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I posted a while back (before the thread split) asking questions about day care. Most of the people who replied I think are active on this thread, so I wanted to let you know how it turned out. First off thanks everyone who shared their experience with me. So, after lots and lots of thought, I am working part time from home through the fall and then will be a SAHM for a while. The job I have now is not my dream job, and it is not giving me enough mental stimulation, social interaction, career development or compensation to really make it worthwhile to put him in daycare. When he is a bit older and ready for preschool, I hope to resume my career part time with a more interesting job. I know that is hard to find, especially in this economy, so I thought long and hard about my decision. The timing is good with work because the project I work on is wrapping up this fall anyway. I had planned to get staffed on a new project, but instead told my boss that I want to finish up this project and then will resign. He was glad that I am going to finish the project up, and is fine with me working part time from home, as long as work gets done. So, I'm short on sleep and "me time", but I'm able to be home with DS during the days. It's going pretty well! Even though being a SAHM is very challenging on some days, and sometimes I feel like "I went to college and grad school for this??" most of the time I am really happy with the choice.
And now a question for you all about naps. So we are following the Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child book and things are going very well for night sleeping. I also read Babywise, No Cry Sleep Solution, and am reading Baby Whisperer right now, following HSH,HC most closely. Luckily the experts seem to agree on some things! My son is 3 months old and exclusively breastfed. He has a loooong feed around 7 pm, followed by a story and lullaby, then sleeps in his crib. Sometimes he has a hard time settling down and I do BF him more in that instance. This may be a bad habit, but it seems like nothing else works to calm him down and he may actually be tanking up for his long sleep stretch, so I don't mind feeding him. He is not sleeping thru the night yet but goes to sleep pretty well and then is up 1 or 2 times in 12 hours for a quick feed. I'm pretty happy with his night sleeping.
Trouble is naps. We do eat-play-sleep (or EASY) during the day. I am putting him down in his crib at the first signs of drowsiness, and trying to keep him up for no more than 1-2 hours at a time as suggested by most of the experts. But, he fights and fights having a nap in his crib - or else sleeps just 10 or 20 min and wakes up screaming. I am OK with letting him cry a little bit, but he just gets himself all worked up and does not seem to settle himself down at all. Then it is time for the next feed and he hasn't had a nap. My mom said I was the same way as a baby, and slept very little during the day.
I can get him to nap quite well in his swing, though, or in the stroller while we're walking. If we stop walking, or I stop the swing, he wakes right up screaming. I know the motion is a bad habit, but I've tried and tried for still naps in the crib and am just not having success. I;ve decided that naps in the swing are better than no naps at all, but do you all think I am setting myself up for bad habits? Any suggestions?
I posted a while back (before the thread split) asking questions about day care. Most of the people who replied I think are active on this thread, so I wanted to let you know how it turned out. First off thanks everyone who shared their experience with me. So, after lots and lots of thought, I am working part time from home through the fall and then will be a SAHM for a while. The job I have now is not my dream job, and it is not giving me enough mental stimulation, social interaction, career development or compensation to really make it worthwhile to put him in daycare. When he is a bit older and ready for preschool, I hope to resume my career part time with a more interesting job. I know that is hard to find, especially in this economy, so I thought long and hard about my decision. The timing is good with work because the project I work on is wrapping up this fall anyway. I had planned to get staffed on a new project, but instead told my boss that I want to finish up this project and then will resign. He was glad that I am going to finish the project up, and is fine with me working part time from home, as long as work gets done. So, I'm short on sleep and "me time", but I'm able to be home with DS during the days. It's going pretty well! Even though being a SAHM is very challenging on some days, and sometimes I feel like "I went to college and grad school for this??" most of the time I am really happy with the choice.
And now a question for you all about naps. So we are following the Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child book and things are going very well for night sleeping. I also read Babywise, No Cry Sleep Solution, and am reading Baby Whisperer right now, following HSH,HC most closely. Luckily the experts seem to agree on some things! My son is 3 months old and exclusively breastfed. He has a loooong feed around 7 pm, followed by a story and lullaby, then sleeps in his crib. Sometimes he has a hard time settling down and I do BF him more in that instance. This may be a bad habit, but it seems like nothing else works to calm him down and he may actually be tanking up for his long sleep stretch, so I don't mind feeding him. He is not sleeping thru the night yet but goes to sleep pretty well and then is up 1 or 2 times in 12 hours for a quick feed. I'm pretty happy with his night sleeping.
Trouble is naps. We do eat-play-sleep (or EASY) during the day. I am putting him down in his crib at the first signs of drowsiness, and trying to keep him up for no more than 1-2 hours at a time as suggested by most of the experts. But, he fights and fights having a nap in his crib - or else sleeps just 10 or 20 min and wakes up screaming. I am OK with letting him cry a little bit, but he just gets himself all worked up and does not seem to settle himself down at all. Then it is time for the next feed and he hasn't had a nap. My mom said I was the same way as a baby, and slept very little during the day.
I can get him to nap quite well in his swing, though, or in the stroller while we're walking. If we stop walking, or I stop the swing, he wakes right up screaming. I know the motion is a bad habit, but I've tried and tried for still naps in the crib and am just not having success. I;ve decided that naps in the swing are better than no naps at all, but do you all think I am setting myself up for bad habits? Any suggestions?