JewelFreak
Ideal_Rock
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This is a very hard one & I'm SO sorry you are going through it. Your skills & background sound terrific & applicable to any number of jobs within your field. It's excruciating to make the decision to bail -- scary to leave without another job in your pocket. I can tell you, though, Pinto Bean, having been there too, that you will be DELIGHTED after you do it.
I had a job that did similar things to me. The antagonistic, distrustful atmosphere was ruinous -- I pinched myself to be sure it wasn't a nightmare, living all day with treatment I'd never imagined possible in a workplace. I sat in my car before work to meditate every day, trying not to cry, just to find the strength to go in. One day, in the midst of the nastiest, most ridiculous & vicious performance review, my smarter self took over. I ripped up the review sheet, threw it on the director's desk, and walked out. Couldn't believe myself, but it saved my sanity & health.
10 yrs later I still shudder, thinking of that place, and bless the day I left. It's soul-destroying to endure that -- and believe me, you gain nothing worth paying that price.
The suggestion to document everything is excellent -- it will be handy in your exit interview. Maybe even add fuel to the fire underneath her.
You will find another job -- but it will be easier when you're less stressed out, when you think more clearly & present yourself more smoothly. In the meantime, your DH will love seeing his old girl again. You're doing all the right things to find something new & it WILL pan out. You have the luxury of DH's income, so let it save you!
And remember, this woman will soon be only a baaad memory -- that thought kept me going in a clutch.
Big hugs and CONFIDENCE!!!! You're a prize any company should want.
--- Laurie
I had a job that did similar things to me. The antagonistic, distrustful atmosphere was ruinous -- I pinched myself to be sure it wasn't a nightmare, living all day with treatment I'd never imagined possible in a workplace. I sat in my car before work to meditate every day, trying not to cry, just to find the strength to go in. One day, in the midst of the nastiest, most ridiculous & vicious performance review, my smarter self took over. I ripped up the review sheet, threw it on the director's desk, and walked out. Couldn't believe myself, but it saved my sanity & health.
10 yrs later I still shudder, thinking of that place, and bless the day I left. It's soul-destroying to endure that -- and believe me, you gain nothing worth paying that price.
The suggestion to document everything is excellent -- it will be handy in your exit interview. Maybe even add fuel to the fire underneath her.
You will find another job -- but it will be easier when you're less stressed out, when you think more clearly & present yourself more smoothly. In the meantime, your DH will love seeing his old girl again. You're doing all the right things to find something new & it WILL pan out. You have the luxury of DH's income, so let it save you!
And remember, this woman will soon be only a baaad memory -- that thought kept me going in a clutch.
Big hugs and CONFIDENCE!!!! You're a prize any company should want.
--- Laurie