secret stash pt-2...do you think your SO...

[AprilBaby]

No and Yes. I save up money he gives me for incidentals to buy him something he doesn''t expect at Christmas.

 

[kama_s]

Date: 11/19/2009 8:28:18 PM
Author: MC

Date: 11/19/2009 6:38:18 PM
Author: kama_s

My husband and I have no secrets. Zero. Nada. Not even things like my weight! To be honest, if my husband kept the things you mentioned above hidden from me, I would've left him in a jiffy. That said, if he spent all our money on a boat with only ramen to feed our kids, I wouldn't let him see my face another day.

As for us, we still have our own accounts but the money is never a secret. He also has a lot of different investment accounts, so I don't know exactly how much is in each account, but I do know the ball point figure. I don't secret stash for gifts either, because we both have our own banks and credit cards.

I WAS NOT SERIOUS!

It was a joke!!! My power is on, my kids are eating turkey burgers for dinner, and I'm about to get offline here.

I'm humored that anyone would actually believe what I just said.

Understanding of sarcasm? Guess not?

Hahahaha, sorry, I'm a bit dense today. I couldn't believe what I was reading, because you're always so mature and responsible in all your other posts. My apologies, so so sorry

 

[merrijoy]

Date: 11/19/2009 8:22:18 PM
Author: MC

Date: 11/19/2009 8:11:18 PM
Author: merrijoy
I completely agree with this. MC - are you being serious? I really hope you are not here. 10 hours a day on PS? and spending food, and the electric bill money on clothes.......Seriously, I would be gone before I could hear the door shut.

DH is the person I tell everything to. I could not imagine living with a person that I lie to (ok, maybe not lie, but lie by omission).
DH and I are completely open and honest about money - we were poor college students when we met and because of student loans, we still don''t have a ton of money unfortunately. There would be no point of a secret stash when we are so indebted to our loans...

Of course I am joking. Explain to me how I am online if my power has been shut off?

Posting from a smart phone, wifi, etc.

 

[MichelleCarmen]

Date: 11/19/2009 8:35:24 PM
Author: kama_s

Date: 11/19/2009 8:28:18 PM
Author: MC

Date: 11/19/2009 6:38:18 PM
Author: kama_s

My husband and I have no secrets. Zero. Nada. Not even things like my weight! To be honest, if my husband kept the things you mentioned above hidden from me, I would''ve left him in a jiffy. That said, if he spent all our money on a boat with only ramen to feed our kids, I wouldn''t let him see my face another day.

As for us, we still have our own accounts but the money is never a secret. He also has a lot of different investment accounts, so I don''t know exactly how much is in each account, but I do know the ball point figure. I don''t secret stash for gifts either, because we both have our own banks and credit cards.

I WAS NOT SERIOUS!

It was a joke!!! My power is on, my kids are eating turkey burgers for dinner, and I''m about to get offline here.

I''m humored that anyone would actually believe what I just said.

Understanding of sarcasm? Guess not?

Hahahaha, sorry, I''m a bit dense today. I couldn''t believe what I was reading, because you''re always so mature and responsible in all your other posts. My apologies, so so sorry

I expected everyone to know I was joking. All the members posting about this subject has been so stern in their convictions that I was just trying to entertain (I guess only myself) by lightening the mood.

 

[MichelleCarmen]

Date: 11/19/2009 8:37:09 PM
Author: merrijoy

Date: 11/19/2009 8:22:18 PM
Author: MC

Date: 11/19/2009 8:11:18 PM
Author: merrijoy
I completely agree with this. MC - are you being serious? I really hope you are not here. 10 hours a day on PS? and spending food, and the electric bill money on clothes.......Seriously, I would be gone before I could hear the door shut.

DH is the person I tell everything to. I could not imagine living with a person that I lie to (ok, maybe not lie, but lie by omission).
DH and I are completely open and honest about money - we were poor college students when we met and because of student loans, we still don''t have a ton of money unfortunately. There would be no point of a secret stash when we are so indebted to our loans...

Of course I am joking. Explain to me how I am online if my power has been shut off?

Posting from a smart phone, wifi, etc.

Ah, you found me out.

 

[merrijoy]

Date: 11/19/2009 8:40:30 PM
Author: MC

Date: 11/19/2009 8:35:24 PM
Author: kama_s

Date: 11/19/2009 8:28:18 PM
Author: MC

Date: 11/19/2009 6:38:18 PM
Author: kama_s

My husband and I have no secrets. Zero. Nada. Not even things like my weight! To be honest, if my husband kept the things you mentioned above hidden from me, I would''ve left him in a jiffy. That said, if he spent all our money on a boat with only ramen to feed our kids, I wouldn''t let him see my face another day.

As for us, we still have our own accounts but the money is never a secret. He also has a lot of different investment accounts, so I don''t know exactly how much is in each account, but I do know the ball point figure. I don''t secret stash for gifts either, because we both have our own banks and credit cards.

I WAS NOT SERIOUS!

It was a joke!!! My power is on, my kids are eating turkey burgers for dinner, and I''m about to get offline here.

I''m humored that anyone would actually believe what I just said.

Understanding of sarcasm? Guess not?

Hahahaha, sorry, I''m a bit dense today. I couldn''t believe what I was reading, because you''re always so mature and responsible in all your other posts. My apologies, so so sorry

I expected everyone to know I was joking. All the members posting about this subject has been so stern in their convictions that I was just trying to entertain (I guess only myself) by lightening the mood.

Sorry too. I should have known that. I believe where I shouldn''t believe and don''t believe when I should.

 

[Laila619]

MC, I chuckled and thought it was funny!

I agree that there are always some secrets. Does my DH know how addicted to PS I am? No!

 

[Luckyeshe]

Date: 11/19/2009 4:50:49 PM
Author: princesss
Hidden? No. But each of us has money the other can''t access, and neither of us knows the exact amount the other has (ballpark figure, sure, but not the exact amount).

+1. It''s not hidden from the other partner, but we do have our own slush funds so we could buy the other any gift we want without the receipent knowing the cost. So in the long run, if he wanted to, he could buy himself his own boat or huge tv or new mac without using the joint accounts and it''s all good.

 

[Dancing Fire]

Date: 11/19/2009 8:08:40 PM
Author: sctsbride09
DancingFire- To me, hiding money is lying because you are HIDING something from your spouse. I do not HIDE or LIE to my husband.

don't lie, just don't tell him about your stash.

how long had you been married?

 

[Squirrly]

we don''t live together, or have combined finances, so there''s no secret anything to be had yet.
however i''m pretty sure that once we do live togethr he''ll have a secret stash of beef jerky and chips and salsa to ensure that he''ll have some for himself to eat

 

[Londongirl1]

Date: 11/19/2009 10:22:09 PM
Author: Luckyeshe

Date: 11/19/2009 4:50:49 PM
Author: princesss
Hidden? No. But each of us has money the other can''t access, and neither of us knows the exact amount the other has (ballpark figure, sure, but not the exact amount).

+1. It''s not hidden from the other partner, but we do have our own slush funds so we could buy the other any gift we want without the receipent knowing the cost. So in the long run, if he wanted to, he could buy himself his own boat or huge tv or new mac without using the joint accounts and it''s all good.

Ditto - our finances aren''t a ''secret'' from each other. We''re both very good when it comes to saving and maintaining good crediit so it''s all good

 

[that_someone_special]

No and No.

 

[MichelleCarmen]

Date: 11/19/2009 9:50:48 PM
Author: Laila619
MC, I chuckled and thought it was funny!

I agree that there are always some secrets. Does my DH know how addicted to PS I am? No!

hahaha Funny thing is my kids would love a day with the power off because to them it would be an adventure. My fish on the other hand wouldn''t be so pleased. . .

 

[purrfectpear]

Date: 11/19/2009 8:28:18 PM
Author: MC

Date: 11/19/2009 6:38:18 PM
Author: kama_s

My husband and I have no secrets. Zero. Nada. Not even things like my weight! To be honest, if my husband kept the things you mentioned above hidden from me, I would''ve left him in a jiffy. That said, if he spent all our money on a boat with only ramen to feed our kids, I wouldn''t let him see my face another day.

As for us, we still have our own accounts but the money is never a secret. He also has a lot of different investment accounts, so I don''t know exactly how much is in each account, but I do know the ball point figure. I don''t secret stash for gifts either, because we both have our own banks and credit cards.

I WAS NOT SERIOUS!

It was a joke!!! My power is on, my kids are eating turkey burgers for dinner, and I''m about to get offline here.

I''m humored that anyone would actually believe what I just said.

Understanding of sarcasm? Guess not?

Denial huh? It''s OK, we won''t judge. You''ll feel better if you just come clean about it.








Heh heh heh, yes, I am joking

 

[charbie]

Date: 11/19/2009 2:15:13 PM
Author: lilyfoot
No and no.

We don''t know the balance of each other''s seperate checking accounts, but we each get the same amount of fun-money weekly to put into those accounts. Everything else is in joint accounts.

i really like this idea. we could have our joint savings, joint checking...but then have our own stashes that get an equal amount in. that way, if we want to save up for something for ourselves, we have to save our "fun-money."

hmmmm. then i can use my fun money to buy sparklies and not feel like i''m using "our money" and i won''t be so PO''ed when he goes and spends $150 on a softball bat from "our money!"

 

[yssie]

No secret stashes here. FI has plenty of money I don''t know the exact quantities of, but I know that I don''t know about it, and if I cared or wanted to be nosey I could ask him and he would happily tell me.

I, likewise, have no money that he doesn''t know about, though he may not know the exact dollar amounts. I''m naturally a spender and he''s a saver, but right now we''re both in crazy saving mode so every dollar is accounted for.

No need to be secretive about it.

 

[Arcadian]

I think I''m about to freak some folk out.

In our relationship here''s how it works;
My money is my money,
His money is my money.

I have a cash stash, which I''ve had since I was single so thats never going to change. He''s never asked how much, he''s never asked why I keep it. He''s got his own. I never ask how much, I never ask why he keeps it. Has he told me? Yes *lol*

We have a communal account but thats for household bills only. This is the only account we both look at unless he''s asking me to deal with his stuff.

I do not regularly deal with his stuff but he''s pretty computer illiterate, so I have to sometimes set things up for him.

He does not ask whats in my accounts because on the real its not a big concern to him. Plus his head would explode.

We do talk about financial things as we should. Probably on a different level than most couples but well...we''re not exactly a typical couple.

Like I said at the beginning, I''m sure it would make someone be like "wha the faaaaa?" but it works for us because we''ve always been on the same page with where we are and who we are.

I don''t consider what we''re doing as keeping secrets. Should emergencies arise we have things in place for that. Anyone that has our type of setup should.

-A