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Ideal_Rock
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I find it so interesting how different people are. Some things people say don''t bother me, but can bother others. Some things that bother me don''t seem to bother anyone else.
Got me to thinking, what are your triggers, or hot spots when it comes to conversations?
My most recent is comments made by my best friend''s husband that just *floored* me with regard to where he thinks women are in comparison to men. He seems to think that if there are "problems at home," it lies primarily in the arms of the woman/mother and that the woman/mother would need to quit her job if it were of an extreme importance (took a lot of time from the family). While this may be true, I find it funny that he''d not say the same about a male/father in the same situation with "problems at home."
Kind of seems like my ultra women''s liberation friend got mis-matched in that area, somehow. Maybe that''s part of it, too: I know a lot of people who think a woman''s place is at home, and well, if it works for them and their family, okay, but don''t press that upon me or anyone else. It''s just weird to think of my best friend''s husband saying something like that. Makes me wonder if she knows he said it.
Ooh, to be a fly on the wall at their house tonight!!
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Another trigger for me... parents who yell and scream and bark commands and insults to their children. Not like, "Hey!! Don''t run in the road," or "Woah!" to get them to stop from being harmed, more like the comments like, "What are you, stupid?" and the lack of interaction and more of just a constant tirade of what they''re doing wrong, what they better do next, etc. Direction doesn''t have to be harsh!
Got me to thinking, what are your triggers, or hot spots when it comes to conversations?
My most recent is comments made by my best friend''s husband that just *floored* me with regard to where he thinks women are in comparison to men. He seems to think that if there are "problems at home," it lies primarily in the arms of the woman/mother and that the woman/mother would need to quit her job if it were of an extreme importance (took a lot of time from the family). While this may be true, I find it funny that he''d not say the same about a male/father in the same situation with "problems at home."
Kind of seems like my ultra women''s liberation friend got mis-matched in that area, somehow. Maybe that''s part of it, too: I know a lot of people who think a woman''s place is at home, and well, if it works for them and their family, okay, but don''t press that upon me or anyone else. It''s just weird to think of my best friend''s husband saying something like that. Makes me wonder if she knows he said it.
Ooh, to be a fly on the wall at their house tonight!!
****
Another trigger for me... parents who yell and scream and bark commands and insults to their children. Not like, "Hey!! Don''t run in the road," or "Woah!" to get them to stop from being harmed, more like the comments like, "What are you, stupid?" and the lack of interaction and more of just a constant tirade of what they''re doing wrong, what they better do next, etc. Direction doesn''t have to be harsh!