Wedding Talk about a classy gift! (funny story)

[oobiecoo]

That''s hilarious!! just wanted to point out though that what they did was tacky and you don''t have an obligation to "baby" their feelings. I would let them know straight out... that''s my persoanlity though. I rarely beat around the bush...

 

[bebe]

Date: 4/22/2008 1:52:56 PM
Author: CrownJewel
You should re-gift them your re-gifted wedding present. WITH the Jack & Jill card inside. For one of their birthdays.

Exactly where I was going!! She is his GF, right? Them maybe there is a wedding in their future!! And of course a gift to be sent.

 

[luckystar112]

Date: 4/22/2008 2:23:07 PM
Author: Independent Gal
OK, I''ve got it. I think the trick is to make the thank you note sufficiently ambiguous that it''s not a slap in the face, but still leaves them wondering whether we know...

How about:

''Dear Bigshot & GF,

DH and I want to thank you for the espresso set. I''m sure anyone would be grateful to receive such a generous and thoughtful gift. We are serious coffee drinkers, so the set will find a loving home with us.

We''re so glad you were able to celebrate with us... etc.etc.

etc.

Indy & Indy''s DH''

Indie you are way too nice (which is a good thing, of course!)
I really think that they wouldn''t read into that at all...I wouldn''t!


How about something like,

Dear bigshot and GF,
DH and I want to thank you for the espresso set. We are so happy to take it off your hands. I''m sure anyone would be grateful to recieve such a thoughtful and generous gift. We are serious coffee drinkers, so the set will find a loving home with us.

It''s thought provoking because you mention the part about taking it off their hands, but then you go on to talk about how generous and thoughtful they are. They will be like, "wait.....huh??? DOES SHE KNOW???"

LOL!

 

[luckystar112]

Date: 4/22/2008 3:13:44 PM
Author: bebe

Date: 4/22/2008 1:52:56 PM
Author: CrownJewel
You should re-gift them your re-gifted wedding present. WITH the Jack & Jill card inside. For one of their birthdays.

Exactly where I was going!! She is his GF, right? Them maybe there is a wedding in their future!! And of course a gift to be sent.

I definitely think you should do this too, if you don''t want to do the thank you card thing.

 

[Aloros]

luckystar''s response gets my vote! Too much subtlety will fly right over their heads. This one''s sweet, polite, with a bite!

I''d love to be a fly on the wall when they read it!

 

[choro72]

DO IT! You''ve just got to!! Your wording it waaaay too nice. I second Lucky Star...Or even one of those "Thank Jack and Jill for me" thing. Do it!!

 

[zoebartlett]

Date: 4/22/2008 11:35:38 AM
Author: Haven
GREAT story! At least the gift was nice.

I would stick the Jack and Jill card in with your thank you card and write something like ''this slipped in with the gift, I thought you might like to keep it.''

This is what I''d do. He''s not such a bigshot now, IS he?

 

[iheartscience]

Date: 4/22/2008 12:52:14 PM
Author: luckystar112
Do you think there is some random Doctor''s messageboard somewhere with a similiar post?

''Just got a wedding invitation in the mail....they put me as MISTER instead of DOCTOR. Can you believe them? The audacity! I''m wondering if I should correct them when I send in the R.S.V.P.?''

Response 1: Do it! I can''t believe them!

Response 2: Ugh. Do they not know that you are a DOCTOR!!!?!! Put them in their place!!!

Response 3: I don''t know what I would do if I were called ''Mister''. I think would crouch in a fetal position and cry it off.

Response 4: [quoting number 3] Well, they don''t even deserve their own gift, IMO. I''d RE-GIFT!

Hahahaha! Hilarious, lucky!

Indy, I don''t think I could resist doing a "P.S. Tell Jack and Jill they have great taste!" You''re a better person than I am!

It would be hard not using such a great espresso maker, but I would try to save it for a year or so to see if a wedding is imminent. And if it is...I''d regift it back!

P.S. This reminds me of Will Farrell in that movie Old School. He tries to give Luke Wilson''s character the same bread maker that Luke Wilson got him as a wedding gift. Then he tries to give the bread maker to Vince Vaughn''s kid for a birthday present! Hilarious.

 

[crystalheart1]

It is NOT that great of an Espresso Maker - It is Stove type cheap type...... probably at Marshalls for 15.99... This was a very lame excuse for a wedding gift... ok ... maybe a house warming gift you would give an acquaintance... This whole thing is in very bad taste!!

 

[neatfreak]

Date: 4/22/2008 9:24:11 PM
Author: crystalheart1
It is NOT that great of an Espresso Maker - It is Stove type cheap type...... probably at Marshalls for 15.99... This was a very lame excuse for a wedding gift... ok ... maybe a house warming gift you would give an acquaintance... This whole thing is in very bad taste!!

Stove types make pretty great espresso when done correctly...

 

[Independent Gal]

I would estimate that there was $100 or so of gift in there. The stove top was a pretty nice one, and there was also the cups, frother, Illy, etc.

And while the stove tops can make reasonable espresso, it ain''t half as good as our new Nespresso. God I love that thing!

 

[Independent Gal]

BTW, be honest, how many of you would actually be able to bring yourself to include the card or make reference to it in your thank you? Honestly. Would YOU actually do it?!

 

[neatfreak]

Date: 4/22/2008 9:54:19 PM
Author: Independent Gal
BTW, be honest, how many of you would actually be able to bring yourself to include the card or make reference to it in your thank you? Honestly. Would YOU actually do it?!

I don''t know that I would have the balls to write a really snarky comment. But I think I would certainly put the card in there. And MAAAAYBE say something along the lines of "this must have slipped into our present, thought you might like it back".

 

[surfgirl]

Date: 4/22/2008 9:54:19 PM
Author: Independent Gal
BTW, be honest, how many of you would actually be able to bring yourself to include the card or make reference to it in your thank you? Honestly. Would YOU actually do it?!

Yeah, I''d do it. If someone is that stupid to re gift something without taking out the original card? They deserve to be embarrassed over their own stupidity and lack of manners. Not to mention their cheapness.

 

[VRBeauty]

Nah. I'd go with your original response (leave them wondering

) and then re-gift it to them, with the original card and theirs to you, at the earliest opportunity. In this case I think that "taking the high road" would ultimately be more satisfying

, not to mention more fun!

 

[luckystar112]

Ok...HONESTLY....I would put the jack and jill card in the same envelope--no snarky comment. The card IS the statement.
That is 100% honestly what I would do.

 

[FrekeChild]

I''d go over every option for a week, and then depending on how passive aggressive I was feeling that day, I''d do SOMETHING so that they''d know. And feel embarrassed. And humiliated and ashamed. But I''m kind of a snarky B like that.

Dear MR. Not-so-Big-Shot & Flavor of the Month,

Thank you SO much for the wonderful espresso maker and ecoutrements. We are delighted with your amazing generosity. I''m sure anyone would be grateful to receive such a thoughtful and lavish gift. We are serious coffee drinkers, so the set will find a loving home with us.

Mrs. Indy Gal and Mr. Indy Guy

P.S. Since Jack and Jill have such wonderful taste, would you mind giving me their number so I can thank them too?

And include the card.

Yeah, I''m not really very subtle am I?

 

[iheartscience]

Date: 4/22/2008 10:25:19 PM
Author: surfgirl

Date: 4/22/2008 9:54:19 PM

Author: Independent Gal

BTW, be honest, how many of you would actually be able to bring yourself to include the card or make reference to it in your thank you? Honestly. Would YOU actually do it?!

Yeah, I''d do it. If someone is that stupid to re gift something without taking out the original card? They deserve to be embarrassed over their own stupidity and lack of manners. Not to mention their cheapness.

Ditto-that''s really just so tacky, thoughtless and rude. I would, depending on how snarky I was feeling, at the very least include the card, and if I was extra snarky that day, I would also do a P.S. about thanking Jack and Jill for me.

 

[miraclesrule]

I can never be anyting but honest, which is why I have to admit, I would totally have to let them know that I know.

I mean, he is the guy who totally called you on his title. OMG, if that would not have been the case, I wouldn''t have the gall to do anything but say eh...whatev...

But the fact that he did go out of his way to correct you on the invite. Oh, I just wouldn''t be able to control myself.

All these comments are cracking me up though. PS has some fairly genius snarks

 

[Haven]

Honestly? I''d be REALLY snarky in my head, go over a million different ways to make Mr. Big Shot feel so-very-embarrassed over the mistake, and I''d post all about it on PS.

Then I''d sit down to write a perfectly lovely thank you letter and close the issue. In the end, I''d feel saying something nasty or calling attention to his faux pas would really just bring me down to the same level of bad taste as it was to forget to take out the Jack & Jill card in the first place. And I certainly don''t want to allow Mr. Big Shot to ruin MY taste. No, thank you.

This "I want to call you out on your bad manners!" issue is the hardest to deal with because the act of actually calling someone out on their bad manners is JUST PLAIN BAD MANNERS, as in, tasteless. Which is really a shame, because it would feel pretty good to use Lucky''s wording in the thank you letter. REALLY good, probably. Especially after the "Excuse me, but it''s DOCTOR" incident.

But in the end it always feels best to know that you carried yourself with grace, dignity, and pride and the other guy is the one who looks like an ass. Or, I should say Dr. Ass, I suppose.

 

[galeteia]

Do you have any family gossips in the tree somewhere? Send back a nice note and then spread it through the vine that you''d love to meet Jim & Carol''s friends Jack and Jill because they seem to have a lot in common with you.

If I were you, honestly, I''d slip the card back in the thank-you and tell them you''re returning a card of theirs that got misplaced. Be as sweet as honey about it. The card alone is enough.

And the Dr. thing is too hilarious.

 

[Harleigh]

I am of no help here whatsoever, but thanks for the best laugh I''ve had all day!

I agree with Haven...be snarky in your head and here with us, but I think you have to continue to be the bigger person and not stoop to their immature level.

I do think it might be sort of fun to re-gift it to them at THEIR wedding or other significant juncture...along with the original card, theirs to you and a new one, of course!

Sorry they did something so tactless!

P.S. I missed out on your WP2 pictures, as well...I heard it was beautiful! Congrats on getting through both weddings!

 

[miraclesrule]

I am regifting my daughters xmas present that she got for me to her and her hubby for their wedding. Unfortunately they already know about it. I do not know what my child was thinking when she got me this hideous thing, but I am sure that she was influenced by her FI. I am so that girl whose favorite book as a child was " The Emperors New Clothes". I''m the girl who shouts out..."He''s nekkid!!!"

When everyone is thinking the same thing, I am known as the person who actually says it...out loud. It''s a curse.

 

[monarch64]

Yes, life has just INVITED you to do something you wouldn''t normally do. Take life up on the invitation and go all out. They deserve it. (And I am not typically a vindictive person, but this is just too good.)

 

[onvacation]

Date: 4/22/2008 10:31:31 PM
Author: MINIMS
Nah. I''d go with your original response (leave them wondering

) and then re-gift it to them, with the original card and theirs to you, at the earliest opportunity. In this case I think that ''taking the high road'' would ultimately be more satisfying

, not to mention more fun!

Indy Gal, I''m sorry you''re in a sticky situation! I agree with Haven. I wouldn''t have the balls to be mean in the thank you card. I''d rant about it, go waaaah to my bf, maybe hint a little, but unless I was assaulted repeatedly and the offense built up, I''d be too chicken to call them to it directly. I would go with the original keep ''em wondering, sweet thank you card, but if you''re still feeling the way you do now when it''s time for their wedding, accessorize your dad and bestow upon him the pleasure of re-gifting with the card in it! That is, if your dad is up to it. Sounds like he''d be game. MUhahahahahaha!

 

[Mrs Mitchell]

Date: 4/22/2008 9:54:19 PM
Author: Independent Gal
BTW, be honest, how many of you would actually be able to bring yourself to include the card or make reference to it in your thank you? Honestly. Would YOU actually do it?!

In a heartbeat!

I would simply include the Jack and Jill card with the thank you note, and make no other reference to it. Regifiting happens, but you check these little details first! LOL

Jen

 

[Livinthedream]

Date: 4/22/2008 9:54:19 PM
Author: Independent Gal
BTW, be honest, how many of you would actually be able to bring yourself to include the card or make reference to it in your thank you? Honestly. Would YOU actually do it?!

I would. I would at least send the card with your TY card. They can feel embarrassed (or not) on their own. Who knows, maybe they''ll send another gift!

 

[CrownJewel]

Maybe they think they''re being really funny and they did it on purpose? From the previous threads on Mr. Bigshot, it doesn''t sound like you''re very close...but that sounds like a joke one of my friends would play on us.

That''s why I WOULD send the card back to them.

 

[doodle]

Date: 4/22/2008 9:54:19 PM
Author: Independent Gal
BTW, be honest, how many of you would actually be able to bring yourself to include the card or make reference to it in your thank you? Honestly. Would YOU actually do it?!

in a heartbeat! but for me it''d be something like,

Dear Dr. Ass and Classless,
DH and I want to thank you for the espresso set. We are so grateful to recieve such a thoughtful and generous gift. We are serious coffee drinkers, so the set will find a loving home with us. We hope all is well with you and your family--how are Jack and Jill doing these days?

i''d be completely incapable of not mentioning it, and i wouldn''t have the patience to wait for the chance to regift it back to them! it''s just too funny to not bring it up somehow, and Doc asked for it!!

 

[lliang_chi]

I guess I can agree with people who say calling this out is bad manners, but I feel it''s kinda deserved. Normally I try to be polite but a big part of me would be screaming "C''MON! Really?!?" Hope you have a fun time with this Indy.