WishfulThinking
Brilliant_Rock
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I never thought I would be posting this, but I am so excited and I don''t have many outlets given the circumstances. WE ARE ELOPING!!
FI and I are eloping to be married at City Hall in San Francisco on October 28th, 2009.
This is one of the most exciting things I have ever done, and FI agrees with it completely. Both of us have been really stressed out trying to plan a wedding for this Spring when so much was up in the air about our marriage rights in CA after the election on Nov. 4th, in which that right may be revoked. It''s a scary feeling, and one I in particular have become increasingly depressed [and admittedly a little angry] about in the last few weeks. I never thought I would feel this strongly about it, but there I was upset and crying too much for my own personal comfort.
Right now our plans are a complete secret from everyone. We booked appointments to get a marriage license in City Hall with a Civil Ceremony following directly after. We are really lucky because we got the LAST marriage license appointment available that day, as well as one of the last ceremony spots. Due to increasing demands for marriage licenses and ceremonies right now [geez, I wonder why?
] our spots are later than the usual times they''re open, which is sort of neat. We also booked flights! I got a call last week that my dress has come in and FI already has hers, so we will bring them and wear them for the ceremony, which I am happy about.
It does feel sort of insane right now, especially with it being a secret, but it is absolutely the right thing to do for us. Not telling our families is going to be hard, but we will share the news with them and a few close friends after the election. That way our parents and siblings will not be unnecessarily sad for us if the marriage ban passes, and know that everything in our own circumstances has been taken care of. We plan to have a huge, perfect vow renewal and proper reception sometime in the future when we can really afford to do it right, whether that be in 10 years or in 20... who knows, and we won''t have to worry about the legality of it at that time [although I certainly HOPE that in 10 or 20 years it will be legal and uncontested, finally
].
I know our entire life tends to be a political issue for people, but right now it just feels like we''re *people*, doing the best we can to do the right thing for *us* during a really rough and complicated time. We just want to feel like we have a little bit of control over what happens to us and our own future instead of standing by feeling helpless and scared waiting for other people to make that decision for us. It''s a cr*ppy feeling, for sure. I am beyond excited to be fortunate enough to have the means to seize the day and take matters into our own hands.
FI and I are eloping to be married at City Hall in San Francisco on October 28th, 2009.
This is one of the most exciting things I have ever done, and FI agrees with it completely. Both of us have been really stressed out trying to plan a wedding for this Spring when so much was up in the air about our marriage rights in CA after the election on Nov. 4th, in which that right may be revoked. It''s a scary feeling, and one I in particular have become increasingly depressed [and admittedly a little angry] about in the last few weeks. I never thought I would feel this strongly about it, but there I was upset and crying too much for my own personal comfort.
Right now our plans are a complete secret from everyone. We booked appointments to get a marriage license in City Hall with a Civil Ceremony following directly after. We are really lucky because we got the LAST marriage license appointment available that day, as well as one of the last ceremony spots. Due to increasing demands for marriage licenses and ceremonies right now [geez, I wonder why?
It does feel sort of insane right now, especially with it being a secret, but it is absolutely the right thing to do for us. Not telling our families is going to be hard, but we will share the news with them and a few close friends after the election. That way our parents and siblings will not be unnecessarily sad for us if the marriage ban passes, and know that everything in our own circumstances has been taken care of. We plan to have a huge, perfect vow renewal and proper reception sometime in the future when we can really afford to do it right, whether that be in 10 years or in 20... who knows, and we won''t have to worry about the legality of it at that time [although I certainly HOPE that in 10 or 20 years it will be legal and uncontested, finally
I know our entire life tends to be a political issue for people, but right now it just feels like we''re *people*, doing the best we can to do the right thing for *us* during a really rough and complicated time. We just want to feel like we have a little bit of control over what happens to us and our own future instead of standing by feeling helpless and scared waiting for other people to make that decision for us. It''s a cr*ppy feeling, for sure. I am beyond excited to be fortunate enough to have the means to seize the day and take matters into our own hands.
, that doesn''t negate the fact that your marriage is valid when you get married.
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