Staring at boobs makes men live 5 years longer

[kenny]

Only DF is allowed to read this.

QUOTE:
"The best German researcher ever has published in the New England Journal of Medicine that a study including 200 health men over 5 years, including 3 separate hospitals, has concluded that men looking at “busty women” for 10mins every day, will extend their lifespan by 5 years.

The actual statistics are surprising, as it’s said to be equal to 30-min of aerboic excercise:

“Just 10 minutes of staring at the charms of a well-endowed female such as Baywatch actress Pamela Lee is equivalent to a 30-minute aerobics work-out,” said author Dr. Karen Weatherby, a gerontologist.

The rest of the story: http://www.thebuzzmedia.com/staring-at-boobs-extends-male-life-by-5-years/

 

[Dancing Fire]

We need a Show Me The Boobs thread!...

 

[iLander]

No . . . it just seems like 5 years longer to their long-suffering wives.

 

[luv2sparkle]

No . . . it just seems like 5 years longer to their long-suffering wives.

obviously, this study was done by men wanted to find a reason to gawk.

 

[missy]

No . . . it just seems like 5 years longer to their long-suffering wives.

Haha priceless.

I wonder if anyone has conducted a study about women staring at large penises for 10 minutes a day. Do you think their life would be extended by 5 years?

 

[kenny]

I wonder if anyone has conducted a study about women staring at large penises for 10 minutes a day. Do you think their life would be extended by 5 years?

No. No. No.
Women can only live 5 years longer by spending 10 minutes a day staring at hairy MOOBS.

(No, that's not me.)

 

[missy]

I wonder if anyone has conducted a study about women staring at large penises for 10 minutes a day. Do you think their life would be extended by 5 years?

No. No. No.
Women can only live 5 years longer by spending 10 minutes a day staring at hairy MOOBS.

(No, that's not me.)

Haha if I had to stare at him 10 minutes every day it would just feel like I was living (at least) 5 years longer LOL.

 

[House Cat]

I really hate statistics like this or anything of this sort of theme. I am a woman who is in a committed marriage and I wouldn't be happy if my husband were staring at "busty women" for five minutes per day. I know for a fact that there are many women walking this great earth who would be hurt by this behavior. But articles such as these try to justify this behavior as acceptable. I believe that when we try and justify this behavior in men, especially committed men, we reduce him down to his lowest common denominator - an uncontrolled individual who can't control his impulses and who isn't expected to control them either.

I expect more of the men in my life. I expect them to be moral and intelligent. I expect them to be in control of themselves. I teach my sons the same. Society may say "oh they are JUST MEN" and brush of this sexualized behavior as nothing and allow our men to walk around like frothing dogs, but I won't allow any son that I raise to lower himself to this poor standard. I won't be married to this either.

I have been told time and again just to relax, it's just photos or it's just how men are, but I believe there is so much more to this and because of my beliefs I won't relax. I believe that this sort of "relaxing" is the basis of rape culture. When we reduce men, when we expect less from men, when we do not expect them to control themselves, then why should they? When they are told it is healthy and even life giving to objectify women for five minutes per day, what is next? Harming women starts with objectification. Of course, not ALL men will harm women, but some very confused men/boys will. In a culture where we are desperately trying to stop the raping of our women, these sorts of statistics and reinforcements of objectification of women are the last thing we need.

 

[canuk-gal]

No . . . it just seems like 5 years longer to their long-suffering wives.

Haha priceless.

I wonder if anyone has conducted a study about women staring at large penises for 10 minutes a day. Do you think their life would be extended by 5 years?

This made my day, MIssy!

But of course the whole article begs credulity--men living longer---why?

cheers--Sharon

 

[momhappy]

I have to agree with housecat on this one. I know that this sort of thing is all in good fun, but you have to admit that it is harmful on some levels.

 

[Dancing Fire]

No . . . it just seems like 5 years longer to their long-suffering wives.

Haha priceless.

I wonder if anyone has conducted a study about women staring at large penises for 10 minutes a day. Do you think their life would be extended by 5 years?

That would be "VERY HARD" to believe..

 

[momhappy]

After reading the study, this seems more fitting:
"Wasting time reading useless studies takes 5 years off your life"

 

[madelise]

I really hate statistics like this or anything of this sort of theme. I am a woman who is in a committed marriage and I wouldn't be happy if my husband were staring at "busty women" for five minutes per day. I know for a fact that there are many women walking this great earth who would be hurt by this behavior. But articles such as these try to justify this behavior as acceptable. I believe that when we try and justify this behavior in men, especially committed men, we reduce him down to his lowest common denominator - an uncontrolled individual who can't control his impulses and who isn't expected to control them either.

I expect more of the men in my life. I expect them to be moral and intelligent. I expect them to be in control of themselves. I teach my sons the same. Society may say "oh they are JUST MEN" and brush of this sexualized behavior as nothing and allow our men to walk around like frothing dogs, but I won't allow any son that I raise to lower himself to this poor standard. I won't be married to this either.

I have been told time and again just to relax, it's just photos or it's just how men are, but I believe there is so much more to this and because of my beliefs I won't relax. I believe that this sort of "relaxing" is the basis of rape culture. When we reduce men, when we expect less from men, when we do not expect them to control themselves, then why should they? When they are told it is healthy and even life giving to objectify women for five minutes per day, what is next? Harming women starts with objectification. Of course, not ALL men will harm women, but some very confused men/boys will. In a culture where we are desperately trying to stop the raping of our women, these sorts of statistics and reinforcements of objectification of women are the last thing we need.

I check out boobs with my men. I like boobs. They're beautiful, and women's bodies are beautiful. It isn't just how "men" are; I know many women who also like to look and appreciate. I also look at men. Looking is NOT the same as raping. Appreciating a body is NOT rape. Likening it to rape is a disturbing thought. Should we all just cover ourselves up in full body burqas because that would then deter rape? If you don't want YOUR man to look, that's up to you. But saying that looking at boobs, or making jokes about looking at boobs, is "reducing" them from being "moral and intelligent"-- I'm sorry, that's ridiculous. I mustn't be moral nor intelligent then.

 

[madelise]

After reading the study, this seems more fitting:
"Wasting time reading useless studies takes 5 years off your life"

But laughing at the thought of any man out there trying to justify, technically, using data, to look at boobs with his upset wife... I think that adds back another 5.

 

[VRBeauty]

Hence the term old lecher...

 

[kenny]

I really hate statistics like this or anything of this sort of theme. I am a woman who is in a committed marriage and I wouldn't be happy if my husband were staring at "busty women" for five minutes per day. I know for a fact that there are many women walking this great earth who would be hurt by this behavior. But articles such as these try to justify this behavior as acceptable. I believe that when we try and justify this behavior in men, especially committed men, we reduce him down to his lowest common denominator - an uncontrolled individual who can't control his impulses and who isn't expected to control them either.

I expect more of the men in my life. I expect them to be moral and intelligent. I expect them to be in control of themselves. I teach my sons the same. Society may say "oh they are JUST MEN" and brush of this sexualized behavior as nothing and allow our men to walk around like frothing dogs, but I won't allow any son that I raise to lower himself to this poor standard. I won't be married to this either.

I have been told time and again just to relax, it's just photos or it's just how men are, but I believe there is so much more to this and because of my beliefs I won't relax. I believe that this sort of "relaxing" is the basis of rape culture. When we reduce men, when we expect less from men, when we do not expect them to control themselves, then why should they? When they are told it is healthy and even life giving to objectify women for five minutes per day, what is next? Harming women starts with objectification. Of course, not ALL men will harm women, but some very confused men/boys will. In a culture where we are desperately trying to stop the raping of our women, these sorts of statistics and reinforcements of objectification of women are the last thing we need.

I check out boobs with my men. I like boobs. They're beautiful, and women's bodies are beautiful. It isn't just how "men" are; I know many women who also like to look and appreciate. I also look at men. Looking is NOT the same as raping. Appreciating a body is NOT rape. Likening it to rape is a disturbing thought. Should we all just cover ourselves up in full body burqas because that would then deter rape? If you don't want YOUR man to look, that's up to you. But saying that looking at boobs, or making jokes about looking at boobs, is "reducing" them from being "moral and intelligent"-- I'm sorry, that's ridiculous. I mustn't be moral nor intelligent then.

Thank you.
+1

 

[telephone89]

I agree with Housecat. Sexualizing women (and just in general) is getting out of hand. BOYS are taught at a young age that boobs are something to be sexualized. Like, 7 years old. That's disgusting. Girls are taught that wearing a tank top at school will distract boys, and she will get suspended. Because they might look at her boobs.

Housecat was not saying that looking at someones boobs = raping them. Obviously no one would say that. And she also did not say that women need to cover up. Instead, MEN need to stop objectifying women. And that MEN need to take responsibility for their own actions and how those affect others. I should be able to wear a tank top and walk down a street and not be harassed.

I will say, a glance or a look to notice someone, sure, whatever. But don't stare. At anyone. That's rude (and creepy) no matter what you're staring at.

 

[House Cat]

I really hate statistics like this or anything of this sort of theme. I am a woman who is in a committed marriage and I wouldn't be happy if my husband were staring at "busty women" for five minutes per day. I know for a fact that there are many women walking this great earth who would be hurt by this behavior. But articles such as these try to justify this behavior as acceptable. I believe that when we try and justify this behavior in men, especially committed men, we reduce him down to his lowest common denominator - an uncontrolled individual who can't control his impulses and who isn't expected to control them either.

I expect more of the men in my life. I expect them to be moral and intelligent. I expect them to be in control of themselves. I teach my sons the same. Society may say "oh they are JUST MEN" and brush of this sexualized behavior as nothing and allow our men to walk around like frothing dogs, but I won't allow any son that I raise to lower himself to this poor standard. I won't be married to this either.

I have been told time and again just to relax, it's just photos or it's just how men are, but I believe there is so much more to this and because of my beliefs I won't relax. I believe that this sort of "relaxing" is the basis of rape culture. When we reduce men, when we expect less from men, when we do not expect them to control themselves, then why should they? When they are told it is healthy and even life giving to objectify women for five minutes per day, what is next? Harming women starts with objectification. Of course, not ALL men will harm women, but some very confused men/boys will. In a culture where we are desperately trying to stop the raping of our women, these sorts of statistics and reinforcements of objectification of women are the last thing we need.

I check out boobs with my men. I like boobs. They're beautiful, and women's bodies are beautiful. It isn't just how "men" are; I know many women who also like to look and appreciate. I also look at men. Looking is NOT the same as raping. Appreciating a body is NOT rape. Likening it to rape is a disturbing thought. Should we all just cover ourselves up in full body burqas because that would then deter rape? If you don't want YOUR man to look, that's up to you. But saying that looking at boobs, or making jokes about looking at boobs, is "reducing" them from being "moral and intelligent"-- I'm sorry, that's ridiculous. I mustn't be moral nor intelligent then.

I think you made some judicious leaps with what I was saying.

Nutshell:
Our culture objectifies women enough and it is time that we stop.
From a feminist point of view, studies such as these degrade both men and women.
Objectifying women absolutely leads to harmful behavior in people.
As a culture, it is time we expect more out of our men and stop making excuses for their harmful behavior.

I never said oogling boobs is raping. I said objectifying leads to raping. Yes, I did say that. It is a stepping stone to raping. A rapist must first depersonalize before he attacks. In my original post, I actually made allowances for people who will not be rapists.

Furthermore, if you want to stare at boobs, so be it. But I am not going to advocate for dumbing down our men anymore. They are more than their sexual impulses and it is time we treat them that way. It is time that we don't promote these ridiculous studies that objectify women and tell men it is ok to stare at women for their health. It is time we don't let men off for rape because a girl was drunk and dressed "like a slut." It is time we tell men that being aroused isn't a ticket to entitlement.

Think about it, this study basically said that staring at boobs had men panting like dogs and had their heart rate up so high that it was like doing aerobic activity. Then the title tells them to stare at boobs on a regular basis to LIVE LONGER. How is this acceptable to anyone who considers themselves a feminist? This study is basically giving men permission to feel entitled to stare at whatever women they want because it will make them live longer.

I remember when my daughter turned 12 and began to develop. OH.MY.GOODNESS! Adult men would not stop staring at her!! Pigs! My beautiful baby girl and all they could do was stare at her chest! I guess they were working on living 5 years longer?

And there is my point. These men, they have been encouraged their entire lives to behave this way. Studies like this just encourage this behavior, this unacceptable behavior.

But let's defend it. Let's keep the standard where it is now. There is no room for improvement in our expectations of men. My 12 year old daughter deserved to be stared at because she's "busty" and men need to live longer.

 

[madelise]

Alright. Agree to disagree. You guys be unhappy with how things are, and I'll continue showing off my cleavage cus I lived WAY too long being oppressed and covered up by my religious Muslim ex-fiance who wouldn't let me explore my own sexuality even in private, let alone show a centimeter of cleavage. I like my tits. They're helping the world's men live 5 years longer I must be so anti-feminist.

 

[Laila619]

I really hate statistics like this or anything of this sort of theme. I am a woman who is in a committed marriage and I wouldn't be happy if my husband were staring at "busty women" for five minutes per day. I know for a fact that there are many women walking this great earth who would be hurt by this behavior. But articles such as these try to justify this behavior as acceptable. I believe that when we try and justify this behavior in men, especially committed men, we reduce him down to his lowest common denominator - an uncontrolled individual who can't control his impulses and who isn't expected to control them either.

I expect more of the men in my life. I expect them to be moral and intelligent. I expect them to be in control of themselves. I teach my sons the same. Society may say "oh they are JUST MEN" and brush of this sexualized behavior as nothing and allow our men to walk around like frothing dogs, but I won't allow any son that I raise to lower himself to this poor standard. I won't be married to this either.

My favorite is the ole "men are just wired that way." No. Funny how that excuse doesn't work for other things.

Such a lame cop out IMO.

 

[Laila619]

I really hate statistics like this or anything of this sort of theme. I am a woman who is in a committed marriage and I wouldn't be happy if my husband were staring at "busty women" for five minutes per day. I know for a fact that there are many women walking this great earth who would be hurt by this behavior. But articles such as these try to justify this behavior as acceptable. I believe that when we try and justify this behavior in men, especially committed men, we reduce him down to his lowest common denominator - an uncontrolled individual who can't control his impulses and who isn't expected to control them either.

I expect more of the men in my life. I expect them to be moral and intelligent. I expect them to be in control of themselves. I teach my sons the same. Society may say "oh they are JUST MEN" and brush of this sexualized behavior as nothing and allow our men to walk around like frothing dogs, but I won't allow any son that I raise to lower himself to this poor standard. I won't be married to this either.

I have been told time and again just to relax, it's just photos or it's just how men are, but I believe there is so much more to this and because of my beliefs I won't relax. I believe that this sort of "relaxing" is the basis of rape culture. When we reduce men, when we expect less from men, when we do not expect them to control themselves, then why should they? When they are told it is healthy and even life giving to objectify women for five minutes per day, what is next? Harming women starts with objectification. Of course, not ALL men will harm women, but some very confused men/boys will. In a culture where we are desperately trying to stop the raping of our women, these sorts of statistics and reinforcements of objectification of women are the last thing we need.

I check out boobs with my men. I like boobs. They're beautiful, and women's bodies are beautiful. It isn't just how "men" are; I know many women who also like to look and appreciate. I also look at men. Looking is NOT the same as raping. Appreciating a body is NOT rape. Likening it to rape is a disturbing thought. Should we all just cover ourselves up in full body burqas because that would then deter rape? If you don't want YOUR man to look, that's up to you. But saying that looking at boobs, or making jokes about looking at boobs, is "reducing" them from being "moral and intelligent"-- I'm sorry, that's ridiculous. I mustn't be moral nor intelligent then.

I think you made some judicious leaps with what I was saying.

Nutshell:
Our culture objectifies women enough and it is time that we stop.
From a feminist point of view, studies such as these degrade both men and women.
Objectifying women absolutely leads to harmful behavior in people.
As a culture, it is time we expect more out of our men and stop making excuses for their harmful behavior.

I never said oogling boobs is raping. I said objectifying leads to raping. Yes, I did say that. It is a stepping stone to raping. A rapist must first depersonalize before he attacks. In my original post, I actually made allowances for people who will not be rapists.

Furthermore, if you want to stare at boobs, so be it. But I am not going to advocate for dumbing down our men anymore. They are more than their sexual impulses and it is time we treat them that way. It is time that we don't promote these ridiculous studies that objectify women and tell men it is ok to stare at women for their health. It is time we don't let men off for rape because a girl was drunk and dressed "like a slut." It is time we tell men that being aroused isn't a ticket to entitlement.

Think about it, this study basically said that staring at boobs had men panting like dogs and had their heart rate up so high that it was like doing aerobic activity. Then the title tells them to stare at boobs on a regular basis to LIVE LONGER. How is this acceptable to anyone who considers themselves a feminist? This study is basically giving men permission to feel entitled to stare at whatever women they want because it will make them live longer.

I remember when my daughter turned 12 and began to develop. OH.MY.GOODNESS! Adult men would not stop staring at her!! Pigs! My beautiful baby girl and all they could do was stare at her chest! I guess they were working on living 5 years longer?

And there is my point. These men, they have been encouraged their entire lives to behave this way. Studies like this just encourage this behavior, this unacceptable behavior.

But let's defend it. Let's keep the standard where it is now. There is no room for improvement in our expectations of men. My 12 year old daughter deserved to be stared at because she's "busty" and men need to live longer.

Ugh, House Cat. How did you and your DH deal with that?! I have two daughters and the thought of pervy old men checking them out when they become young teens makes me ill.

Why do we always make excuses for men and say this sort of stuff is okay because men will be men and boobs are hot? Incidentally, I have a large bust and I always try to dress modestly myself. The "girls" are for hubs, not other men to leer at.

 

[Jambalaya]

I agree with House Cat. And this study has more than a touch of the locker room about it.

House Cat, that's so gross about men ogling your young daughter. But it's true - I remember getting wolf whistles at, like, 11 years old, even though I was very young-looking and under-developed. And once, I was in a supermarket and away from my mother who was in another aisle, and I will never forget the look I received from a man. It was the filthiest, most sexual, intense look anyone could summon up. I was 14 but very thin and looked younger, about 12.

For most people, these studies are a bit of fun and can be taken as such, with the understanding that of course most men don't think of women as objects. However, a few disturbed men do, and they can hurt women dreadfully. This adds up to a lot of hurt women. I see nothing mature or funny about these studies, and while we're on the topic of objectifying women's bodies, I don't like ****, either.

 

[ruby59]

I remember when my daughter turned 12 and began to develop. OH.MY.GOODNESS! Adult men would not stop staring at her!! Pigs! My beautiful baby girl and all they could do was stare at her chest! I guess they were working on living 5 years longer?


When my girls were young, some perv started staring at my eldest daughter's developing chest. If I had not stopped my husband in time, that would have been the last thing he ever saw in life.

 

[telephone89]

Alright. Agree to disagree. You guys be unhappy with how things are, and I'll continue showing off my cleavage cus I lived WAY too long being oppressed and covered up by my religious Muslim ex-fiance who wouldn't let me explore my own sexuality even in private, let alone show a centimeter of cleavage. I like my tits. They're helping the world's men live 5 years longer I must be so anti-feminist.

To the first bolded - if people didn't fight to change what they were unhappy about, there would still be slavery, gay people being strung up, etc. Please don't say those sort of things. If you choose not to fight to change and better the world, that's fine, but don't degrade the ones who do.

To the second bolded - this should (in my mind) actually make you understand MORE why this is so important. I strongly dislike the muslim faith/culture and find (without getting into a huge religious argument) that in general, in that culture, they are very much the ones who will try to cover up a woman - because if she even shows a tiny bit of ankle, it makes it 'ok' for men to rape her. Obviously, that is NOT ok. But their culture places so little value on what women want, only that they should please their husbands. They do not hold men accountable for their actions.

I'm glad you love your body - that is a wonderful thing, and not many women say that nowadays! No one is saying that you shouldn't love your body or show it off. And I will fight for your right to walk around in a crop top and mini skirt and not feel unsafe, not get followed home, and not get raped. Encouraging men to be pigs is not going to support an environment like that.

 

[House Cat]

Alright. Agree to disagree. You guys be unhappy with how things are, and I'll continue showing off my cleavage cus I lived WAY too long being oppressed and covered up by my religious Muslim ex-fiance who wouldn't let me explore my own sexuality even in private, let alone show a centimeter of cleavage. I like my tits. They're helping the world's men live 5 years longer I must be so anti-feminist.

And there lies the rub. I totally support you showing off your beautiful self. I just don't support men seeing you as an object because of it.

But I am happy to agree to disagree on this subject.

 

[Dancing Fire]

Alright. Agree to disagree. You guys be unhappy with how things are, and I'll continue showing off my cleavage cus I lived WAY too long being oppressed and covered up by my religious Muslim ex-fiance who wouldn't let me explore my own sexuality even in private, let alone show a centimeter of cleavage. I like my tits. They're helping the world's men live 5 years longer I must be so anti-feminist.

Pics please!..

 

[Dancing Fire]

[quote="Laila619|

Why do we always make excuses for men and say this sort of stuff is okay because men will be men and boobs are hot? Incidentally, I have a large bust and I always try to dress modestly myself. The "girls" are for hubs, not other men to leer at.[/quote]



Laila...SMTBoobs...

 

[House Cat]

I really hate statistics like this or anything of this sort of theme. I am a woman who is in a committed marriage and I wouldn't be happy if my husband were staring at "busty women" for five minutes per day. I know for a fact that there are many women walking this great earth who would be hurt by this behavior. But articles such as these try to justify this behavior as acceptable. I believe that when we try and justify this behavior in men, especially committed men, we reduce him down to his lowest common denominator - an uncontrolled individual who can't control his impulses and who isn't expected to control them either.

I expect more of the men in my life. I expect them to be moral and intelligent. I expect them to be in control of themselves. I teach my sons the same. Society may say "oh they are JUST MEN" and brush of this sexualized behavior as nothing and allow our men to walk around like frothing dogs, but I won't allow any son that I raise to lower himself to this poor standard. I won't be married to this either.

I have been told time and again just to relax, it's just photos or it's just how men are, but I believe there is so much more to this and because of my beliefs I won't relax. I believe that this sort of "relaxing" is the basis of rape culture. When we reduce men, when we expect less from men, when we do not expect them to control themselves, then why should they? When they are told it is healthy and even life giving to objectify women for five minutes per day, what is next? Harming women starts with objectification. Of course, not ALL men will harm women, but some very confused men/boys will. In a culture where we are desperately trying to stop the raping of our women, these sorts of statistics and reinforcements of objectification of women are the last thing we need.

I check out boobs with my men. I like boobs. They're beautiful, and women's bodies are beautiful. It isn't just how "men" are; I know many women who also like to look and appreciate. I also look at men. Looking is NOT the same as raping. Appreciating a body is NOT rape. Likening it to rape is a disturbing thought. Should we all just cover ourselves up in full body burqas because that would then deter rape? If you don't want YOUR man to look, that's up to you. But saying that looking at boobs, or making jokes about looking at boobs, is "reducing" them from being "moral and intelligent"-- I'm sorry, that's ridiculous. I mustn't be moral nor intelligent then.

I think you made some judicious leaps with what I was saying.

Nutshell:
Our culture objectifies women enough and it is time that we stop.
From a feminist point of view, studies such as these degrade both men and women.
Objectifying women absolutely leads to harmful behavior in people.
As a culture, it is time we expect more out of our men and stop making excuses for their harmful behavior.

I never said oogling boobs is raping. I said objectifying leads to raping. Yes, I did say that. It is a stepping stone to raping. A rapist must first depersonalize before he attacks. In my original post, I actually made allowances for people who will not be rapists.

Furthermore, if you want to stare at boobs, so be it. But I am not going to advocate for dumbing down our men anymore. They are more than their sexual impulses and it is time we treat them that way. It is time that we don't promote these ridiculous studies that objectify women and tell men it is ok to stare at women for their health. It is time we don't let men off for rape because a girl was drunk and dressed "like a slut." It is time we tell men that being aroused isn't a ticket to entitlement.

Think about it, this study basically said that staring at boobs had men panting like dogs and had their heart rate up so high that it was like doing aerobic activity. Then the title tells them to stare at boobs on a regular basis to LIVE LONGER. How is this acceptable to anyone who considers themselves a feminist? This study is basically giving men permission to feel entitled to stare at whatever women they want because it will make them live longer.

I remember when my daughter turned 12 and began to develop. OH.MY.GOODNESS! Adult men would not stop staring at her!! Pigs! My beautiful baby girl and all they could do was stare at her chest! I guess they were working on living 5 years longer?

And there is my point. These men, they have been encouraged their entire lives to behave this way. Studies like this just encourage this behavior, this unacceptable behavior.

But let's defend it. Let's keep the standard where it is now. There is no room for improvement in our expectations of men. My 12 year old daughter deserved to be stared at because she's "busty" and men need to live longer.

Ugh, House Cat. How did you and your DH deal with that?! I have two daughters and the thought of pervy old men checking them out when they become young teens makes me ill.

Why do we always make excuses for men and say this sort of stuff is okay because men will be men and boobs are hot? Incidentally, I have a large bust and I always try to dress modestly myself. The "girls" are for hubs, not other men to leer at.

Honestly, at first we tried to ignore it. I don't know why, but for some reason we hoped it would go away??? Yeah, the thing about developing girls is that they keep developing and getting more beautiful. Sigh, so then I just opened a dialogue with her and come to find out, she was very aware of the attention and wasn't at all comfortable with it. She began dressing differently by the age of 14.

One time, I turned to a leering man and said rather loudly, "SHE'S 13!!!" That was a crowning moment...not really. I think I regressed a bit. I have been "on display" since I was 14 and it hasn't stopped yet. I still get the rubber neck when I wear yoga pants in public and I am 40 years old!!?? I thought I would be free of this by now. I don't find any joy in this attention. I find it very anxiety provoking actually. I didn't want my daughter to feel any of the feelings I have felt throughout the years. I guess that is why I got so upset.

At 21, she handles herself quite confidently now, better than I do actually. I am the "keep my eyes straight, no eye contact, you don't exist, don't look at me" type. My daughter is the "hold your head high, yes I am beautiful but don't overstep my boundaries" type. I am proud of her.