Was the ring itself a surprise, or did you help

[verticalhorizon]

Motorcyle... or GF... motorcycle.... or GF? Hmmmm...

 

[Mara]

Both?




Last year my fiance's bonus went to pay off my ring. He cried that he could have had his motorcycle.




This year it's going to pay for our honeymoon, part wedding, and some house taxes.




He asked me the other day 'So next year do I get to have my bonus for MYSELF?' ...then he adds 'to buy a motorcycle'...HAH!




I said sure on the having it for himself, no on the motorcycle (not in such a densely populated area), but we both know next year there will be some new expense that we'll probably use it for. Heehee. (Like an upgrade?!)

 

[verticalhorizon]

Well... he better get it before you start having kids. Then the only motorcyle he'll be buying will say Fisher-Price on it!

But I guess that's ok too.

 

[Mara]

No worries, chances are we either won't have kids or won't have them for many years.

Plenty of time for motorcycles and upgrades...hehee.

 

[EdSkinner]

I did it all myself. Based almost totally on price. .75 ct. I color SI1 3a cut. In an Art Deco style mounting. Beat the ring from her 1st marriage (14K YG w/4.0 mm. pearl)
It was a suprise. After I pointed it out on the salt shaker in the resturant (had to I did't know she didn't use salt) she proceeded to dump the remainder of her dinner on her lap. Diagonalman, a word to the wise, buy the bike.

 

[RaeAnn]

My fiance and I picked out the ring together. While most people don't go for it, it is okay to propose without a ring! Well, at least it is to me, but there are those who tell me that an engagement isn't official without a ring...

His jewelry tastes and mine are very different. He almost bought a ring --antique Victorian, no choice of stone and no way to upgrade-- before proposing, and I'm really glad that he didn't, because the ring that he chose didn't fit any of the parameters we'd previously discussed. Had I been presented with that ring, knowing that it wasn't anything like what I had been dreaming of, it would have been really hard to deal with.

We've been together seven years, by this time any opportunity for a proposal looked like one, but he still managed to surprise me. Even though there was no ring, it's still fabulous to be engaged! And when the ring arrives, there will be another celebration and people to tell all over again, and I'm sure, since he's keeping all the shipping details a secret, I'll be surprised again.

 

[karenb]

We went together to look at setting and he gave some input on the settings I liked. However, I did everything when it came to picking out the diamond..he just said "ok" when it came to paying for it. Although, he does have to deal with my addiction to PS

We had talked about marriage before, and I let him know that I wanted to be involved in picking out the ring. Mainly because not all styles look good on me, (that's what I think anyways) and since I have to wear it, I should be 100% happy with the way it looks. Plus, my fiance doesnt have much patience for shopping, he's the type of shopper who makes quick choices just so he can "get out of there"...lol

Karen

 

[glitterata]

Funny, there's no option for "I (the woman) picked it out on my own. He was too busy/not into jewelry/unsure of himself/geographically challenged/whatever to contribute."

 

[baltneu]

OK, I want the ring to look nice on her finger, and I felt I knew her taste and I also have good taste in jewelry, because she has loved the stuff I bought her before this. Going with the person to the store, where is the surprise? Isn't there suppposed to be surprise on this part of life?

HOWEVER, I do not think that I am a "know it all", soooooooooooo,
I told her about the results of this survey, and I asked her opinion if we could do it over again, and she said that if my taste is jewelry for her was lousy, she would have wanted to be there, but since she likes my taste she loved it the way I did it, she was not involved and a surprise. Go figure!

 

[aljdewey]

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On 3/20/2004 8:57:32 AM baltneu wrote:





Isn't there suppposed to be surprise on this part of life?

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See, I don't know where that comes from. Where is it written that it HAS to be a surprise? Again, almost *every* woman here has said "we knew we were going to get married".

I just don't get the thought process that says surprise is more important than her liking the ring, but that's me.

 

[fire&ice]

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On 3/20/2004 9:55:59 AM aljdewey wrote:

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On 3/20/2004 8:57:32 AM baltneu wrote:



Isn't there suppposed to be surprise on this part of life?

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See, I don't know where that comes from. Where is it written that it HAS to be a surprise? Again, almost *every* woman here has said 'we knew we were going to get married'.

I just don't get the thought process that says surprise is more important than her liking the ring, but that's me.

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Some surprises are not good....like she said "No!". During my anniv. ring search, I visited my jeweler quite a bit. He had 1c+ J color w/ fluor stone that was lovely. The next time I came in I asked where the ring was. He said he was having the diamond reset in a platinum setting for someone who was proposing. The next time I came in there was the "new" ring in his case. I asked about it and he told me she said no. He was kind to take it back.

That said, we pretty much picked out the diamond & the setting together. He was set on a RB solitaire in a tiffany style setting - he wanted the classic. I had my eye on a three stone ring; but, yielded to his wishes. And, I'm glad I did. So, no surprises except when.

 

[RaeAnn]

Baltneu, I was totally surprised! I just wasn't proposed to with a ring. And if it's a ring that a woman wouldn't like, that's probably not a surprise that she wants...

 

[Stargazer]

Ours was a bit different to all of these I think-
My husband ( of 16 years) told me that he wanted to get me a solitaire E ring,( he didn't consider any other style a real E ring), and then asked me to go out and find a few I liked.Then together we looked at my shortlist and jointly picked the one.
I was quite happy with this as I view the E ring as a gift from the man,and I was happy to abide by his preference whilst still having input.
Having said that I always had a dream of choosing a three stone E ring if I was given the undirected choice!!!
Urrg.. that sounds a bit weak these days, but marriage is give and take.