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Rough_Rock
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Hello ps’ers
Looking for some advice for a frustrating journey! I apologize in advance if it’s long winded..
My boyfriend and I recently got engaged, he picked out a lovely RB 1.2 carat diamond and I picked out the setting at a local jewellery shop. The setting is a four prong cathedral solitaire with a 2.5mm shank that tapers towards the diamond, and a surprise diamond on either side of the ring where the 4 prongs meet. When we met with the jeweler/owner of store, the only stipulations we really had was 1) to modify the ring so that a straight wedding band could fit as close as possible to it, and 2) for us to be able to see the entire diamond, ie. see the culet. He said not a problem, instead of a 2.5mm shank, we’ll increase it slightly to 2.7 mm, and the tunnel that holds the surprise diamond, that juts out from the shank, will be filed down by hand so that a wedding band will be less than 1 mm away from the e-ring.
Fast forward to the day the ring is ready: It’s beautiful, looks great on my hand, he respected my desire to be able to wear a wedding band alongside with minimal gap, and I am happy. However, there are some flaws that I catch upon closer observation.
1) There is a pinprick dent at the top of one of the prongs. It’s small but noticeable.
2) The space between the shank and the shoulders of the cathedral setting, is not polished. It was dull grey and again, not noticeable from afar, but as the wearer looking at it, it’s a contrast from the polished exterior.
3) Along the shank under the shoulders of the setting, instead of being a smooth edge, there is an uneven patch along the edge that I felt should definitely been caught, and easily smoothed out.
4) The diamond’s culet was buried (by a very minuscule amount, we’re talking maybe .5mm), you could see that the jeweler had drilled a tiny hole into the metal below to accommodate it. This may have stemmed from when he sent us the CAD drawing, showing a diamond mounted sky high with ample space under it, we're talking another diamond can fit under it, and I replied asking for it to be much lower and that I'd defer to his judgment. However, I still thought this implied that the culet would be visible from the profile.
5) Where they had hand filed the tunnel that holds the surprise diamond, they seemed to have filed one side of the tunnel a bit more and left it with a tiny gash (the jeweler called it a “tool-mark”)
Suffice it to say, I wasn’t satisfied with the craftsmanship.
I went back to the owner and prefaced it by saying how much I love the ring but there are some tiny changes that I would like fixed. As I listed the details of the tool marks, and rough edges, and raising the diamond just a touch, he just kind of stayed quiet, and when he did answer me, he seemed annoyed as if I were being a difficult customer… at the end of the meeting, he said he would try to fix the things that bothered me and that then jokingly told me “you have a good eye!” to which I wanted to say, your jeweler should have a better one!
Days go by, and I try to get in touch to get updates on the work being done and when I could expect it. I get responses such as “we're trying to fix all the things that were bothering you” and “it went well, I think you will love it” without any details really..
Finally comes the day that it’s ready to be picked up. He is in a much better mood than the last time I met him and as he presents me the ring he tells me that they remade the whole ring. I look at it and comment how beautiful it is, the polish is spot on and everything looks smooth. Sidenote: he then apologizes if he seemed off the last time we met as he had just gotten news of a tragedy in his family..
My impressions of the ring: For one, the shank seems to be a bit skinnier (it was supposed to be 2.7mm but this doesn’t seem to measure more than 2.5 mm) and they did not modify the tunnel like we originally discussed so that a wedding band could sit closer. Now it seems that there would be a gap of 1.5mm instead of the less than 1mm discussed. The diamond is indeed higher, with about 1 mm of free space under it, and frankly I don’t like how it has made the setting look tall and skinny, I wanted the diamond’s culet to clear the metal but not be this high. And my final observation is that one of the prongs is not fully in contact with the diamond’s girdle. I should have pointed out these things when I was at the shop but when he started discussing the tragedy, we got sidetracked and I didn’t feel right pointing out what I noticed at the time.
So once again, I am making a trip to the see the owner this time with my boyfriend for some support… but I was looking for opinions on what issues I would be justified to make.
1) I want for the agreed upon gap to be less than 1mm which would mean filing down the tunnel and making the shank 2.7mm as discussed (which also might just mean making a brand new ring once again)
2) I want the prong to be fixed so that the diamond is in full contact with it for safety - this I believe is non-negotiable on his part.
3) I want the diamond set lower as I only wished to have the entire diamond visible and not buried. This request I recognize as a communication error as I should have been clear not to make it that high. (I did write in an earlier email at one point that I didn’t want to the diamond to be set too high, and I just wanted a fraction of space between culet and metal, but I guess I wasn’t clear enough.)
Do these sound reasonable? Most likely if I stick to the 2.7mm shank that I want, I'm guessing he'll have to remake the ring entirely again. Can I still ask for them to lower the diamond in this case? Or should I have to pay for that repair? I can’t help but feel like I’m going to be written off as a picky and difficult customer … What would you do in my situation?? The ring is pretty as is, but just not 100% to my liking. If I could just get the design of the original ring, (with the diamond raised just enough to clear the culet and the craftsmanship of the second……I would be happy!!
Your advice is truly appreciated, thanks for reading! I'm having trouble posting pictures to show what I mean. Hopefully will edit the post later to include them! ETA: see avatar for what it would ideally look like
My boyfriend and I recently got engaged, he picked out a lovely RB 1.2 carat diamond and I picked out the setting at a local jewellery shop. The setting is a four prong cathedral solitaire with a 2.5mm shank that tapers towards the diamond, and a surprise diamond on either side of the ring where the 4 prongs meet. When we met with the jeweler/owner of store, the only stipulations we really had was 1) to modify the ring so that a straight wedding band could fit as close as possible to it, and 2) for us to be able to see the entire diamond, ie. see the culet. He said not a problem, instead of a 2.5mm shank, we’ll increase it slightly to 2.7 mm, and the tunnel that holds the surprise diamond, that juts out from the shank, will be filed down by hand so that a wedding band will be less than 1 mm away from the e-ring.
Fast forward to the day the ring is ready: It’s beautiful, looks great on my hand, he respected my desire to be able to wear a wedding band alongside with minimal gap, and I am happy. However, there are some flaws that I catch upon closer observation.
1) There is a pinprick dent at the top of one of the prongs. It’s small but noticeable.
2) The space between the shank and the shoulders of the cathedral setting, is not polished. It was dull grey and again, not noticeable from afar, but as the wearer looking at it, it’s a contrast from the polished exterior.
3) Along the shank under the shoulders of the setting, instead of being a smooth edge, there is an uneven patch along the edge that I felt should definitely been caught, and easily smoothed out.
4) The diamond’s culet was buried (by a very minuscule amount, we’re talking maybe .5mm), you could see that the jeweler had drilled a tiny hole into the metal below to accommodate it. This may have stemmed from when he sent us the CAD drawing, showing a diamond mounted sky high with ample space under it, we're talking another diamond can fit under it, and I replied asking for it to be much lower and that I'd defer to his judgment. However, I still thought this implied that the culet would be visible from the profile.
5) Where they had hand filed the tunnel that holds the surprise diamond, they seemed to have filed one side of the tunnel a bit more and left it with a tiny gash (the jeweler called it a “tool-mark”)
Suffice it to say, I wasn’t satisfied with the craftsmanship.
I went back to the owner and prefaced it by saying how much I love the ring but there are some tiny changes that I would like fixed. As I listed the details of the tool marks, and rough edges, and raising the diamond just a touch, he just kind of stayed quiet, and when he did answer me, he seemed annoyed as if I were being a difficult customer… at the end of the meeting, he said he would try to fix the things that bothered me and that then jokingly told me “you have a good eye!” to which I wanted to say, your jeweler should have a better one!
Days go by, and I try to get in touch to get updates on the work being done and when I could expect it. I get responses such as “we're trying to fix all the things that were bothering you” and “it went well, I think you will love it” without any details really..
Finally comes the day that it’s ready to be picked up. He is in a much better mood than the last time I met him and as he presents me the ring he tells me that they remade the whole ring. I look at it and comment how beautiful it is, the polish is spot on and everything looks smooth. Sidenote: he then apologizes if he seemed off the last time we met as he had just gotten news of a tragedy in his family..
My impressions of the ring: For one, the shank seems to be a bit skinnier (it was supposed to be 2.7mm but this doesn’t seem to measure more than 2.5 mm) and they did not modify the tunnel like we originally discussed so that a wedding band could sit closer. Now it seems that there would be a gap of 1.5mm instead of the less than 1mm discussed. The diamond is indeed higher, with about 1 mm of free space under it, and frankly I don’t like how it has made the setting look tall and skinny, I wanted the diamond’s culet to clear the metal but not be this high. And my final observation is that one of the prongs is not fully in contact with the diamond’s girdle. I should have pointed out these things when I was at the shop but when he started discussing the tragedy, we got sidetracked and I didn’t feel right pointing out what I noticed at the time.
So once again, I am making a trip to the see the owner this time with my boyfriend for some support… but I was looking for opinions on what issues I would be justified to make.
1) I want for the agreed upon gap to be less than 1mm which would mean filing down the tunnel and making the shank 2.7mm as discussed (which also might just mean making a brand new ring once again)
2) I want the prong to be fixed so that the diamond is in full contact with it for safety - this I believe is non-negotiable on his part.
3) I want the diamond set lower as I only wished to have the entire diamond visible and not buried. This request I recognize as a communication error as I should have been clear not to make it that high. (I did write in an earlier email at one point that I didn’t want to the diamond to be set too high, and I just wanted a fraction of space between culet and metal, but I guess I wasn’t clear enough.)
Do these sound reasonable? Most likely if I stick to the 2.7mm shank that I want, I'm guessing he'll have to remake the ring entirely again. Can I still ask for them to lower the diamond in this case? Or should I have to pay for that repair? I can’t help but feel like I’m going to be written off as a picky and difficult customer … What would you do in my situation?? The ring is pretty as is, but just not 100% to my liking. If I could just get the design of the original ring, (with the diamond raised just enough to clear the culet and the craftsmanship of the second……I would be happy!!
Your advice is truly appreciated, thanks for reading! I'm having trouble posting pictures to show what I mean. Hopefully will edit the post later to include them! ETA: see avatar for what it would ideally look like
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