zoebartlett
Super_Ideal_Rock
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missy|1441020765|3921518 said:Zoe|1441015175|3921503 said:I used to get asked about when we were having kids, but it's stopped pretty much now. I think people know by now that it's not going to happen. I love kids, I work with them all day long, I love my friends' and family's kids, but I don't have the burning desire to have one of my own.
I will say though that I wasn't really prepared for what that meant in terms of maintaining my friendships. That's been really hard to adjust to. I'd love to make new friends but it's hard to do. I don't know if it's because people feel settled in their lives and don't feel the need to add to their list of friends or if it's something else.
Yes this is so true. I had a few very close friends who once they had kids despite my efforts and theirs we just grew apart. It is hard when you are at a different stage of life than others to maintain those relationships. They are busy with children and a new way of life and well life just becomes hectic, busy, stressful and full of other things that take (rightly so) center stage. Just the way it is. Sad but a fact.
Yeah, it's frustrating. I've been long-time friends with people who I used to chat with often and see a few times per year (we live one state apart, probably just over an hour's drive from one another). Life gets busy, yada yada yada...now our friendship has been reduced to the occasional text and seeing each other mayyyybe once a year or once every two years. Maybe I'm just plain wrong in feeling a bit hurt by that, and I really do try not to take it personally. I don't put pressure on my friends at all, and if they begin messages with "I'm so sorry I haven't kept in touch...," I'm quick to tell them they don't need to apologize. I get it, like I said. It still stings though.
Missy, if I lived closer, I'd totally ask you to hang out.