Black Jade
Brilliant_Rock
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- Aug 21, 2008
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Yes, I am SO staying out of this one.
My guess is that money is not the real issue here at all.
I never let my own mom pay for anything, even if she invites us out. It's a matter of pride not to, because, as stated above, she made all these sacrifices during my childhood and after, including paying for the college ed that allows me to have money now. Also, I take pride in being different from my mooching brothers and sister, who always have my mom pay for everything though they are all in their 40's and 50's and then complain their heads off about her. My husband would also die before we let my mom pay her own part of the check in a restaurant. We also always pay for everything for his mother.
However, our mothers were always there for us, including now--and neither of them is running around with what sounds like a third or fourth relationship that is not our other parents, and anyway we are immigrants from another culture where deep respect for parents is a core value and also we belong to a religion which we deeply believe that repeats over and over again to honor your father and mother.
So my experience probably doesn't apply.
My guess is that money is not the real issue here at all.
I never let my own mom pay for anything, even if she invites us out. It's a matter of pride not to, because, as stated above, she made all these sacrifices during my childhood and after, including paying for the college ed that allows me to have money now. Also, I take pride in being different from my mooching brothers and sister, who always have my mom pay for everything though they are all in their 40's and 50's and then complain their heads off about her. My husband would also die before we let my mom pay her own part of the check in a restaurant. We also always pay for everything for his mother.
However, our mothers were always there for us, including now--and neither of them is running around with what sounds like a third or fourth relationship that is not our other parents, and anyway we are immigrants from another culture where deep respect for parents is a core value and also we belong to a religion which we deeply believe that repeats over and over again to honor your father and mother.
So my experience probably doesn't apply.
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