sweetliloldme
Rough_Rock
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- Apr 1, 2009
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Hi ladies,
I''ve been reading for a while, and I finially decided that I should, or need to ask for help. I''ve been driving myself crazy and I don''t know what to do. My boyfriend and I have been together almost two years. We have a five month old daughter together, and a house that we just baught ( i know what your thinking, what? a five month old and you were only together for 2 years? but we knew early on in the relationship that we were very serious). He just took the bar about a month ago and will recieve the results in a few weeks. I am working on my degree, but am very good at multitasking. I am so annoyed and beginning to quesation our realtionship because I''m tired of guessing when we will get married. We have always talked about it like, "When we get married..." but I don''t know what that is going to be, and I want it to be now. We have so much together, and I''m tired of playing the part without the roll. It doesn''t seem fair to me. I cook, clean, do laundry, pay and contribute to bills, and everything in between and quite frankly, I feel that it is going unwarrented. (Obviously only been having these thoughts for a couple of months)
So recently, I have come to the point where I am questioning his motives. What the hell is he waiting for? He was engadged before ( he only knew the girl for a couple months by the way, and then she broke up with him) so i don''t know if he''s afraid or what. so i came out and asked him, and he said it is because of money, we can''t afford to get married. w/e a marriage liscense is only $75, but I know what he means because I know the kind of wedding that we both want. So no, we can''t afford a big wedding right now, but we could save for it. And it doesn''t cose anything to get engadged since he already has a $10,000 ring that he can trade in.
So I need some advice, what do you guys think? Am I being irrational, should I not bring it up again, I don''t know what to do. How long am I supposed to wait?
I''ve been reading for a while, and I finially decided that I should, or need to ask for help. I''ve been driving myself crazy and I don''t know what to do. My boyfriend and I have been together almost two years. We have a five month old daughter together, and a house that we just baught ( i know what your thinking, what? a five month old and you were only together for 2 years? but we knew early on in the relationship that we were very serious). He just took the bar about a month ago and will recieve the results in a few weeks. I am working on my degree, but am very good at multitasking. I am so annoyed and beginning to quesation our realtionship because I''m tired of guessing when we will get married. We have always talked about it like, "When we get married..." but I don''t know what that is going to be, and I want it to be now. We have so much together, and I''m tired of playing the part without the roll. It doesn''t seem fair to me. I cook, clean, do laundry, pay and contribute to bills, and everything in between and quite frankly, I feel that it is going unwarrented. (Obviously only been having these thoughts for a couple of months)
So recently, I have come to the point where I am questioning his motives. What the hell is he waiting for? He was engadged before ( he only knew the girl for a couple months by the way, and then she broke up with him) so i don''t know if he''s afraid or what. so i came out and asked him, and he said it is because of money, we can''t afford to get married. w/e a marriage liscense is only $75, but I know what he means because I know the kind of wedding that we both want. So no, we can''t afford a big wedding right now, but we could save for it. And it doesn''t cose anything to get engadged since he already has a $10,000 ring that he can trade in.
So I need some advice, what do you guys think? Am I being irrational, should I not bring it up again, I don''t know what to do. How long am I supposed to wait?
