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Daisys and Diamonds said:
i have thw flu too now
influenza a
yesterday i didnt think it was too bad
it lied
i couldnt go to see gary today
he sounded good on the phone, he rang three times
of the four people in his room in the surgal floor 3 of them are back in hospiatl
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Aww feel better soon sweet Nicky...you have been through so much. Wishing you a very speedy recovery
And I am very relieved Gary is doing so much better!
 
I hope you feel better soon @Daisys and Diamonds! What an ordeal you and Gary have been through! :(2:(2
 
Gary is tucked up in his own bed
fluffy winter sheets, his feather duvet and minky blanket with new pillows
he looks comfertable in the middle of a Queen sized bed
(i snore so we have a room each)
 
Daisys and Diamonds said:
Gary is tucked up in his own bed
fluffy winter sheets, his feather duvet and minky blanket with new pillows
he looks comfertable in the middle of a Queen sized bed
(i snore so we have a room each)
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♥️♥️♥️
 
Daisys and Diamonds said:
Gary is tucked up in his own bed
fluffy winter sheets, his feather duvet and minky blanket with new pillows
he looks comfertable in the middle of a Queen sized bed
(i snore so we have a room each)
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I just saw an the news of Gary's return home in a different thread. This is such good news! The comfort of being in his own home and bed will undoubtedly aid in his recovery. And maybe now you can get some needed rest as well.
 
Calliecake said:
How is Gary feeling @Daisys and Diamonds?
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he has been really good, thank you
naughterly walking short distances with out the walker, the best he has walked for a long time
his son came to visit yesterday, he's doing it tough after Sue's passing
Gary was just so tired after and had a very early night after a lovely big fresh salad (and packet frozen fish) for dinner and back into the weatbix and fruit and youghurt for breakfast
like every other family in Wanganui im taking a huge load to the laundrette shortly, its been raining for about 6 weeks and although its sometimes sunny nothing is drying
they have those huge dryers that dry really fast
 
Great news @Daisys and Diamonds. Are you feeling back to yourself now too? It’s hard when our loved ones are in the hospital. Gary’s hospital stay had to be so scary for you.
 
Calliecake said:
Great news @Daisys and Diamonds. Are you feeling back to yourself now too? It’s hard when our loved ones are in the hospital. Gary’s hospital stay had to be so scary for you.
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im out of sorts
i have no patients, i cry at the drop of a hate and i yell when the cats get under my feet :confused:
im thinking this too shell pass
 
I’m sorry @Daisys and Diamonds, It will pass. It’s from all the stress you’ve been under with Gary’s hospital stay, the worry about him being okay. It all takes a toll. You were focused him. Things have settled down a little with Gary, now it’s all hitting you. Unfortunately it happens like this for a lot of people. Your strong, you got thru all the hard stuff, you can finally breathe a little and then bam, it hits you. It’s okay to feel like you’re falling apart a little now. You will feel like yourself again soon. You aren’t alone. Sending hugs, Callie
 
Daisys and Diamonds said:
he has been really good, thank you
naughterly walking short distances with out the walker, the best he has walked for a long time
his son came to visit yesterday, he's doing it tough after Sue's passing
Gary was just so tired after and had a very early night after a lovely big fresh salad (and packet frozen fish) for dinner and back into the weatbix and fruit and youghurt for breakfast
like every other family in Wanganui im taking a huge load to the laundrette shortly, its been raining for about 6 weeks and although its sometimes sunny nothing is drying
they have those huge dryers that dry really fast
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So happy to hear Gary is doing better!
 
Daisys and Diamonds said:
im out of sorts
i have no patients, i cry at the drop of a hate and i yell when the cats get under my feet :confused:
im thinking this too shell pass
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Burn out is REAL! Caregiving is exhausting. Take care of yourself and rest as much as you can. xoxo
 
junebug17 said:
So glad to hear that Gary is doing better @Daisys and Diamonds - you've been through a lot recently and what you're experiencing is a natural response to the stress and worry of the past few weeks. Be gentle with yourself and try to rest and relax when you can. Hugs!
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thank you

today he seems to have woken up on the wrong side of the bed
sigh
but i made beef (vensision) stroganoff in the slow cooker over night - you should smell our house - we need smell-o-vision ! i just put the mushrooms and the sake in
 
Calliecake said:
I’m sorry @Daisys and Diamonds, It will pass. It’s from all the stress you’ve been under with Gary’s hospital stay, the worry about him being okay. It all takes a toll. You were focused him. Things have settled down a little with Gary, now it’s all hitting you. Unfortunately it happens like this for a lot of people. Your strong, you got thru all the hard stuff, you can finally breathe a little and then bam, it hits you. It’s okay to feel like you’re falling apart a little now. You will feel like yourself again soon. You aren’t alone. Sending hugs, Callie
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thank you
and also dear @rcjtraveler and @junebug17 and @canuk-gal
the wet weather isnt helping, we have such lovely weather here (4th most temperate climate in the world-dont ask me who has the top 3 places??
) but for a couple of months in the dead of winter it rains and rains , and the rest of the country has had some awful flooding and we have been fine, but the rain every day is getting everyone down, its heavy rain, i even hear the birds complaining say nothing of the cats
now i have a score throat
apart from covid neither of us have been sick for years and years, (Lkie at least 7) at work we wash our hands all day long, we have ventilation with the doors open all day and we have a big high counter between us and the customers
ive forgotten what its like to be miserable with flu and colds
 
Glad to hear that he is doing so much better! The stress for both of you has been exhausting so no wonder everyone is out of sorts. Here’s hoping for better and brighter days ahead for both of you!
 
Daisys and Diamonds said:
thank you
and also dear @rcjtraveler and @junebug17 and @canuk-gal
the wet weather isnt helping, we have such lovely weather here (4th most temperate climate in the world-dont ask me who has the top 3 places??
) but for a couple of months in the dead of winter it rains and rains , and the rest of the country has had some awful flooding and we have been fine, but the rain every day is getting everyone down, its heavy rain, i even hear the birds complaining say nothing of the cats
now i have a score throat
apart from covid neither of us have been sick for years and years, (Lkie at least 7) at work we wash our hands all day long, we have ventilation with the doors open all day and we have a big high counter between us and the customers
ive forgotten what its like to be miserable with flu and colds
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Fatigue and low immunity--virus and bacteria strike! Germs are germy and bugs bug us to say the least. But the sun always rises. Soon You'll be back to your nonsickness selves for years and years......
 
Daisys and Diamonds said:
im out of sorts
i have no patients, i cry at the drop of a hate and i yell when the cats get under my feet :confused:
im thinking this too shell pass
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:kiss2:Dais,
If you haven't already, get a pillow from your room and take it somewhere to scream into. Give a once over if you're feeling slappy. Sounds crazy. It works. When you're all screamed out you can nap on it. Multipurpose!
You're doing your level best and that's enough. Remember that.
 
I have not been keeping up with hurricane season considering all that's going on. I'll try to do better.

I visited family last week, spent some quality time with my oldest brother, and it was illuminating. He's not in hospice, but its leading in that direction. The good, his pain is more under control. But he's maybe 130lbs if that.

After all these years I'm maybe suffering from a bit of disbelief. All of us (siblings) had a very honest talk. Like out in the open no holds barred talk. They never visited, really barely called me except maybe on my birthday or when someone was potentially dying. (seriously not even a joke) and they had their own nucleus, football Sundays, twice a month dinners, so on. They all live in the same area so it makes sense.

When my middle brother got sick, and even my sister, of course I went, my mom asked me to. Of course I contributed whatever was needed because I had it. But they never asked for me, never asked for my time. That hurt you know?

My oldest brother didn't ask for me to come but he said "I'm glad you came" and that meant so much to me.

Anyway maybe its absence that makes the heart fonder, I don't know, the conversation still feels surreal. According to what I heard from them its much more about they were in awe and a little jealous because according to them
"you took chances that we wouldn't."
"you had your shit together and you went for it."
"you did much better than any of us."
"it didn't seem like you missed us."

Little did they know I was scared most of the time thanks to my psychologist, I forced myself to live.

Perception is something else.

My oldest brother said I had such a calming energy and I told him that I have to work at it daily. He smiled and said "it shows".

Last night he went in the hospital again, dehydrated, agitated, combative, based on what his wife said sounds like dementia almost. His poor wife is dealing with a lot. I just hope when he does go he's in as little pain as possible.
 
Aw...it sounds like you kids really had a "come to Jesus moment" for lack of a better saying. I'm so glad you were able to air your
feelings and them likewise. We all make assumptions about family members instead of reaching out and asking them what they're
thinking. I hope this brings you and your siblings closer. It takes work (on both sides) to stay involved with family that doesn't live near.

How are you feeling, @Arcadian ? I know this must be a difficult time for you. I hope you are relying on professional help to get you through.

Dont worry about Hurricane season if you're not up to it. (Sometimes, distractions are helpful, though.) I know it's a lot of work,
and we do appreciate it, but please take care of yourself first.

Sending strength and comfort at this time. I'm so sorry about your brother.
 
tyty333 said:
Aw...it sounds like you kids really had a "come to Jesus moment" for lack of a better saying. I'm so glad you were able to air your
feelings and them likewise. We all make assumptions about family members instead of reaching out and asking them what they're
thinking. I hope this brings you and your siblings closer. It takes work (on both sides) to stay involved with family that doesn't live near.

How are you feeling, @Arcadian ? I know this must be a difficult time for you. I hope you are relying on professional help to get you through.

Dont worry about Hurricane season if you're not up to it. (Sometimes, distractions are helpful, though.) I know it's a lot of work,
and we do appreciate it, but please take care of yourself first.

Sending strength and comfort at this time. I'm so sorry about your brother.
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