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What''s the longest streak you and DH have BD''d for? This is the 5th day in a row that I''ve had EWCM and it''s only CD16. I''m pretty sure I O''d on CD16 last cycle, but my average is CD20 and my latest O was CD25, so we could still have a while to go. Agh! It doesn''t help that I''m not feeling well today either.
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On the bright side, I convinced DH that it was necessary to get a FRER and a digi while we were at wal-mart to keep on hand for when we get a bfp on a $tree. So, I''m all set with tests now!
 
i''m sending sticky dust your way ll.

just checking in and hoping everyone has a great labor day....hopefully someone will get a bfp and really have a great LABOR day
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Robbie, we did it for 8 days straight around the time I thought I might be Oing. Oh, and 6 times before that during the cycle. Yeah, we wanted to give it our best chance possible. :) Never more than once a day though.
 
Peony & Robbie, you girls are s@*-machines!
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Sounds like fun!
 
That''s a long time to go, Robbie.

We do the every other day thing since I have no clue when I ovulate with super long cycles. Since they are so long, I feel like I have fewer chances to get preggo, so we''re trying from the time that others with "normal" cycles start the BD up until I either get a temp that shows I''ve O''d or if I find fertile CM, we''ll go every day at that point.

Paul was pretty disappointed that we didn''t get preggo last cycle, our first of trying. I think he thought that once he was on board with it, it would just happen. I told him we should have started trying months ago!
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I read somewhere (can''t remember where since I''ve been looking so much up lately) that some women have fertile CM for several days before/after Oing, so we may have to BD every day for a stretch. I told Paul that and he said, "Good gosh, I''m sure my parents didn''t get pregnant this way, Jen."

Funny to think about how it happens so easily for some. Of course, all of us would eventually end up preggo if we didn''t do anything to prevent it, too, more than likely.
 
Fisher, how long is your cycle? Mine is about 35 days.
 
Pandora you chart looks great... I wouldn''t call that a "dip" but don''t worry, it really means nothing. They tend to be more common in pregnancy cycles, but it''s like 15% of women get them in non-pregnancy cycles and 23% in pregnancy cycles
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So really who cares.

Robbie 10 days was our longest stretch. I kept thinking I would O and then nope, another low temp!! It was even more annoying since I was waiting to plan a business trip until I confirmed O! LOL! It was seriously too long for my taste, by the end we were literally laughing during the act since it was so non-sexy, but that made it fun too I suppose! As bed time apporach we''d be like, "Okay, lets go get it on...sighhhh..." then we''d argue about who had to be in the position that does all the "work"
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, "It''s your turn!" "No it''s your turn!" then we''d laugh hysterically. It worked since we got KTFU that month, but man it was more than I required. I was good for a month after that, but DH was ready for more after 1 days rest
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haha... yeah right buddy!
 
Peony, 8 days?! Agh! Well, if we go 8 days, at least we''re halfway through!

Indy, it sounded like fun in theory to me too. In practice, though, not so much. I''m going to have to find some ways to spice it up.

Fisher, my problem is that I have a lot of days of EWCM. Oh well, I guess that means the spermies have a good chance of making it til the egg gets there.
 
Date: 9/1/2008 5:05:27 PM
Author: fisherofmengirly
That''s a long time to go, Robbie.

I read somewhere (can''t remember where since I''ve been looking so much up lately) that some women have fertile CM for several days before/after Oing, so we may have to BD every day for a stretch. I told Paul that and he said, ''Good gosh, I''m sure my parents didn''t get pregnant this way, Jen.''

Funny to think about how it happens so easily for some. Of course, all of us would eventually end up preggo if we didn''t do anything to prevent it, too, more than likely.
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This is totally true, 80% of women get preggo within 1 year just by not using protection.

I know that charting significantly reduces the amount of time it takes women to get preggo. Let''s say without charting it would take you 6-8 months, with charting it may only take 3-4 months! Actually, my MIL and I were talking and this and it took her 12 months to get preggo with my DH. She had long cycles and I bet they just BD whenever they felt like it, as did most of our parents probably. My grandmother got preggo at the drop of a hat, also without charting! But I think my grandparents were pretty randy 20 year olds when they had all their kids... if you are the type of couple that BDs every day or every other day for fun, then just go ahead business as usual and you will get KTFU really fast! But if you are a once or twice a week type couple, then the odds of actually BDing in the fertile phase randomly are pretty low so it would just take longer...
 
I think it's indicative of how much I want to be pregnant when my first reaction to Bristol Palin's pregnant was. . . JEALOUSY!!
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Date: 9/1/2008 5:11:08 PM
Author: peonygirl
Fisher, how long is your cycle? Mine is about 35 days.
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Peonygirl,

Since coming off the pill in January, it''s varied from 35 days to 61 days. The last cycle was the longest, and it was the first where we were trying to conceive, and it was a little heart breaking to know that if my cycle was "normal," we would have had two chances during that time.

But alas, it will come. In the best time, I''m sure. I have a hard time with wanting things my way, in my time, and I just can''t control this one HUGE aspect of our lives.

For now, I''m just trying to pinpoint that I do in fact ovulate, and then I think I''ll (maybe) be more able to be patient and enjoy the journey toward motherhood. I''m sure looking back a few years from now, I''ll think about how silly it was to be in such a rush, as I hold a little one (or a toddler) in my arms, or rather watching him or her tear around the house.
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Dreamer,

Did you end up preggo your first month of trying? Lucky girl!
 
Date: 9/1/2008 5:35:29 PM
Author: peonygirl
I think it's indicative of how much I want to be pregnant when my first reaction to Bristol Palin's pregnant was. . . JEALOUSY!!
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Haha. I so wasn't going to post this, but when I read all the "hype" about this teenager being the mother of the potential VP elect's child, I was going on and on about it to Paul (because of the lack of facts and the smearing and the making a teen feel fat, etc.), and his reaction? That I was jealous because I want a baby so badly and was upset for that reason more than any other.

Hmph! was all I said in response to that...
 
Date: 9/1/2008 5:42:50 PM
Author: fisherofmengirly
Dreamer,

Did you end up preggo your first month of trying? Lucky girl!
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Noooooo... it was my third month, so I know the bitter taste of trying and getting BFNs... and the uncertainty of not charting, since I didn''t my first month... and I know the agony of a "wonky cycle" since my second month was only 23 days with an 8 day LP that scared the cr*p out of me...

What gave you that idea? Oh, was it my "10 day marathon" post? That was just our LONGEST stretch! LOL! Month 1 was 8 days in a row, month 2 was 5 times in 6 days, but we missed the day before O and I blamed that for the BFN that month
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so the next month we weren''t taking any chances and thus the BD marathon commenced.
 
DD, 10 days?! Agh! Maybe this will be our lucky cycle too! I''m sure my excitement for O to come isn''t helping it get here any sooner.
 
LOL, all I can say is that we have DTD more in this cycle than probably the first half of this year!

Operation Baby has meant we can''t just say too tired, want to read this chapter, have to get up early etc etc we HAVE to get going.
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Exactly Pandora! :) I will even admit that DH came home twice during nights he was on call to BD. He just told his attendings/residents that he was going to take a short nap and to page him if he was needed. Additionally, we live less than 5 mins from the hospital and he had his pager next to the bed the whole time. Fun times, ha!
 
Hey guys. Hope everyone is having a good labor day!

So, I''ve stopped spotting and the cramps aren''t nearly as bad now. SO I''m a bit more hopeful...but the low HCG hormone levels are a bit worrying. Blah. Whatever will be will be. Not going to get hopes up...just going to go and get the blood test tomorrow and see where we are.

And I''m proud to report that DH cleaned the heck of the house! It was a very nice anniversary present!

As for consecutive DTD - I think our best was like 5 out of 6 days...we stink!

Fisher - DH thought getting pregnant was as simple as having unprotected sex. Boys.
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They really just don''t understand all that goes into it!

Of course, given the current state of affairs, we are on a NO DTD hold right now.
 
Thanks for posting that about the watery CM. Here I thought that I was peeing a little bit from time to time without realizing it. What a dork!



DD, yes I thought maybe you were a one timer because of that last post. I was thinking, "Golly, she knows so much about this stuff, and didn''t even need to know it all because she got lucky first go round." Glad you learned what you did, though, because you''re one of the first to answer my odd questions. Thanks!

I saw your belly shots in the preggo thread. Has the bump grown any more yet?
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Date: 9/1/2008 7:40:17 PM
Author: littlelysser
Hey guys. Hope everyone is having a good labor day!

So, I''ve stopped spotting and the cramps aren''t nearly as bad now. SO I''m a bit more hopeful...but the low HCG hormone levels are a bit worrying. Blah. Whatever will be will be. Not going to get hopes up...just going to go and get the blood test tomorrow and see where we are.

And I''m proud to report that DH cleaned the heck of the house! It was a very nice anniversary present!

As for consecutive DTD - I think our best was like 5 out of 6 days...we stink!

Fisher - DH thought getting pregnant was as simple as having unprotected sex. Boys.
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They really just don''t understand all that goes into it!

Of course, given the current state of affairs, we are on a NO DTD hold right now.
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Wouldn''t that be GREAT? Okay, for when you wanna have a baby, but not for when you just forget. I can just see now that I''ve said that, I''ll be preggo when our last baby is like 16.
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Okay, so I know the average LP is 14 days, but does that vary for a woman with a LONG cycle? Or is it just assumed to be two weeks and that means you ovulate way later on?

Today is day 18 of my cycle and today was the first day I had any CF that was of the "fertile" variety. I''m wondering if that''s a sign of what''s to come, or just a "patch." If I have a 40 day cycle (because I''ve not had one shorter than that since Feb), then now would be too soon to be getting ready to O, no?
 
My LPs are only 14 days, even though my cycle is about 35 days long. Just about everyone has one of 14-16 days.
 
Date: 9/1/2008 8:01:52 PM
Author: fisherofmengirly
Okay, so I know the average LP is 14 days, but does that vary for a woman with a LONG cycle? Or is it just assumed to be two weeks and that means you ovulate way later on?


Today is day 18 of my cycle and today was the first day I had any CF that was of the 'fertile' variety. I'm wondering if that's a sign of what's to come, or just a 'patch.' If I have a 40 day cycle (because I've not had one shorter than that since Feb), then now would be too soon to be getting ready to O, no?
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Fisher, you actually can't predict when you'll O this cycle based on when you've O'd during past cycles. This is what the rhythm method of bc does and that's why it fails a lot. The only thing that you can count on to be consistent (+ or - a day at least) is your LP. It is possible that you'll have a 40 day cycle this time with multiple patches of fertile CM, but you shouldn't assume that or you could miss the egg.

It's super rare to have an LP longer than 18 days which is why if you have 18 high temps, you can pretty much assume you're a jerkstore.


ETA: My longest cycle was 35 days and I O'd on CD25, giving me a 10 day LP that cycle. My avg is 11.
 
Date: 9/1/2008 8:11:03 PM
Author: peonygirl
My LPs are only 14 days, even though my cycle is about 35 days long. Just about everyone has one of 14-16 days.
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I disagree...I think they can vary as well. The month I got prego I believe my LP was only 9 days...and DD''s prego cycle, her LP was only 8 days.
 
Date: 9/1/2008 8:30:09 PM
Author: littlelysser
Date: 9/1/2008 8:11:03 PM

Author: peonygirl

My LPs are only 14 days, even though my cycle is about 35 days long. Just about everyone has one of 14-16 days.
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I disagree...I think they can vary as well. The month I got prego I believe my LP was only 9 days...and DD''s prego cycle, her LP was only 8 days.
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LL, if you get pregnant, you have no way of knowing what your LP would be since the definition of an LP is the day after ovulation through the day before AF. Since you never get AF when you''re pregnant, you can''t know when your LP would''ve ended.
 
A "normal" luteal phase is anywhere from 10 to 16 days, with 12-16 being the most common and hence 14 being the mean.

Robbie is right that a luteal phase is the time between ovulation and your period, so that the cycle you get pregnant you don''t really know how long your LP is.

However, while an LP can vary here and there, for the most part, it stays fairly consistent for a particular woman. So, if one cycle is 30 day and one is 24, then if your LP is, say, 12 days the odds are that you ovulated on day 18 on cycle 1 and day 12 on cycle two. Ovulation moves around a LOT more than LP and can be affected by things like stress, so it is responsible for most of the variation in cycles, rather than LP.
 
Date: 9/1/2008 8:30:09 PM
Author: littlelysser

I disagree...I think they can vary as well. The month I got prego I believe my LP was only 9 days...and DD''s prego cycle, her LP was only 8 days.
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Lysser, those short LPs were in the cycles BEFORE we each got preggeroo (since a new cycle started when we had our periods at the end of those stupid LPs) and I think that in both of our cases they were "bad" cycles caused by coming off the pill. A woman''s entire hormone profile is jacked up by the pill, and because of this, LPs can be wonky for up to 6 months coming off the pill. In healthy women who are not under the influence of hormonal birth control, LPs are remarkably invariant and are not affected by environmental stressors. In contrast, your O-dates can be pushed arond by stress a lot! Mine were usually around 10-12 days, others will have LPs in the 12-14 day range. 10-16 days is the typical range.

Fisher your body could be preparing to ovulate, to get busy with the BDing as much as possible! Keep temping and see what happens. If your fertile CF disappears without a temp shift, then it means you body was gearing up to ovulate and then for some reason did not---could be that your hormones were not co-operating, or that you were stressed. Some women are more susceptible to stress than others, and so will have widly varied cycle lenghts (based on wildy different amounts of time before the ovulate, NOT because of LP changes). Some women can be under the most stress in the universe and still ovulate regularly. Maybe after that loong cycle your body is going to change and you will ovulate sooner rather than later? Here''s hoping, only time will tell! If you are going to ovulate then it will most likely happen in the next 7-8 days, it is unusual, though *not* unheard of, for women to have fertile CF for more than a week prior to ovulation.
 
Date: 9/1/2008 8:01:52 PM
Author: fisherofmengirly
Okay, so I know the average LP is 14 days, but does that vary for a woman with a LONG cycle? Or is it just assumed to be two weeks and that means you ovulate way later on?

Today is day 18 of my cycle and today was the first day I had any CF that was of the ''fertile'' variety. I''m wondering if that''s a sign of what''s to come, or just a ''patch.'' If I have a 40 day cycle (because I''ve not had one shorter than that since Feb), then now would be too soon to be getting ready to O, no?
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PS-- even if you have a 40 day cycle, assuming you have a longer 16 day LP, this would suggest you could ovulate on CD 24, so it wouldn''t be strange at all if you had fertile CF starting on CD-18, 6 days before ovulation! See what happens!
 
So, since I don''t have a regular cycle, I can''t know if I''m nearing O based on CF, since all I have to go off is that my last 5 cycles have varied from 35 to 61 days. So, based on that, if LP is usually between 12-16 days, I''m no where near that since today is only day 18. So (how many sentences can I start in a row with "So,"?), if my average is 45 days (which it isn''t, but we''re talking mean here), I shouldn''t be even thinking anything really about actual baby making until like day 27, over a week from now.

Crazy.

LL, I hope your appt. tomorrow goes well. I''ll be thinking about you and your little bitty baby!!
 
Fisher, I wouldn''t base when to start BDing off of your avg O date. I''d base it off of your earliest O date to ensure that you don''t miss O altogether.
 
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