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[ruby59]

Surely you jest? I'm 64 and m husband is 66, if I ever was that insecure in this almost 30 year marriage Ruby then I should not be in it. If my husband cheated on me then so be it, it's over, but he can cheat on me at midnight or a 6:00 a.m. call from Israel he needs to do at the office, when he goes to Costco, my husband had employees in the middle east, he traveled with one woman to Israel several times, but I know my husband loves me and our life and love etc is wonderful, and I am CONFIDENT in my self Ruby, if my husband was the cheater type then I wouldn't have married him. If I had low self esteem and felt insecure in my relationship then it's not a good relationship..

If I get to the point were it's 3 to 1 women to men in the adult home then she can have him, he's not worth my time.

Well then I guess we have different feelings for our husbands. I would fight for mine.

I volunteer at senior community centers, and I see what goes on there. The few men there, whether they are married or not, are eye candy to the many widows and divorcees looking for another husband.

I have overheard the conversation of women who have been married to their spouses for 50 years or more and trust them implicitly. And it is not their husbands they are worried about but the overt actions of some of the women there.

 

[ruby59]

I'm waiting for Ruby to say "Well boys will be boys" and she feels she is protecting her family by not allowing her husband to dine with a woman. Its such backwards thinking in my mind. No where in the Bible does it state that you can't have dinner with a member of the opposite sex. If Pence feels having dinner with a member of the opposite sex is being disrespectful to his wife then maybe he is in the wrong job.

I'm really not trying to be disrespectful to Ruby or Red but I see this as an insult to both men and women. And we wonder why many times we are not seen as equals in business. I'm sure my thinking comes from years of traveling with men in business as my husband has traveled for years with women in business. I can't imagine either of us ever being upset over the other one having business dinner with a member of the opposite sex.

I have a SIL who has the same opinions as Red and Ruby on this topic and I can honestly say we will never agree when it comes to this subject.

Tekate, I view this very much the way you do.

If you read my posts, you will see just the opposite.

Do you think I would condone a husband who cheated one me? Not on your life, no way. I do not need him bringing home and giving me some disease. And I could never be with a man I did not respect.

As far as evening business deals, in my husband's work all business is conducted during the day in the conference room.

For evening functions, spouses are encouraged to attend.

 

[iLander]

Well then I guess we have different feelings for our husbands. I would fight for mine.

I volunteer at senior community centers, and I see what goes on there. The few men there, whether they are married or not, are eye candy to the many widows and divorcees looking for another husband.

I have overheard the conversation of women who have been married to their spouses for 50 years or more and trust them implicitly. And it is not their husbands they are worried about but the overt actions of some of the women there.

There you go, being a Troll again Ruby. You're implying that Callie would not "fight for her husband", that he is probably fooling around.
I'm calling you out on your bull sh*t, Ruby.
Troll.

 

[Calliecake]

Callie - I do not find it hard to keep from being disrespectful to you for having a different opinion than mine. So why is it so hard for you to do the same?

Redwood, How am I being disrespectful to you? We have a different opinions, no surprise there. This is not the first time you have tired to say I have acted disrespectfully. The last time you stated that I was being critical of certain posters parenting styles, when I did no such thing. I feel some of the views you and Ruby share do nothing to help move women forward. I want to see women treated equal in the work place. I would love to see more women occupy upper management positions and be paid equally. I'm not about to apologize for that.

Ruby, My husband's position requires him to travel both domestic and internationally. He has colleagues who happen to be women and yes attending dinner meetings is part of the job. Quite frankly if he ever said he refused to attending dinner meeting because his wife isn't invited, he would probably be without a job. I do not in any way feel threatened because my husband attends dinner meetings with women.

 

[ruby59]

Callie no one said you should feel that way.

I am just saying how it is handled where my husband works.

I am just speaking from a different generation than yours. My way worked for me and yours does for you. It is all good.

How old is Pence, I have to look.

Is he speaking from the bible or just the times he was brought up in.

As you know I am speaking from the ladder.

And I will be honest. Are you familiar with the orthodox Jewish religion. I ended up in a very religious Hebrew schools because the public schools were unsafe.

And that is one of the reasons I married outside my religion. Way too oppressive toward women.

 

[redwood66]

Redwood, How am I being disrespectful to you? We have a different opinions, no surprise there. This is not the first time you have tired to say I have acted disrespectfully. The last time you stated that I was being critical of certain posters parenting styles, when I did no such thing. I feel some of the views you and Ruby share do nothing to help move women forward. I want to see women treated equal in the work place. I would love to see more women occupy upper management positions and be paid equally. I'm not about to apologize for that.

Callie please accept my apology because I just realized I had a totally dyslexic moment in reading your post and responding to it.

You typed

I'm really not trying to be disrespectful to Ruby or Red but I see this as an insult to both men and women. '

But my brain read

I'm really trying not to be disrespectful....

I am very sorry for this miscommunication and it is entirely my fault. I hope you can forgive me.

 

[Tekate]

Well then I guess we have different feelings for our husbands. I would fight for mine.

I volunteer at senior community centers, and I see what goes on there. The few men there, whether they are married or not, are eye candy to the many widows and divorcees looking for another husband.

I have overheard the conversation of women who have been married to their spouses for 50 years or more and trust them implicitly. And it is not their husbands they are worried about but the overt actions of some of the women there.

I doubt that we have different feelings for our husbands, but I would say we have different feelings about our self worth and what we deserve from our husbands.

If some woman is hitting on my husband he has a mouth and he can speak up for himself, I'm not his mother, I'm his life partner. My husband and I both know that a good relationship requires trust..

 

[Calliecake]

No problem Red. I got defense when I should have been kinder.

Ruby, I wish I was from a different generation. Unfortunately I am old!
I traveled often for work when I was in my early thirties and there were many times I was the only wowan at business dinners. When I was in my late thirties I took a job as an executive assistant in hopes that taking a less stressful job would help with tryjng to get pregnant.

 

[redwood66]

No problem Red. I got defense when I should have been kinder.

No your post was just fine. We can disagree and still be ok.