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Super_Ideal_Rock
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Same. I will not "cover my plate" if I am not close to you. And I can usually tell if someone invited me just to gift grab.tuffyluvr|1442901177|3930455 said:Gypsy said:tuffyluvr|1442854200|3930192 said:lambskin said:I love watching wedding TV-Dress shows, Bridezillas, Four Weddings, etc. But I do not like going to weddings. I always fret about the gift$$. How much do you spend on a gift of your dear friend's daughter who you rarely see and not piss off your friend and lose the friendhip? The NY/NJ pay for the dinner plate range is the same where I live but frankly that is expensive-$175-350 depending on venue. My husband hates to attend them and is uber picky about the food. He hates to dance and always wants to go home mid dinner (buffet) or after dinner service is complete. We never know anyone there except for the parents (one side) and get stuck at a crappy table. Of course relatives make the events worse due to personalities and alcohol.
I can't believe this "cover your plate" thing! This seems so foreign to me... So if a bride and groom throw a really extravagant wedding the guests are expected to help them recoup what they've spent?!? That is absurd! It's the couple's choice and they are HOSTING the party. That doesn't seem like hosting to me at all!
YUP! This is my problem with it.
So say my best friend is getting married. At a barn and does a BBQ buffet an no alcohol. Inexpensive and lovely.
And then say my other friend, who I'm not nearly as close to, is getting married and chooses to do a fancy wedding at some venue in New York with a view of the river.
I'm really supposed to gift MORE to the second couple than the first?
Nope. Nope. Nope.
I HATE cover your plate. It means we have to dish out $300-400 for each wedding we go to as a couple just for the gift! That doesn't count the shower, transportation, the bachelor party (DH is constantly being asked to be in the weddings)!!!
I love weddings but unless it is for DH's immediate family I refuse to do cover your plate.
100%. I base my gifts off of how close I am to the couple, not how much they spent on their wedding. Luckily 'cover your plate" doesn't seem to have a foothold on the west coast. I find it offensive and totally tacky to ask guests to pay for the wedding. It makes me think that the couple must be having a far more expensive wedding than they can really afford if they're asking the guests to repay the hosts for the party.