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  1. ceg
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    by ceg » Feb 10, 2019 at 2:44 PM
    I took a break from ps a few months ago because I went into a frenzied home decor binge. It was pretty awesome, I was so busy I lost weight without even trying!

    Well that's done. Back to ps and I am obsessing about an ering upgrade. What is wrong with me? Do I need a better spiritual life? I really don't even know that I truly want a new ring. I just like the pursuit. But I can't get it out of my mind. I am not sure I want to ask dh for a new ring. I am at the point size wise that any upgrade that would be noticeable is going to be quite a bit of money. He never says no. But he does think that I have some kind of problem that it will never be enough. He may be right....

    Do y'all have this problem too?

    I am not looking for enabling here. I really want to hear if you ever feel crazy about this stuff?
     
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  2. Maria D
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    by Maria D » Feb 10, 2019 at 3:10 PM
    I joined Pricescope (and another diamond site) 16 years ago feeling pretty much the same way. I used to spend hours looking at all the gorgeous rings here and feel anxious and antsy. What do I want? How much am I willing to spend? Where should I buy from? Now I still love browsing through Show Me the Bling but it's just to appreciate the beautiful jewelry of all those who share. It's kind of like looking at pictures of cute kittens for me - I love seeing them but it doesn't entice me to get more cats.

    I never did upgrade. In all this time the only diamond purchase I made was a 7 stone anniversary band from Blue Nile. But I'm happy to look at your ring @ceg. It is spectacular!
     
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  3. baby monster
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    by baby monster » Feb 10, 2019 at 3:18 PM
    Same upgrade problem here:wavey:. I've been trying to keep the mantra of "want what you have" in my head as much as possible.
     
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  4. ceg
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    by ceg » Feb 10, 2019 at 3:28 PM
    I like the "want what you have". Maybe I need to put my ring away for a few days. Then maybe it will seem new again.

    Also, I definitely like puppy pics but no more for me is pretty easy! 2 big dogs is enough!
     
  5. marcy
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    by marcy » Feb 10, 2019 at 3:29 PM
    Ceg, I feel your pain. Being on PS has certainly led to more upgrades and purchases than I would have probably done without the temptation we constantly expose ourselves to on PS. Something you said really hit home with me too; I like the thrill of the hunt. It's like a quest and once you take it home it might loose it's luster and I'm off planning the next purchase.

    In the end though it boils down to what do you want to do? Both my DH and I are spenders so we give in easily to those quests and whims.

    Good luck with your decision.
    Marcy
     
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  6. ceg
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    by ceg » Feb 10, 2019 at 3:41 PM
    Also, part of me feels that since some of the value in a purchase with whiteflash is the upgrade policy and I need to take advantage of that. DH just looked at me in disbelief when I said that! If I step back I realize how crazy that is!
     
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    by acaw2015 » Feb 10, 2019 at 3:53 PM
    I understand how you feel. Cant really say anything helpful. For me it helps considering how many rings or other things I could buy for the price of a barely visible upgrade. My husband was chocked when I told him I wanted my most recent purchase, calling it "cheap"! :cheeky:
     
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    by luv2sparkle » Feb 10, 2019 at 3:54 PM
    I love your ring ceg. Put it away for a few days and you will love it again. I do that every time I get bit by the upgrade bug.
     
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  9. leukolenos
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    by leukolenos » Feb 10, 2019 at 4:08 PM
    Nothing but sympathy here my friend! I adore you and I just love your ring. Yours made me think "hey maybe I could love an MRB!".

    Tuck it away for a few days and see what happens. You do really have a spectacular ring!

    I am at the point now where I definitely don't need or want a bigger diamond. Now I am second guessing if maybe my diamond is TOO big, and maybe I should "downgrade" size and go smaller with different specs, or maybe I just want something different altogether. Why are we like this!? I feel like a crazy person daily. I second guess myself even more now because I took some extended "big jewelry" breaks (where I didn't wear my diamonds at all, only pearl studs and CS rings or plain bands)...and I didn't mind at all. I only felt anxiety again when I pulled the pieces out of the safe deposit box, wondering if maybe I really did miss them after all? Like I said. Crazy.
     
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    by Bonfire » Feb 10, 2019 at 4:39 PM
    For me bling desire can be an internal struggle. The old “angel” on one shoulder and the “devil” on the other playing tug of war! :confused2: Just because I can do something does it mean I should? And that’s what makes it extra hard...the I can part. You’ll figure it out, but in the meantime, your stone and ring is the stuff of dreams!
    I’ll be following your journey:wavey:
     
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  11. mrs jam
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    by mrs jam » Feb 10, 2019 at 5:05 PM
    I swear I’ll be content and stop wanting more once I hit the 10mm mark. I will be happy and done.
     
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    by ceg » Feb 10, 2019 at 5:16 PM
    This is exactly where I am! I want 10mm but I m scared that if I get there, what's next?

    I feel like an addict.
     
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  13. ceg
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    by ceg » Feb 10, 2019 at 5:31 PM
    @Bonfire it is definitely can vs. should! I never thought about it that way. Maybe I will wait for a big event instead of indulging on a whim. In 2 years will be our 20th anniversary. That's an idea. Should applies for big events! :twisted2:
     
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    by ceg » Feb 10, 2019 at 5:33 PM
    Awww! Thanks! I think your ring is TDF!!! Not too big! But I am glad that I am not the only one who sometimes feels crazy about this stuff!

    Putting my ring away for a week or so!
     
  15. msop04
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    by msop04 » Feb 10, 2019 at 5:34 PM
    I have this problem... but, sadly, my husband never says yes. ;-)
     
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    by msop04 » Feb 10, 2019 at 5:38 PM
    ...I thought this too. Technically, mine is 9.8 mm, but I could go 10.5... easily. #neversatisfied #thanksPS ;-)

    Now I find myself lusting over three stones, but mine doesn't look right with two sides - dare I say it's too big and loses the aesthetic I love. Then I worry if I "downgrade" the center stone, I will regret it... so I just keep the solitaire. #firstworldproblems #stillproblems LOL

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    by leukolenos » Feb 10, 2019 at 5:44 PM
    Welp, that’s what I thought too! 10mm goals and done! Still angsty, worrying I need to change something up.....and looking lustfully at super blingy eternity bands :whistle:
     
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    by ceg » Feb 10, 2019 at 5:57 PM
    It's so easy to make mistakes. That's another problem! I have spent sooooo much on bling that I could have had 10mm. The good thing is I am no longer buying anything. I really should try to sell some but I am just not good at it. My pictures suck, and I totally hate losing money. I always tell myself to keep it for my girls rather than get half of what I paid.
     
  19. kgizo
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    by kgizo » Feb 10, 2019 at 6:11 PM
    Yep, I too have the bling addict problem. I can go months and not be tempted by anything, and then all off a sudden feel the need to buy something pretty. If it isn’t an upgrade to the stone then it’s an upgrade to the setting or something to go with it. Like you, I put things away for a few days so I have a little time to miss them. I will also wear an embarrassing amount of jewelry to remind myself I have enough. LIke Liberace levels of embarrassing bling. I just did that last night. A few years ago I got my holy grail diamond bracelet and believed I would never want another bracelet. Recently I find myself tempted by bracelets. Hangs head in shame.
     
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    by ceg » Feb 10, 2019 at 6:17 PM
    Lol! Liberace amounts! That is really funny! I think my family would die if I did that!

    Are you happy with your ering? Do you think it is/always will be the "one"?
     
  21. nala
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    by nala » Feb 10, 2019 at 6:54 PM
    No! It’s not crazy! It is a great policy for a reason. If I had it, I would be swapping left and right. Here’s the deal. If you can afford it and it makes you happy, why all the guilt? The way I see it. I love all my jewelry escapades. They are fun. They are harmless. I enjoy them now Bc I am healthy. So are my loved ones. The minute I have real issues, trust me, I won’t enjoy bling bc I will be too consumed in sadness, caring, etc. So, I don’t experience guilt over bling like I don’t experience guilt over home remodeling or over clothes shopping or trading in my car every 3 years or traveling. I feel blessed and I’m not spiritually vacuous. I just got back from mass and spending time with my mother and hubby. Nothing missing.
    On the other hand, going to the spa, buying makeup, etc, or other more socially acceptable expenses are not my jam. Don’t do much for me. I have my vices and i don’t feel guilty about enjoying them as long as they are from my disposable income. I don’t care what others think of my pleasures. I’ll never understand why some people spend thousands on comic books, etc. but I’m happy for them if it’s their passion.
    And so what if you end up with a 7 carat? You wouldn’t be the first! Or last! You would just be one of the lucky ones!

    Side Note: I’ve seen many people age and die. One woman waited until she was 69 to splurge on her 4 carat. She only enjoyed it 2 years. You can always recoup money but you can never recoup time.
     
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    by ceg » Feb 10, 2019 at 7:57 PM
    Thanks @nala ! You're awesome!
     
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    by MissGotRocks » Feb 10, 2019 at 8:32 PM
    Lol...just because I can but should I? Just so much truth there! I think the most important aspect of considering a trade is to figure out exactly what you would want. 10 mm is just the size - what about color, clarity, crown/pavilion angles? Once you get to a certain size, the possible stones available for trade up shrink. If you can figure out more exactly what you want and then find it, I say go for it! Nala is right - life is short and if you can swing it, why not? Meanwhile, you do have a gorgeous ring to enjoy. When and if you doubt it, just tell yourself it doesn't have to be forever - that's what I do - ha!
     
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    by ceg » Feb 10, 2019 at 8:44 PM
    @MissGotRocks lol, I know wf inventory by heart!!!

    But I am going to wait a bit. My main problem is that I am not really even sure I want it! Possibly just bored!
     
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    by Bonfire » Feb 10, 2019 at 9:11 PM
    Haha! So true! Boredom gets me in trouble a lot! :roll2::P2
     
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    by the_mother_thing » Feb 10, 2019 at 9:30 PM
    @ceg I agree with others who suggest putting your ring away for a few days or even maybe a few weeks. I find that I so appreciate the pieces I have more when I put them away for a bit, then break them back out. I appreciate what I love/d about them when I haven’t seen them in awhile ... kind of like family. LOL

    Might I suggest - to stave off the ‘buy’ feelings a bit - maybe just help others shop for bling in RT (forgive me, if I don’t recall whether that’s something you actively do; I don’t exactly stalk others’ activities on PS LOL)? You would get to satisfy that ‘thrill of the hunt’ thing a bit, but with others’ money. :dance: And you’re helping someone else, which is always a positive thing. Just a suggestion. :wavey:
     
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    by Austina » Feb 11, 2019 at 2:11 PM
    @ceg your ER is totally gorgeous and looks perfect on your hand. You’ve just got a case of Pricescopeitis. It’s a virus that infects your brain and makes you dissatisfied with what you have, giving you a distorted view of size.

    It’s very easy to see others big bling and think that’s what you want, but the truth is, the thrill is very much in the hunt. I used to check WF daily, I even had my eye on your diamond, I thought it was perfect.

    Realistically, would a small upgrade in size really make you any happier?

    Put your ring away for a while, and I’ll bet when you take it out again, you’ll get that same heart thumping, knock your sock off reaction. :D
     
  28. ceg
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    by ceg » Feb 11, 2019 at 2:38 PM
    Thank you!!! I definitely need to stop obsessing, that is step one!

    Here's a pic from today. Putting it to the test! :lol: 20190211_133701.jpg
     
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    by violet3 » Feb 11, 2019 at 2:41 PM
    THIS reply really spoke to me @Bonfire - I've never had the I CAN portion....ever. I got married in the recession and I work in real estate. We actually chose an eternity band because we couldn't afford a diamond that would look like much of anything on my size 7.5 finger. I'm so glad I made that choice honestly, because I think I would have had DSS out of the gate if I'd done a smaller solitaire. I stumbled onto this website while looking for eternity bands and sapphires....after I got married, I left for a while because we were in so much debt, it was pretty silly to even be thinking of jewelry.

    In 2018, we sold all the property we own, and for the first time EVER, there was disposable income, so I came back of course. Having said that, if I had the money to do it, I'm pretty sure I would have had upgrade fever all the way! I just recently bought a pair of tiny diamond huggie hoops from a chain store that has a trade-in policy, and all I've thought about since is what I'm going to get next time (at double the price). It's an evil plot to make us buy more stuff - and really, it's genius when you think about it.

    I think your ring is STUNNING @ceg, but I totally get it. Do you have something small you could wear for a little bit, to make you appreciate your current ring?
     
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    by ceg » Feb 11, 2019 at 2:47 PM
    Thank you @violet3 !!

    I have plenty of bands so I'm good there. I think I need to just take a rest from it. I guess I will see in a few days, maybe a week!
     
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