it sound so weird that I want to chip in the for the ring? We''''ll probably both be paying for the wedding and honeymoon...why not equal parts for the whole enchilada?
What do you think?