so upset

[Iowa Lizzy]

I''m glad to hear he got a job! Yay for open communication. Works every time

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I was unemployed for nine months and the longer I was unemployed, the lower my self-esteem became. I felt like I was "entitled" to a decent job since I have a BA. Pffft. No one else seemed to agree.

I ended up going to a temp agency. They offered me a few gigs before I settled on one that had good hours and decent pay. The company ended up hiring me full time after a couple months. Though it''s DEFINITELY not my dream job, it pays the bills and there is opportunity to advance to a position that suits my degree.

Even though he got a job (again, YAY!), I would still suggest having him apply at a few temp agencies. Lots of jobs are on a temp-to-hire basis and it''s a really, really great way to get a foot in the door.

 

[Italiahaircolor]

Right now, employment is tough...companies aren''t hiring like they used to and people are out of work all over the world. This situation isn''t unheard of.

But, with that said...

I think that putting your foot down is fine. I think sometimes people do need a good kick in the pants to get in gear. I''m sure many people would enjoy not working if they could...but if you need to work, you need to work--and thats just a fact of life. Maybe, at least for a period of time, he could find a job that isn''t his "dream" but will allow for income--McDonalds always comes to mind. And then maybe, after having worked at a job he dislikes, he''ll get more motivated to find one he does enjoy...like with uncle, or whatever.

Getting married to man who isn''t motivated to work is a HUGE issue, in my honest opinion. Not from a ''gold digging'' stance...but from the fact that it goes to his character. If he needs to work to provide for his family, but isn''t doing so intentionally--that''s a problem. He can cook all the meals he wants, but if you don''t have money to pay for the food--a whole lot of good that does you. If you, as a couple, need two incomes to get by...then he needs to be a contributing member of the partnership...or you need to find someone who is more willing to do what needs to be done.

Lay down the law...

 

[zoebartlett]

Congratulations Jess! I''m glad your FI found a job. Best wishes!

 

[iheartscience]

Congratulations to your fiance, Jess!

 

[Prana]

So happy to hear that he got a job!!! I hope everything works out well for the both of you!