Iowa Lizzy
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Backstory: Two of FI''s aunts (whom I''ve never met) offered to throw a joint bridal shower for myself and two of FI''s cousins who are also getting married this summer. I was initially just thrilled that someone had offered to do this for me. My mother keeps telling me I''m too old for a bridal shower (I''m 2
and I already own a house so I don''t need anything (most of my kitchen and bathroom items are hand-me-downs that I''ve had since college). I have three bridesmaids. My MOH hasn''t offered to throw one, and that''s okay (I didn''t throw her shower last year when she was married). The second BM is my little sister and she''s only 19 so I wouldn''t ask her. My third BM is my older sister who has a slew of her own issues; let''s just say that it would be a very, very weird shower. But I digress.
So a few nights ago, FI''s mother calls to tell me they have a theme for the shower. I''m thinking, "cool, a theme could be fun." Turns out, it''s a GROCERY SHOWER. So instead of the usual items off the registry or other thoughtful gifts, it''s GROCERIES. As in, "let''s help the newlyweds stock their cupboards!"
Umm..... Here''s the thing. I don''t even like it with my FIANCE does the grocery shopping, let alone a bunch of people I''ve never even met. I mean, I could see if we were going straight from a dorm or something to our first house and we needed all the initial items that cost a boatload in the beginning like condiments and spices, but we''ve been living together for over two years! I could also see it being neat if maybe I was really close to these people and they knew all my favorite foods. Like "Oh, Liz has loved these cookies for as long as I''ve known her" or "She puts Hellman''s Light Mayo on everything." But no. I don''t know them. I''m not a picky eater, but I''m a pretty picky shopper. I like what I like. I have this feeling that I''m going to get 15 boxes of Jiffy Cornbread mix and Tuna Helper. Garbanzo beans. Creamed corn. Cans of peas.....
FI just keeps laughing at me because he warned me that this side of his family was a little strange and told me I shouldn''t have accepted the shower invitation to begin with. He told me that if we just get a bunch of pre-packaged food that we can take it directly to the food bank after the shower. Well, that''s all fine and good. But then I''d driving a total of four hours to pick up a bunch of non-freakin''-perishables to donate!
My friends and co-workers are having a hay day with this. My MOH sent me a text the other night. It said: "Stopping by the grocery store for some milk after work. Figured I''d get your shower gift while I''m there. Hope you like Ramen Noodles!" Someone else asked if I was registered at Cub Foods or ALDI. A couple of my coworkers said that after I open every gift, I should say "Oh great! Cake Mix! Sure wish I had something to COOK this in."
My mother thinks it''s the oddest thing ever but she keeps asking how many people from my side of the family I get to invite. I said, "probably just you, my bridesmaids, maybe grandma." She said "what about MY friends? Wouldn''t THEY be invited?" Ugh. NO MOTHER. If you want YOUR friends at a shower for me, then YOU CAN THROW ONE. (Did I mention I have a severe urge to throw my phone out the window every time my mother calls to discuss wedding details)?
So anyway. Has anyone ever heard of this "grocery shower" idea? Is it just me, or is this about the weirdest thing you''ve heard for a shower? Good grief. I can''t get out of it. I have to go. Wish I could just say "Oh shucks, I already went grocery shopping this week. Thanks anyway!" FI told me to say that I''m a vegan who only buys organic foods, I''m on a gluten-free diet and I''m allergic to nuts. They''d probably figure out it was a lie when they see me inhaling my steak and wedding cake at our reception.....
Yes yes yes, it''s the thought that counts. But WHAT ARE THEY THINKING?!?!?!
and I already own a house so I don''t need anything (most of my kitchen and bathroom items are hand-me-downs that I''ve had since college). I have three bridesmaids. My MOH hasn''t offered to throw one, and that''s okay (I didn''t throw her shower last year when she was married). The second BM is my little sister and she''s only 19 so I wouldn''t ask her. My third BM is my older sister who has a slew of her own issues; let''s just say that it would be a very, very weird shower. But I digress.So a few nights ago, FI''s mother calls to tell me they have a theme for the shower. I''m thinking, "cool, a theme could be fun." Turns out, it''s a GROCERY SHOWER. So instead of the usual items off the registry or other thoughtful gifts, it''s GROCERIES. As in, "let''s help the newlyweds stock their cupboards!"
Umm..... Here''s the thing. I don''t even like it with my FIANCE does the grocery shopping, let alone a bunch of people I''ve never even met. I mean, I could see if we were going straight from a dorm or something to our first house and we needed all the initial items that cost a boatload in the beginning like condiments and spices, but we''ve been living together for over two years! I could also see it being neat if maybe I was really close to these people and they knew all my favorite foods. Like "Oh, Liz has loved these cookies for as long as I''ve known her" or "She puts Hellman''s Light Mayo on everything." But no. I don''t know them. I''m not a picky eater, but I''m a pretty picky shopper. I like what I like. I have this feeling that I''m going to get 15 boxes of Jiffy Cornbread mix and Tuna Helper. Garbanzo beans. Creamed corn. Cans of peas.....
FI just keeps laughing at me because he warned me that this side of his family was a little strange and told me I shouldn''t have accepted the shower invitation to begin with. He told me that if we just get a bunch of pre-packaged food that we can take it directly to the food bank after the shower. Well, that''s all fine and good. But then I''d driving a total of four hours to pick up a bunch of non-freakin''-perishables to donate!
My friends and co-workers are having a hay day with this. My MOH sent me a text the other night. It said: "Stopping by the grocery store for some milk after work. Figured I''d get your shower gift while I''m there. Hope you like Ramen Noodles!" Someone else asked if I was registered at Cub Foods or ALDI. A couple of my coworkers said that after I open every gift, I should say "Oh great! Cake Mix! Sure wish I had something to COOK this in."
My mother thinks it''s the oddest thing ever but she keeps asking how many people from my side of the family I get to invite. I said, "probably just you, my bridesmaids, maybe grandma." She said "what about MY friends? Wouldn''t THEY be invited?" Ugh. NO MOTHER. If you want YOUR friends at a shower for me, then YOU CAN THROW ONE. (Did I mention I have a severe urge to throw my phone out the window every time my mother calls to discuss wedding details)?
So anyway. Has anyone ever heard of this "grocery shower" idea? Is it just me, or is this about the weirdest thing you''ve heard for a shower? Good grief. I can''t get out of it. I have to go. Wish I could just say "Oh shucks, I already went grocery shopping this week. Thanks anyway!" FI told me to say that I''m a vegan who only buys organic foods, I''m on a gluten-free diet and I''m allergic to nuts. They''d probably figure out it was a lie when they see me inhaling my steak and wedding cake at our reception.....
Yes yes yes, it''s the thought that counts. But WHAT ARE THEY THINKING?!?!?!
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