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The suspense is killing me Mela and Pandora! I''m rooting for you both!!!
Date: 8/11/2008 4:09:13 PM
Author: ChinaCat
...On the other hand- wow. One baby was 6 weeks, and the other 4 months, and it was a bit overwhelming. And if I am being honest, a bit boring. It doesn't sound fun. Lucikly, both of them were very cool and honest about how hard it was at first, but that it gets better. And of course, that it is totally worth it. Although sometimes I wonder about that- don't they have to say that? Because if it's not worth it, then how screwed are they??? Sorry, I can be a bit dark and snarky sometimes!
I really love this thread and the mommies thread for its complete honesty. I am one who wants to hear the worst possible scenario, and all of the bad things as well, so I know what I am in for and can prepare. Most people IRL act like it's all roses and rainbows with their babies, and it's just frustrating b/c I know that can't possibly be the case. But reading some of the mommies experiences, esp the bad parts, really makes me feel like I can do this. That may sound strange, but knowing what to expect scares me less.
And that the highlighted part I say "Pah." They call it morning SICKNESS for a reason...who feels great when they are sick? Not me! I had a pretty ideal pregnancy (L&D is another story however) and you know what? I really don't care to do it again. I didn't mind being pregnant (and sometimes I liked it when the movement started) but really...most women could do without that part. So I agree, don't beat yourself up over it. Honestly, I think the first trimester should be called the "What the hell did we do" trimester. Even those who want it, tried and charted for it end up being in a bit of shock when it happens and it is hard to come to grips with the fact that your life is about to change drastically. It's tough facing such a big life change when you are 100% healthy, but of course your body doesn't give you much time before it hits you with nausea and fatigue...which only makes all of seem more of a mouthful to chew on.Date: 8/11/2008 6:00:24 PM
Author: erica k
TGal, you're right, I haven't felt the baby yet (few more weeks, I guess), and although it was great to see the 11wk ultrasound, I really don't feel pregnant aside from the crummy symptoms. It's especially hard since the only pregnant person I know here has had an ideal pregnancy. Very few symptoms, her acne cleared up right away (I'm using the same product to no avail!), and she's loved every single minute of it. Part of me feels like that must mean I don't want it as badly as her. Even though I know that isn't true, it stinks that I'm allowing myself to think that way. But I knew from the beginning that I wouldn't be a lovey-dovey prego. I just didn't realize how crappy I could feel, though. I'm hoping for some relief in the next few weeks, but if not, at least I'll have other things to amuse myself with (baby movement, gender, shopping).
Hahaha! I am hoping and wishing that uterus land has a new little occupant hanging aroundDate: 8/11/2008 3:39:09 PM
Author: mela lu
HIL - where are you girl? What''s up in uterus land?
Date: 8/11/2008 10:16:27 PM
Author: Independent Gal
Just wanted to say sorry to everyone for the mini-thread-jack that got going there.I see how insensitive it was.
It won't happen again.
Date: 8/11/2008 10:31:58 PM
Author: EBree
Date: 8/11/2008 10:16:27 PM
I hope I didn''t discourage any pregnant ladies from sticking around. We need your encouragement (and baby dust, darn it!).
SERIOUSLY. RAIN IT DOWN ON ME, SISTERS. Spray it from above like bug spray- only baby spray.
Prior to the pill (which I LOATHE!!) I was not regular, regular, but around 30-35 days each cycle. Post-pill (since Jan 200, I''ve been incredibly irregular. The average has been about 40 or so days. This cycle, I''m nearing 60. I''m sad, but more than that, I''m worried. I called the Dr. again on Friday and they said that my nerves about it are likely keeping it off, and possibly the stress from the accident, too. They said I shouldn''t worry about anything for a while yet. I don''t know. I haven''t had any "problems" before and now that we''re ready to begin trying, I''m just irked that it''s NOW that the cycle would STRETCH way, way out. Oh the *irony* indeed!Date: 8/11/2008 9:00:44 PM
Author: AmberWaves
Oh Fisher, I''m so sorry your cycle is so dreadfully long. I know the feeling of wanting AF to appear so you can just hurry up and get on with the rest of your life, bringing ''necessities'' everywhere, never really knowing when it''ll hit. Just a warning: when it does appear, don''t worry if you''re super emotional. After I was a week late and AF arrived I seriously just broke down. It was slightly embarrassing as it was like, ''Where on earth did this come from?!'', but also kind of a sigh of relief that nothing was seriously wrong with me. I forget, how long are your cycles typically? Perhaps a visit to the doctor could be in order, or a blood test to make sure all is well with the womb.
*hugs*
And yes, the IRONIES of TTC: for me, when we weren''t married yet, I would pray AF would come. Then TTC it was praying for her not to come, then when she was late, back to praying she''d come again!
Good point EBree...I was thinking the same thing as I posted my (probably inappropriate) post. Back to lurking!Date: 8/11/2008 8:53:01 PM
Author: EBree
Attention ladies!
A gentle reminder: This is a mini-forum for women who are trying to conceive. Most of you have been there yourselves, and know how difficult and emotional a time it can be. While it's wonderful that some of you who are already pregnant are sticking around to cheer us on, it might be best to discuss the good AND bad of pregnancy over in the pregnancy forum. Remember, some of us are aching FOR the pregnancy symptoms you're aching FROM.
This isn't to anyone in particular, but to everyone. Let's try to be respectful of each other's feelings during this sensitive period.
Hugs.
Date: 8/11/2008 11:03:45 PM
Author: fisherofmengirly
Prior to the pill (which I LOATHE!!) I was not regular, regular, but around 30-35 days each cycle. Post-pill (since Jan 200, I''ve been incredibly irregular. The average has been about 40 or so days. This cycle, I''m nearing 60. I''m sad, but more than that, I''m worried. I called the Dr. again on Friday and they said that my nerves about it are likely keeping it off, and possibly the stress from the accident, too. They said I shouldn''t worry about anything for a while yet. I don''t know. I haven''t had any ''problems'' before and now that we''re ready to begin trying, I''m just irked that it''s NOW that the cycle would STRETCH way, way out. Oh the *irony* indeed!
The Dr. suggested (again) that I make an appt. for late September, and just let them know if when my period comes, if it''s anything ''different.'' Different how, I don''t know, but yeah... gotta love those phone consults, huh?
I definitely think that there something to be said for the ''good ol'' days'' when people just ended up pregnant, without a lot of planning or freaking out or stressing or measuring this or stretching that or graphing this or that. Haha... and those were the days when people would end up with 13 kids to help on the farm, too! It must have *worked* pretty good!
Paul''s been very encouraging and says it just gives us more time to prepare and dream of growing our family (in the right time, which we both know will come). It''s hard, but I''m trying to make the best of it.
Thanks for the support here, ladies. Some days (especially lately), I''ve been so emotional, and somehow, coming here can make it better.