Re: What constitutes an inspired by piece vs. stealing desig
Okay maybe we just think different over the otherside of the world, but over here people are not so specific about their jewellery, although some will be. I think there is more sentimental over here. I mean what if the husband died, would you rather have a large ring you insisted upon in a very specific way to tell people about years later or would you rather have the ring he wanted to pick for you, the way he saw you in his eyes sort of thing. I don't suppose people in USA will see it the same way we do though, so I am probably not going to make sense to all you.
I am trying to get back that feeling of when you first met, you would have accepted a gift he chose and loved it, you would not have had a specific it has to be like this, e.g. it has to be ideal cut, a certain carat size, with pave shoulders and must be a cushion cut. Obviously wouldn't be getting engaged the first day you met but the feelings at that time is what I think we try to preserve over here in the UK. Say even the feelings of before you met when you saw him first and liked him but he maybe didn't know about you, you wouldn't have cared what a gift from him looked like. It is a material world which makes people want more more more and to their perfect mind.
'when posters aren't willing to talk to their SO's about ring preferences/styles/etc. I hate that society has built up this ridiculous' concept'
Yes society has built up this ridiculous concept because an engagement ring is a gift a betrothal ring, he does not have to give you a ring it is up to him, he could choose to give you a necklace or nothing at all. Well in the UK it is this way but then our engagement rings are what you call promise rings. Our cars are smaller than yours as is everything else over here. Women over here think they are lucky if the man gives them a ring at all, lots get none and lots wait years for proposals that never happen. Though not so many will wait nowadays I think. Most women over here only wear their engagement ring until children are born and then just their wedding ring so engagement rings are not seen as important as the wedding band is. Lots of rings over here cost about 3 weeks pay and most are under 25 points but usually colored or small cluster rather than diamond solitaire. One person said to me once, 'oh a solitaire so you will be solitary for life.'
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lovedogs|1472524363|4071331 said:I like this way of thinking about things, Rainwood. And Gypsy I agree that maybe changing how we approach things on RT will help with the issue. I thought you explained things well in the thread mentioned above.
As an overall point that isn't necessarily germane to this thread: I find it so frustratingwhen posters aren't willing to talk to their SO's about ring preferences/styles/etc. I hate that society has built up this ridiculous concept of a surprise, when what's really important is that 2 people are learning to compromise and (hopefully) be together for the rest of their lives. If there isn't communication marriage is doomed, so starting off NOT asking about expectations is never a good idea, IMHO.
Okay maybe we just think different over the otherside of the world, but over here people are not so specific about their jewellery, although some will be. I think there is more sentimental over here. I mean what if the husband died, would you rather have a large ring you insisted upon in a very specific way to tell people about years later or would you rather have the ring he wanted to pick for you, the way he saw you in his eyes sort of thing. I don't suppose people in USA will see it the same way we do though, so I am probably not going to make sense to all you.

'when posters aren't willing to talk to their SO's about ring preferences/styles/etc. I hate that society has built up this ridiculous' concept'
Yes society has built up this ridiculous concept because an engagement ring is a gift a betrothal ring, he does not have to give you a ring it is up to him, he could choose to give you a necklace or nothing at all. Well in the UK it is this way but then our engagement rings are what you call promise rings. Our cars are smaller than yours as is everything else over here. Women over here think they are lucky if the man gives them a ring at all, lots get none and lots wait years for proposals that never happen. Though not so many will wait nowadays I think. Most women over here only wear their engagement ring until children are born and then just their wedding ring so engagement rings are not seen as important as the wedding band is. Lots of rings over here cost about 3 weeks pay and most are under 25 points but usually colored or small cluster rather than diamond solitaire. One person said to me once, 'oh a solitaire so you will be solitary for life.'
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