secret stash pt-2...do you think your SO...

[Dancing Fire]

has money stashed away that you don''t know of ? do you hide money from your SO?

 

[lilyfoot]

No and no.

We don''t know the balance of each other''s seperate checking accounts, but we each get the same amount of fun-money weekly to put into those accounts. Everything else is in joint accounts.

 

[Allison D.]

No and no.

 

[ladypirate]

No to both (unless you count the $40 I found in his pants pocket when I did the laundry the other day...

)

 

[meresal]

No and No.

If I am doing something that involves hiding money from him, it''s probably not worth doing. My MIL keeps a stash in case any of the kids get into trouble or need help and don''t want their dad to find out. It was called the "Jail Stash" in college.

He has a bit of a temper.

 

[Smurfysmiles]

Date: 11/19/2009 2:26:58 PM
Author: meresal
No and No.


If I am doing something that involves hiding money from him, it's probably not worth doing. My MIL keeps a stash in case any of the kids get into trouble or need help and don't want their dad to find out. It was called the 'Jail Stash' in college.

He has a bit of a temper.

Hahah I love that idea, hopefully none of my kids go to jail but my family tends to get arrested for the weirdest things (lighting fireworks off on 4th of july, accidentally driving into a fence and releasing a bunch of arabian horses *while sober!!*, my sister getting stuck in a sewer pipe in the yard, hunting squirrels *this one is all my uncle* skinny dipping down a waterslide *the same uncle lol* and the list goes on and on lol)

 

[LGK]

No, but he leaves me in charge of all routine financial stuff, although he does have some $ in a stock trading acct which he's done quite well with. So I suspect he has no idea generally what's in our bank accounts or CDs (and our main acct can fluctuate pretty widely over the month, as we have a huge intake of cash and an equally big outflow of it, what with the commercial property rent and mortgage). As long as the debit card is functional he's content with that

.

He always cracks me up because he forgets what of my jewelry is real and what isn't. I have a number of nice quality fake stones that I sometimes wear as right hand ring for a day and he'll be like, "Is that one a diamond?" Um. No honey. I don't have an extra D colored 3 ct Asscher! I don't think he's teasing either

So, no I don't have any hidden money but one could definitely say that ALL our money not particularly of interest to the DH.

 

[Kaleigh]

No and No.

 

[Mara]

No and No.

Stashing money would imply you have to have some.

 

[Bia]

Date: 11/19/2009 2:18:52 PM
Author: ladypirate
No to both (unless you count the $40 I found in his pants pocket when I did the laundry the other day...

)

lol! I love finding money in his pockets!

Nope, I know all about his finances, and he knows all about mine. We have one joint account but for the most part we are keeping it separate until we get married. I do have a savings for just-in-case money, but it isn''t a secret or anything.

 

[TooPatient]

No. No.

 

[swingirl]

Stashed cash? No. Stashed diamonds? Now that''s a different story!

 

[Lilac]

No and No.

At one point I had a couple hundred dollars in a wallet in my mom''s house so I could buy DH presents without him knowing about it (if I use our credit card he sees the bill before I do). But he always knew about the money and he knew how much was there, so it wasn''t a secret and I wasn''t hiding they money from him. Now it''s used up, so I have to find a new way to secretly buy him presents!

 

[MonkeyPie]

Date: 11/19/2009 2:34:08 PM
Author: Mara
No and No.

Stashing money would imply you have to have some.

LOL! I always think this, until my birthday or Christmas rolls around, and I find out he''s been hoarding money to buy me something awesome. I am much less able to save money because most of the bills come out of my paycheck. Dang it.

 

[Laila619]

Well, I still have my old saving account open, and DH is not on that account. I am not planning on mixing it with our marital funds at all. But is it a secret stash? No, because DH knows about it.

The rest of our money is all combined.

 

[soocool]

No and no.

 

[MichelleCarmen]

No (he has a boat, remember? = no cash for him) and me, not right now, but normally yes. (I handed over my stash to help pay for food because after the boat, there wasn't anything left to cover the cost of Top Ramen.)

ETA - I do have a secret stash of Rice Dream Bars hidden under the Otter Pops. . . do those count?

 

[elrohwen]

No on both counts. The only thing DH could possibly have stashed away that I don't know about are more basketballs. That guy has more basketballs than anyone I've ever met. I wouldn't be surprised if there were two or three I didn't know about.

We both have a little bit of money left in personal checking accounts as we're still switching over to totally joint accounts ... but it's very little money and we know how much is in each. Honestly, I only keep money in mine because my car insurance draws from it directly. I'll be changing insurance soon, so it seemed easier to just keep money in the account than to call my agent and change the account they pull from.

 

[lyra]

Hahaha! I wish! NO, he definitely doesn''t have any stashed away.

 

[elrohwen]

Date: 11/19/2009 2:31:10 PM
Author: LittleGreyKitten
He always cracks me up because he forgets what of my jewelry is real and what isn''t. I have a number of nice quality fake stones that I sometimes wear as right hand ring for a day and he''ll be like, ''Is that one a diamond?'' Um. No honey. I don''t have an extra D colored 3 ct Asscher! I don''t think he''s teasing either

Lol. I bought a pair of 2ctw fake studs in Montreal. I started wearing them when I got home and DH says "Are those real?!" Uh, yeah, I was able to get 2 carats of diamonds for just $12 Canadian. It was a steal! Silly men.

 

[Gleam]

No, I know about two of my fiance''s savings account, and his checking account. I''d be very surprised if he has any other accounts. If there''s yet more in other accounts, he''s making more money than I think he is!

I don''t "hide" money from him, but I sock away any money he gives me and knows it. He gives me "pocket money" now and again and I rarely ever spend it. I just put it with the other cash in my jewelry box. There''s a Yiddish term, "kniple." I hope I didn''t misspell it. Basically, it''s the money a wife keeps separate from her husband, for spending on her own things or saving for a rainy day or whatever.

 

[princesss]

Hidden? No. But each of us has money the other can''t access, and neither of us knows the exact amount the other has (ballpark figure, sure, but not the exact amount).

 

[somethingshiny]

No and no. I think you must need a lot of money to be able to hide some. Those of us who live on a tighter budget know where every dime is at all times.

 

[monarch64]

My dad has all sorts of money he doesn''t tell my mother about. She went to all the banks in town one year when I was in high school and accounted for some of it, but I''d guess that''s the tip of the iceberg. She''s a spender, he''s a saver. By no means do I think it''s right for people to withhold that sort of financial information from their spouse, but I''m sure he has his reasons.

 

[Mrs Mitchell]

Um, if it''s a secret stash, then I wouldn''t know about it, would I?

I don''t know anything about his finances really, nor he about mine. We''ve always had it that way.

 

[winelover23]

I hope so! I''d love to find out he''s got boat loads of money buried in our backyard!

 

[D&T]

Date: 11/19/2009 2:40:21 PM
Author: swingirl
Stashed cash? No. Stashed diamonds? Now that''s a different story!

lol

stash gemmies yep (only a couple, but then they come out to play and DH is fine but it takes a few months before it registers with him that its a new gem or so

) but Diamonds he''s always aware.

 

[MichelleCarmen]

Date: 11/19/2009 4:52:53 PM
Author: somethingshiny
No and no. I think you must need a lot of money to be able to hide some. Those of us who live on a tighter budget know where every dime is at all times.

One doesn''t necessarily need a lot of money to hide some. Everyone has a different idea of what "a stash" is. For me, it would be $500. Any more than that I would consider improper hiding from my DH. Basically, when I do have that sort of stash fund, it''s kept for when there is a sale at Norstrom and I want to stock up on some favorites (like I only buy a pair of designer jeans every 4-6 months, so I will use part of that for a pair). My $500 is probably pocket change for others on here.

I have no idea of what DF''s concept of a stash is. If it''s something like $10K, then there is NO way I could hide that. Even though I pay all the bills and my husband doesn''t want to have anything to do with that part of our fiances, DH always asks me what happened to all the money. (lol)

Um. one-day Macy''s sale. . .

 

[MichelleCarmen]

Date: 11/19/2009 5:01:59 PM
Author: winelover23
I hope so! I''d love to find out he''s got boat loads of money buried in our backyard!

Someone I know does bury money in her back yard! She has a HUGE private plot of land so I doubt anything will happen to it. I wonder if she made a map. lol

 

[sctsbride09]

Absolutely not, either of us. In our relationship, there are NO secrets, so that would be a huge lie.