Now my SO may have cancer too
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I am so sorry to hear of this latest development.
I hope that you can get answers quickly... and hopefully a treatment plan to suit.
I hope that you can get answers quickly... and hopefully a treatment plan to suit.
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Sending good healing energy your way Kenny.
I'm sorry for all the stress in your life right now. I hope there is a treatment option. Kenny, please know that I've listened to your appeal not to talk about things, but I still care and think of you and your SO often and will continue to do so. Take care.
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I so very sorry, Kenny. I am not here as often but seeing the shocking news on top of the other struggles you experienced lately is just too much. Don't forget to take care of yourself and take some time off to just chill and take a break. ((Hugs))
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Kenny, I'm so sorry.
You've been through so much and, as others have noted, its made harder by your SO limiting your involvement and resisting your attempts to help him.
Your SO sounds like a man with a clear self-image of who he thinks he is supposed to be; strong, capable and independent. For such a person, poor health can be 'unacceptable', and the push-back against accepting the reality can surface in less-than-attractive ways. Unfortunately, this can result in a lot of avoidable hurt and pain inflicted on loved ones.
Try to focus on what you can control. As Matata and others suggested, try to look after yourself. Take the dogs for a walk, listen to favorite music, or pick up your guitar. Such things won't change reality or miraculously lift your spirits, but they might allow you a bit of distance from the situation so that your stress level will decrease somewhat. It might also help with the easier-said-than-done 'accepting the things we cannot change'.
Your SO is so fortunate to have a partner who wants what's best for him. Your concern and support are blessings and traits that not every one receives from their partner. I'm sorry that your SO has, what seem to be, lifelong traits that make it hard for him to accept help. I'm not criticizing your partner; being independent is not necessarily a 'bad' thing, I'm just noting that its easier for all involved if a person is able to acknowledge when help is required and accept it from loved ones.
I'm sending positive thoughts and hope for good health for your SO.
I'm sending you hugs, positive thoughts and wishes for inner strength and peace. You're a big part of the PS family, and you can count me among the many others who care about you.
Hugs
You've been through so much and, as others have noted, its made harder by your SO limiting your involvement and resisting your attempts to help him.
Your SO sounds like a man with a clear self-image of who he thinks he is supposed to be; strong, capable and independent. For such a person, poor health can be 'unacceptable', and the push-back against accepting the reality can surface in less-than-attractive ways. Unfortunately, this can result in a lot of avoidable hurt and pain inflicted on loved ones.
Try to focus on what you can control. As Matata and others suggested, try to look after yourself. Take the dogs for a walk, listen to favorite music, or pick up your guitar. Such things won't change reality or miraculously lift your spirits, but they might allow you a bit of distance from the situation so that your stress level will decrease somewhat. It might also help with the easier-said-than-done 'accepting the things we cannot change'.
Your SO is so fortunate to have a partner who wants what's best for him. Your concern and support are blessings and traits that not every one receives from their partner. I'm sorry that your SO has, what seem to be, lifelong traits that make it hard for him to accept help. I'm not criticizing your partner; being independent is not necessarily a 'bad' thing, I'm just noting that its easier for all involved if a person is able to acknowledge when help is required and accept it from loved ones.
I'm sending positive thoughts and hope for good health for your SO.
I'm sending you hugs, positive thoughts and wishes for inner strength and peace. You're a big part of the PS family, and you can count me among the many others who care about you.
Hugs
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I'm so terribly sorry to read this Kenny 
I'm afraid I'm late in seeing your other thread here. When it rains it pours... I very much hope you and your SO are able to find shelter soon. I'm so glad you feel comfortable asking your friends here for support! I'll be thinking of you both today
I'm afraid I'm late in seeing your other thread here. When it rains it pours... I very much hope you and your SO are able to find shelter soon. I'm so glad you feel comfortable asking your friends here for support! I'll be thinking of you both today
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So many hugs to you guys.
I also wanted to say, sometimes its nice to vent. You don't have to take anyones advice, but getting things off your chest instead of holding them in is very cathartic. And don't feel bad for not taking advice either. None of us are in your situation; its easy to say do this/that without being there. All of it heartfelt and positive, but please don't feel like you can't post because of that.
Now - onto the wine
I also wanted to say, sometimes its nice to vent. You don't have to take anyones advice, but getting things off your chest instead of holding them in is very cathartic. And don't feel bad for not taking advice either. None of us are in your situation; its easy to say do this/that without being there. All of it heartfelt and positive, but please don't feel like you can't post because of that.
Now - onto the wine
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Kenny, I'm so sorry. My heart goes out to you. I wish there was something I could do to help you and your SO. Hopefully what they are seeing on the scans are cysts. Please take good care of yourself and please know we are here for you.
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So sorry to hear about this recent development on top of everything else you and your SO are dealing with. I can't imagine how frustrated you must be under the circumstances. You can't control your SO, but must remember to do what is necessary to help yourself.
Sending positive vibes to both of you and his mom.
Sending positive vibes to both of you and his mom.
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I am so sorry. Hoping that it is benign and easily removed. You and your SO are in my thoughts.
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Kenny - I'm so sorry to hear this latest news. I hope - against hope - that it turns out not to be as dire as it could be. And as so many others have said, please take care of yourself through all this.
It's nice to see that you still have your sense of humor!
Telephone, that'll only last me one day.
It's nice to see that you still have your sense of humor!
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Last year I had a surprise pancreatic tumor. I immediately thought I had 6 weeks to live. Luckily I had surgery, it was cut away and life is good! Let's hope it's contained, can be removed and next year we can celebrate another year of life! I'm at 1 year June 1.
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You are inspirational and so is your story. Thank you so much for sharing something so personal, AprilBaby. I wish you continued good health.
Big hugs,
Deb
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