Vent! Do boys realize the damage they do to these teen girls sometimes

[whitewave]

A lot of times people with depression really need to be cared for; when you toothbrush feels like it weighs 100 pounds, a person in a depression likely needs help getting to doctor appointments and getting weekly medicine boxes set up. Etc. Someone cooking healthy meals would be helpful too.

Too many people want a depressed person to will themselves better. How can you do that when you are so exhausted you want to sleep and not wake up?

 

[Calliecake]

You are so correct House Cat. One of my family members deals with depression and anxiety and had a terrible time in her late teens. Getting the help she needed saved her life. A combination of a great doctor, therapy and the proper drug therapy made all the difference in her life. We are very lucky she is still here. It was a terrible time. Please make sure your daughter gets the help she needs Autumn Gems. It sounds like she is struggling. I wish you and your daughter the best.

 

[MollyMalone]

Thank you all for your words.
She hasn't given up school at all, just going locally for a year now.

I'd like to strongly encourage you all to reconsider this idea. Starting off as a freshman -- when everyone else in your class is also new to the college -- is an easier transition, socially speaking, for most any young adult than transferring in as a sophomore. Plus, after a year at the local school (and continuing to live at home?), she might very well decide to stay put. And like everyone else in this thread who went away to school, I think that's an invaluable experience, would hate for her to miss out on that.

So if going to the intended school is out of the question (like others here, I don't think it need be altho' if it's a very small college rather than a state university, I can see why the prospect of frequently running into the ex seems daunting to your daughter at this juncture), think she would be much better off working, and doing hands-on volunteer work, in lieu of going to a local school for college freshman year. I insisted that my son pursue volunteer work while he was in high school because I wanted him to get "outside" his often self-centered adolescent self (and was pleased he found, on his own initiative, volunteer service work in college). Am stressing it here because I think the advantages it can offer -- e.g., meeting others outside your usual sphere; a way of socially connecting in a more adult milieu than high school world; being pro-active but without the stressor of having to find your own way through the job (there are volunteer jobs where you're more on your own, but plenty of other possibilities with already well-defined tasks); less time to brood -- are ones your daughter might especially appreciate, find worthwhile.

All best wishes ~ MM