iheartscience
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Circe|1369450406|3453460 said:This hasn't happened to me with anything significant, happily for my psyche and my wallet ... but I can understand HOW it would happen, particularly after this Mother's Day.
My husband and I have oppositional gift-giving strategies. I grew up loving to plan custom things - it was a togetherness activity! He thinks that all wish-lists, even wedding registries, are a tool of the devil, and if people love you, they will surprise you with something you never even knew you wanted.
Yeah. That sounds like a recipe for disaster!
So, anyway. For Mother's Day, I told him I wanted something incorporating our son's name. A ring with his name engraved on it ... apiece of jewelry in the shape of his initial - with an "O" name, that's easy, right?
He got me a Zazzle pendant of the painting below. Which translates to it being a piece of paper covered with some cheap lacquer. Which, btw, cost WAY MORE than the second-hand O-shaped pendant I'd sent him several links to.
Check out the possessed gargoyle-Puck in the lower-left-hand-corner. If that doesn't spell "nightmares-the-next-time-you're-in-labor," I don't know what will!
The thing is, he's genuinely a great guy who believes in autonomy and choice and personal taste. We picked my e-ring together! We squabbled merrily over wedding band designs before figuring we didn't have to match, we just had to be individually happy! He's just non-consumerist enough himself that I think he thinks he can, like, find a jewelry thing I don't know about that I LOVE and it will be like introducing me to a new restaurant, or something.
Yeah, NO.
When it comes to the e-rings, I think it's sort of the same thought process. I think these dudes have good intentions ... it's just that there's no equivalent. There is literally NO THING a dude is expected to wear for his entire life that gets them thinking long-term. And when you couple that with this weird-ass gift-giving strategy ... DISASTER.
On the plus side, they can be trained out of it. Trust me, I speak from experience.
WTF would possess him to get you that?! HA sweet Jesus. That is not even close to being your style, and I've met you once! I hope you bought the secondhand O pendant yourself after that!